What's the Best Way To Become Less Self-Centered?

[Sunstone]

Suppose you wanted to become less self-centered. What would be the best way to go about doing that? Why?

Does being in pain make you more or make you less self-centered?

Does being in love make you more or make you less self-centered?

Does doing something you are passionate about make you more or make you less self-centered?

Does being true to yourself make you more or make you less self-centered?

 

[UnTheist]

Don't buy luxury furniture...

 

[angellous_evangellous]

Suppose you wanted to become less self-centered. What would be the best way to go about doing that? Why?

Serve other people.

 

[Ringer]

Suppose you wanted to become less self-centered. What would be the best way to go about doing that? Why?

Go through suffering. When you are at your weakest is when you can find your greatest strength and realizing that the chaos of this world can be a humbling experience.

 

[lunamoth]

What Daddy said.

 

[Aqualung]

I think the best way is to stop talking. If you're no longer talking (and thereby demanding that others pay attention to you) you will have much more time to pay attention to others and figure out about them.

Does being in pain make you more or make you less self-centered?

More

Does being in love make you more or make you less self-centered?

It depends. It could be either.

Does doing something you are passionate about make you more or make you less self-centered?

Neither.

Does being true to yourself make you more or make you less self-centered?

Depends.

 

[Hema]

Realize that nothing in the world is ours not even our bodies because we cannot take anything when we die. Realize that we are all brothers and sisters in spirit and therefore equal.

 

[Willamena]

To me, part of "love" means putting yourself in relationship with an object ("not-me"). If you put yourself in relationship with something, you and it become as a unit. Your relationship with another person means you will consider them as well as yourself in all your decisions. Your relationship with your environment means that you will consider what's best for both in all your actions. Your relationship with your creator means that you consider all of creation, including you, in all you think and are.

So I would say that understanding the relationship is the means to less selfishness, and love will come naturally.

 

[Jaymes]

Suppose you wanted to become less self-centered. What would be the best way to go about doing that? Why?

Getting to know lots of other people helps, I believe.

Does being in pain make you more or make you less self-centered?

It definitely makes me more self-centered. When I'm in pain I'm just thinking about how I want painkillers, now.

Does being in love make you more or make you less self-centered?

It can go either way.

Does doing something you are passionate about make you more or make you less self-centered?

Again, it can go either way. Depends on what you're passionate about.

Does being true to yourself make you more or make you less self-centered?

Neither.

 

[Hema]

To me, part of "love" means putting yourself in relationship with an object ("not-me"). If you put yourself in relationship with something, you and it become as a unit. Your relationship with another person means you will consider them as well as yourself in all your decisions. Your relationship with your environment means that you will consider what's best for both in all your actions. Your relationship with your creator means that you consider all of creation, including you, in all you think and are.

So I would say that understanding the relationship is the means to less selfishness, and love will come naturally.

"Vasudaiva Katumbakum" - The whole world is one family. :yes:

We are all one.

 

[Willamena]

We are all one.

...in the Circle of Life. (~The Lion King)

 

[Random]

There must be a difference acknowleged between centre-ing oneself as in thu meditation or ascetic discipline and the cultural connotation of being self-centred. The latter is riddled with unnecesary guilt-complexes and the former relates to making a system of control for ones mind-body dynamic.

 

[Comprehend]

Serve other people.

that's the answer.

 

[jamaesi]

Help others.

This reminds me of this video I saw a bit ago... Teenage Affluenza.

 

[fullyveiled muslimah]

Islam teaches that serving others, spending excess wealth, fasting to feel the sting of hunger, paying zakat (a tax manditory on muslims with wealth), all help one to become more concerned with things beyond themselves. It takes away the excessive love for the wealth of this world, and places value on things that mean more, like human life, and the maintenance of every human in this world at a reasonable standard, as well as take care of the world itself along with its other life. These things are the ultimate ibadah (worship) to Allah.

 

[Reverend Rick]

Suppose you wanted to become less self-centered. What would be the best way to go about doing that?

Volunteer time. Why? You will achieve a different perspective of life.

Does being in pain make you more or make you less self-centered?

More

Does being in love make you more or make you less self-centered?

Less

Does doing something you are passionate about make you more or make you less self-centered?

Neither

Does being true to yourself make you more or make you less self-centered?

Neither

 

[MdmSzdWhtGuy]

Suppose you wanted to become less self-centered. What would be the best way to go about doing that?

I'd recommend you spend more of your thoughts and time focussed on me. Sure cure.

B.

 

[YmirGF]

There must be a difference acknowleged between centre-ing oneself as in thu meditation or ascetic discipline and the cultural connotation of being self-centred. The latter is riddled with unnecesary guilt-complexes and the former relates to making a system of control for ones mind-body dynamic.

True... but A_E hit it first so I have to agree with him too. Then Willamena trotted in and I like her answer... and then Hemo steamrolled through on her bliss caravan and I lover her answer also.

I think what Random Godlike Conor is trying to say is focus on Oneness and less on egotism. The way you do this is through compassion and as Aqualung astutely said by listening to others... but more so, listening to that voice behind the rattle of your own instatiable thoughts processes through which you create the world you experience. That voice may not always be right, but it will be right more often than your egotistical self can ever hope to.

 

[Smoke]

Isn't worrying about whether one is self-centered rather self-centered in itself?

 

[Comet]

Yeah, more Uncle Sunstone fun!!!!!!!!!

Suppose you wanted to become less self-centered. What would be the best way to go about doing that? Why?

Destroy yourself

Does being in pain make you more or make you less self-centered?

Either, depends on what type of person you are

Does being in love make you more or make you less self-centered?

Either, depends on what you are in love with and why

Does doing something you are passionate about make you more or make you less self-centered?

Depends on what it is you are passionate about: A day at the spa or a day volunteering at the hospital, etc....

Does being true to yourself make you more or make you less self-centered?

Let me ask somebody with split-personalities and I'll get back to you on that....