When even going to the mall becomes a challenge...

[Spirit of Light]

I'm so sorry that happened. *hug* You are brave to admit your fear. I get that way around the holidays here, our mall gets so crowded it makes me want to cry.

Ohhh noo Christmas shopping i can't do that...
This Christmas we just come out of i helped my ex-girlfriend because I stayed there....and between Christmas eve and new year eve i mostly slept because there was to many people around

 

[Nimos]

This is a bit embaresing
But to be able to go to the mall where I live i first have to take a train for 4 minutes, and then do my shopping as Quick as I can, especially if there are many people there.

I woke up this morning and realized i had to go shopping . It does not sound scary to others to go shopping... i even used to love doing it too before. Now it is my personal hell
So early in the morning i went down to the train station, luckely i was alone there, trainride went ok
Then....my early morning plan to go shopping when nobody else was there went wrong groups of young people in the grocary store crap......i couldn't do it...i had to wait until they left then run in...do my shopping and get out.

What will i do the day i can't take the train due to my fear of people

That is bad, you know why you feel like that?

I wouldn't like it either, but for me, it would be more all the train riding back and forth etc. and I in general don't enjoy going shopping all that much Im more of a hit and run when I do, I know exactly what I need and I go get it and get the hell out of there again, going around looking at this and that I find boring, however some stores I like, such as DIY stores etc. but in general I don't enjoy it.

Alternatively, don't you have one of those delivery services? Where you buy online and they deliver.

 

[Nimos]

Ohhh noo Christmas shopping i can't do that...

I order everything online, Im not good at finding gifts to people and again I loose patience extremely quickly because im bored to death. And also all the people, COVID didn't help either, so doing it online makes it a lot easier for me at least.

 

[Spirit of Light]

That is bad, you know why you feel like that?

I wouldn't like it either, but for me, it would be more all the train riding back and forth etc. and I in general don't enjoy going shopping all that much Im more of a hit and run when I do, I know exactly what I need and I go get it and get the hell out of there again, going around looking at this and that I find boring, however some stores I like, such as DIY stores etc. but in general I don't enjoy it.

Alternatively, don't you have one of those delivery services? Where you buy online and they deliver.

The condition is called social anxiety disorder and it hinders me to be social. Some of the treatment will be to expose my self to what I fear so just order home delivery is not a smart idea right now.

 

[Ben Dhyan]

This is a bit embaresing
But to be able to go to the mall where I live i first have to take a train for 4 minutes, and then do my shopping as Quick as I can, especially if there are many people there.

I woke up this morning and realized i had to go shopping . It does not sound scary to others to go shopping... i even used to love doing it too before. Now it is my personal hell
So early in the morning i went down to the train station, luckely i was alone there, trainride went ok
Then....my early morning plan to go shopping when nobody else was there went wrong groups of young people in the grocary store crap......i couldn't do it...i had to wait until they left then run in...do my shopping and get out.

What will i do the day i can't take the train due to my fear of people

Tough love, seek God with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength. You may already be doing this so do it more. To discover what and who you really are in the context of all that is, first of all, all misunderstandings must be melted down. And remember, depression, fear, and whatever, always passes, so be strong beyond everything else. It's like being born again but takes much longer than 9 months!

 

[Spirit of Light]

Tough love, seek God with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength. You may already be doing this so do it more. To discover what and who you really are in the context of all that is, first all it misunderstandings must be melted down. And remember, depression, fear, and whatever, always passes, so be strong beyond everything else.

Thank you @ben d

 

[Nimos]

The condition is called social anxiety disorder and it hinders me to be social. Some of the treatment will be to expose my self to what I fear so just order home delivery is not a smart idea right now.

Just wondering, know nothing about the condition, but does it help if you listen to music at the same time, like some no stress or whatever, so you "mute" some of the senses?

 

[Spirit of Light]

Just wondering, know nothing about the condition, but does it help if you listen to music at the same time, like some no stress or whatever, so you "mute" some of the senses?

Yes muting sound from people talking or trafic will help coping with the situation certain noid3s is a trigger for me.

 

[RestlessSoul]

Often helps me to repeat these words, of FD Roosevelt; “there is nothing to fear but fear itself”.

Fear is a mirage. We can pass through it, and the more often we do, the less real the mirage appears.

 

[Spirit of Light]

Often helps me to repeat these words, of FD Roosevelt; “there is nothing to fear but fear itself”.

Fear is a mirage. We can pass through it, and the more often we do, the less real the mirage appears.

I do agree with you i see the problem with fear, I just don't have the tools to fix it within my mind yet.
I am aware often the fear is irrational and not real, but even knowing this, it is still fear

 

[Psalm23]

@Seeker of White Light , here is a song that I have found inspiring and may encourage you as well.

I wish you the best . I believe in you.

 

[Spirit of Light]

@Seeker of White Light , here is a song that I have found inspiring and may encourage you as well.

I wish you the best . I believe in you.

Thank you @Psalm23 i will get through this, as I always get through the difficult times in my life just that this time i need a bit of a helping hand from my therapist

 

[Psalm23]

Thank you @Psalm23 i will get through this, as I always get through the difficult times in my life just that this time i need a bit of a helping hand from my therapist

Sometimes we need help and that is ok. I have an appointment to see my therapist coming up next month.