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Recalling your Crushes

Daemon Sophic

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I thought it would be interesting for us to each try to recall the names of various crushes and perhaps a note or two about each, as far back as we can remember.
Growing up I was the tall, skinny, shy, intelligent guy. So I had lots of crushes, but no girlfriends. :(

This thread is not for naming girlfriends/boyfriends, or for husbands/wives. It is simply about those who we have “admired from afar” (now that I type that, I should point out that I’ve never been a stalker) :confused: For the “Ones who got away”.

So….strolling back into ancient childhood….

Elizabeth - 1st grade. Not so much a crush, as a cool girl in the neighborhood, who could *gasp* ride a bicycle! :eek: We hung out, but I was too young to feel anything but friendship.

Toni - 2nd and 3rd grade - pretty girl from school. Mostly I think I openly stared at her, and/or got tongue-tied around her. I was given first choice of partners for a school presentation dance, so I chose her :oops::D. But she was far from thrilled, having to dance with a :confused: boy.

Cherie - 4th grade. Emotions are definitely in play here, as well as fickleness of my crushes, so several others have slipped from my memory over the next few years.

Cynthia - 7th and 8th grade. Serious hormones at work by this stage, and she fit the bill.

Then through high-school there were 2 Cindy’s, Lisa, a Heather, and even a Zena. Then there was Melody. She was probably the first one I actually thought of in terms of Love. *sigh*. But she left town for college.

In college, there was Vickie - we met at my brother’s wedding (not a relative! :eek::rolleyes: Sheesh!).

Lastly, before meeting the lady who became my first wife, there was Eileen. :cool:
I feel there may be a couple that I’ve blanked on, but this list includes the more “significant” ones.


So. Others here who were shy guys (or gals), who can remember the names that you had crushes on over the years?
 

Estro Felino

Believer in free will
Premium Member
Sure...

Primary school.
Augusto. He had black hair, black eyes. Tall, handsome, smart. It was love at first sight. I used to think of him all the time...but he never noticed it, because I was very discrete.

Middle school: actually I still used to think of Augusto... I kinda liked another named Andrew, and Mirko (from catechism).

High school: I moved to another town. In the new school I met Carlo. He was so cute...once he smiled at me...and I blushed ....I almost fainted for the emotion.

University. Finally moved to a real, crowded university town. I kinda liked several guys at my university. At the dormitory I hopelessly fell in love with Giancarlo, and it was mutual because once he called me and told me that he liked me, obviously calling anonymously..through the interphone. I told him "you should tell me these things personally, face to face".

Well...I had to study and pass so many exams. We were from two different provincial towns.

But then I met other guys...with whom I had some love stories.
 

ChristineM

"Be strong", I whispered to my coffee.
Premium Member
I was really weird, I don't remember any crushes until my mid 30s. Tall and skinny, known as bean pole, always though of as stupid with looks i grew into, I though other kids were a pain in the *** as i am sure they thought the same about me. I couldn't wait to get home and play Romans or swim in the river, even milk the cows or muck out the cow sheds rather than be with other kids.

My first long term boyfriend didn't help much, there was just nothing there. Then i fell in love we married right after uni. Even that didn't began as a crush, more a meeting of minds, ideas and skills.

Getting on to middle age i began to notice some actors were really hot. And the occasional guy that i could fancy if i want otherwise taken.

Boring life but, i am glad to say, none of the teenage angst my eldest daughter has just run headlong into
 

Bathos Logos

Active Member
Carrie - Grade school. She was quirky and fun, had a slight snaggletooth situation - one of those that for some reason only make the person look cuter. Open to talking to me, but me too shy to do much of anything with that to any degree of effectiveness.

Marlee - High school. Unconventionally beautiful - if I had to try and pin her down, she looked sort of like a more homely (only as in less-mainstream-attractive) Zendaya. Personally, I'd class her above Zendaya. Super duper nice and kind, and contrary to my usual tendencies to attraction, she was wafer-thin and tall to boot. Also willing to talk to me, say hi in the halls and outside of school at neighborhood parks and at an ACT test we both happened to end up at... and me, again, too shy to do anything at all.

Angie - High school. There is absolutely no one I could relate this girl to, looks-wise, but she was also unconventionally beautiful (this is basically my way of saying I saw massive beauty there where others seemed to only see mundanity), super-straight-haired brunette. Also super duper kind, nice, super-smart and we studied together in math classes quite often. I actually think she started liking me, but I was too slow - she and some other goofball started "dating", and what was interesting was that when that cat got let out of the bag in class by her loud-mouthed new beau, she looked directly at me with what I could swear was apprehension or even shame of some small kind. I am nothing if not a putz.

Allison - High school, cheerleader - short, auburn hair with an amazing smile. She got sat right in front of me in German class at one point, and I have this weird thing about being more easily able to be completely myself with girls I figure I have absolutely no shot with whatsoever. And so we started joking around quite often, and I was able to help her with studying and whatnot. When papers got passed back through the row, she started goofing around and holding onto them to mess with me, and then when we had new assigned seats she was disappointed and said she'd miss me. Dummy me... I let all those signs slip right by, still figuring I had absolutely no chance, and only later put together what was going on.

I stopped having "crushes" at some point. It may have been partially due to the fact that I started getting lured into fake situations by attractive girls just trying to ultimately laugh at me. And then in a period where I had lost some weight and started working out a bunch, I had girls coming directly at me (even saying things about how good a father I would be!), though I had a girlfriend at the time. But later, when I gained a bit of the weight back, those same girls wanted nothing to do with me... one even looking like she was shiftily looking around trying to make sure she wasn't being seen talking to me when she bumped into me at the mall. I think I came to realize that you can't just crush on someone, try that out, and think that it's going to "work." There are too many factors, and you need to get to know someone too well before you accept them as beautiful in all categories. "Crushing" my way into a relationship started to seem dangerous - because there might be things I'd be willing to overlook because "They're my crush!"
 
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cladking

Well-Known Member
My first crush was Nicole in 4th grade. Being male and being a child I had no easy means to be sure she knew I was alive so I put a snowball in her ice cold notebook confident in the knowledge that as it warmed up in class she'd notice me. It was highly effective and I managed to avoid getting in too much trouble due to the relatively diminutive size of the snowball and how soon she found it. As the years went by I tried to stay as close as I could and even helped her move to Louisville after she married the coolest kid in school. I struck up a conversation with her at our 50th reunion and despite a lifetime in education she still didn't understand the genius involved in placing the snowball in her book. She was not at all the person I had imagined her to be in 4th grade. Things would have been different if we had been together all those years but somehow it's hard to imagine having been together so long.

My second crush was full blown puppy love but I'm almost afraid to speak with her again.
 

VoidCat

Pronouns: he/him/they/them
This will be a long list


Wait Im asexual and aromantic. I've never had a crush. Nevermind
 

VoidCat

Pronouns: he/him/they/them
This will be a long list


Wait Im asexual and aromantic. I've never had a crush. Nevermind
Speaking of which the answers I'd give when i was in high school when someone asked me who I had a crush on, what's my ideal girlfriend/boyfriend look wise not personality wise and not knowing I was aromantic and asexual was hilarious

I panicked more then once I hated those types of questions
 

Daemon Sophic

Avatar in flux
Carrie - Grade school. She was quirky and fun, had a slight snaggletooth situation - one of those that for some reason only make the person look cuter. Open to talking to me, but me too shy to do much of anything with that to any degree of effectiveness.

Marlee - High school. Unconventionally beautiful - if I had to try and pin her down, she looked sort of like a more homely (only as in less-mainstream-attractive) Zendaya. Personally, I'd class her above Zendaya. Super duper nice and kind, and contrary to my usual tendencies to attraction, she was wafer-thin and tall to boot. Also willing to talk to me, say hi in the halls and outside of school at neighborhood parks and at an ACT test we both happened to end up at... and me, again, too shy to do anything at all.

Angie - High school. There is absolutely no one I could relate this girl to, looks-wise, but she was also unconventionally beautiful (this is basically my way of saying I saw massive beauty there where others seemed to only see mundanity), super-straight-haired brunette. Also super duper kind, nice, super-smart and we studied together in math classes quite often. I actually think she started liking me, but I was too slow - she and some other goofball started "dating", and what was interesting was that when that cat got let out of the bag in class by her loud-mouthed new beau, she looked directly at me with what I could swear was apprehension or even shame of some small kind. I am nothing if not a putz.

Allison - High school, cheerleader - short, auburn hair with an amazing smile. She got sat right in front of me in German class at one point, and I have this weird thing about being more easily able to be completely myself with girls I figure I have absolutely no shot with whatsoever. And so we started joking around quite often, and I was able to help her with studying and whatnot. When papers got passed back through the row, she started goofing around and holding onto them to mess with me, and then when we had new assigned seats she was disappointed and said she'd miss me. Dummy me... I let all those signs slip right by, still figuring I had absolutely no chance, and only later put together what was going on.

I stopped having "crushes" at some point. It may have been partially due to the fact that I started getting lured into fake situations by attractive girls just trying to ultimately laugh at me. And then in a period where I had lost some weight and started working out a bunch, I had girls coming directly at me (even saying things about how good a father I would be!), though I had a girlfriend at the time. But later, when I gained a bit of the weight back, those same girls wanted nothing to do with me... one even looking like she was shiftily looking around trying to make sure she wasn't being seen talking to me when she bumped into me at the mall. I think I came to realize that you can't just crush on someone, try that out, and think that it's going to "work." There are too many factors, and you need to get to know someone too well before you accept them as beautiful in all categories. "Crushing" my way into a relationship started to seem dangerous - because there might be things I'd be willing to overlook because "They're my crush!"
Wow! There is a lot of truth, and a lot I can relate to/sympathize with in your post.
Been there, man. Done that.
 

Evangelicalhumanist

"Truth" isn't a thing...
Premium Member
My very first crush was my Grade 3 teacher in Ottawa, Mr. Bell. (Sorry, we never got on a first-name basis :p)

Then a boy named Bobby, at a home for emotionally disturbed children (we'd both been nearly killed by those who were supposed to love us). We stayed great friends for 5 years, but he never felt the sort of attraction to me that I felt for him.

And that, I'm afraid, is the whole story of my young life -- that time of life when crushes are just about the most important thing EVER! I was a boy, they were boys, I could never mention it, and I just wished in miserable silence.

You know, it's a terrible thing not even to be able to tell another person what you feel about them, because laws and social mores forbid.
 

Heyo

Veteran Member
I thought it would be interesting for us to each try to recall the names of various crushes and perhaps a note or two about each, as far back as we can remember.
Growing up I was the tall, skinny, shy, intelligent guy. So I had lots of crushes, but no girlfriends. :(

This thread is not for naming girlfriends/boyfriends, or for husbands/wives. It is simply about those who we have “admired from afar” (now that I type that, I should point out that I’ve never been a stalker) :confused: For the “Ones who got away”.

So….strolling back into ancient childhood….

Elizabeth - 1st grade. Not so much a crush, as a cool girl in the neighborhood, who could *gasp* ride a bicycle! :eek: We hung out, but I was too young to feel anything but friendship.

Toni - 2nd and 3rd grade - pretty girl from school. Mostly I think I openly stared at her, and/or got tongue-tied around her. I was given first choice of partners for a school presentation dance, so I chose her :oops::D. But she was far from thrilled, having to dance with a :confused: boy.

Cherie - 4th grade. Emotions are definitely in play here, as well as fickleness of my crushes, so several others have slipped from my memory over the next few years.

Cynthia - 7th and 8th grade. Serious hormones at work by this stage, and she fit the bill.

Then through high-school there were 2 Cindy’s, Lisa, a Heather, and even a Zena. Then there was Melody. She was probably the first one I actually thought of in terms of Love. *sigh*. But she left town for college.

In college, there was Vickie - we met at my brother’s wedding (not a relative! :eek::rolleyes: Sheesh!).

Lastly, before meeting the lady who became my first wife, there was Eileen. :cool:
I feel there may be a couple that I’ve blanked on, but this list includes the more “significant” ones.


So. Others here who were shy guys (or gals), who can remember the names that you had crushes on over the years?
I was sapiosexual in my youth. Only the smart girls attracted me but the smart girls were attracted to either smarter or "manlier" boys than me. I settled for pretty later on. So much more choices.
 

exchemist

Veteran Member
I thought it would be interesting for us to each try to recall the names of various crushes and perhaps a note or two about each, as far back as we can remember.
Growing up I was the tall, skinny, shy, intelligent guy. So I had lots of crushes, but no girlfriends. :(

This thread is not for naming girlfriends/boyfriends, or for husbands/wives. It is simply about those who we have “admired from afar” (now that I type that, I should point out that I’ve never been a stalker) :confused: For the “Ones who got away”.

So….strolling back into ancient childhood….

Elizabeth - 1st grade. Not so much a crush, as a cool girl in the neighborhood, who could *gasp* ride a bicycle! :eek: We hung out, but I was too young to feel anything but friendship.

Toni - 2nd and 3rd grade - pretty girl from school. Mostly I think I openly stared at her, and/or got tongue-tied around her. I was given first choice of partners for a school presentation dance, so I chose her :oops::D. But she was far from thrilled, having to dance with a :confused: boy.

Cherie - 4th grade. Emotions are definitely in play here, as well as fickleness of my crushes, so several others have slipped from my memory over the next few years.

Cynthia - 7th and 8th grade. Serious hormones at work by this stage, and she fit the bill.

Then through high-school there were 2 Cindy’s, Lisa, a Heather, and even a Zena. Then there was Melody. She was probably the first one I actually thought of in terms of Love. *sigh*. But she left town for college.

In college, there was Vickie - we met at my brother’s wedding (not a relative! :eek::rolleyes: Sheesh!).

Lastly, before meeting the lady who became my first wife, there was Eileen. :cool:
I feel there may be a couple that I’ve blanked on, but this list includes the more “significant” ones.


So. Others here who were shy guys (or gals), who can remember the names that you had crushes on over the years?
At school there was Lucy, who had lovely legs, and Ruth, who had ravishing, dark gypsy looks. After that, not a lot until real girlfriends came into the picture.

Curiously - or perhaps not curiously - now that I'm old and my wife has been dead for some years, crushes return, in a mild sort of way. My current crush is on Charlotte, a YouTuber whom I came across on a clip of TV panel game, and who has great natural beauty and the most lovely County Durham accent:


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:heart::heart:

P.S. I should add that what I think really makes it into a crush is that it's not just about her beauty and her voice. She also seems gentle and sweet-natured, perhaps even a bit vulnerable, and also has that girl-next-door quality that makes her seem a real person - and thus all the more endearing.
 
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Estro Felino

Believer in free will
Premium Member
At school there was Lucy, who had lovely legs, and Ruth, who had ravishing, dark gypsy looks. After that, not a lot until real girlfriends came into the picture.

Curiously - or perhaps not curiously - now that I'm old and my wife had been dead from some years, crushes return, in a mild sort of way. My current crush is on Charlotte, a YouTuber whom I came across on a clip of TV panel game, and who has great natural beauty and the most lovely County Durham accent:


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:heart::heart:

In a thread of mine, I recall you made a remark about Neva Leoni...who was playing the role of the Roman intellectual...
;)
 

Mock Turtle

Oh my, did I say that!
Premium Member
Too painful to recall them all, given that I never had any long-term relationships with any I fancied (or didn't), but Sally, Wendy, Patricia (Pat), Rita, Grace, and Ann, were the more memorable ones at school (first two primary, and the rest secondary), with only one with whom I managed to have any sort of relationship, and that messed up all too soon. :oops: Most were nice girls and very pretty.

Heather, at college, was probably the last, and where subsequently I just gave up. :(
 

John53

I go leaps and bounds
Premium Member
At school there was Lucy, who had lovely legs, and Ruth, who had ravishing, dark gypsy looks. After that, not a lot until real girlfriends came into the picture.

Curiously - or perhaps not curiously - now that I'm old and my wife has been dead for some years, crushes return, in a mild sort of way. My current crush is on Charlotte, a YouTuber whom I came across on a clip of TV panel game, and who has great natural beauty and the most lovely County Durham accent:


hqdefault.jpg


:heart::heart:

P.S. I should add that what I think really makes it into a crush is that it's not just about her beauty and her voice. She also seems gentle and sweet-natured, perhaps even a bit vulnerable, and also has that girl-next-door quality that makes her seem a real person - and thus all the more endearing.

Would I lie to you. One of my favourite shows, I watch endless repeats of it.
 

Daemon Sophic

Avatar in flux
I was sapiosexual in my youth. Only the smart girls attracted me but the smart girls were attracted to either smarter or "manlier" boys than me. I settled for pretty later on. So much more choices.
I think I was the reverse. Initially it was all about looks and nice personality, but later I added intellect as an attractive feature.
 

exchemist

Veteran Member
Yes and then visited her YouTube channel. Judging by the comments so did everyone who saw it.
Yes I'm sure thousands did the same as I did.

I don't quite get the whole ASMR business, but Charlotte bewitches us a lot of us, from her upstairs room somewhere in Middlesborough.

In fact, that show rather puts Middlesborough on the map. Apart from the beautiful and charming Charlotte, it's where Bob Mortimer comes from. What a comic genius he is!
 
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