The difference in how we say things.

[Spirit of Light]

The difference in

What is the meaning of this life?

And

What is the meaning of this life?

Just by changing the way we look at life, the life will change around us

Stay positive

 

[lewisnotmiller]

What is the meaning of this life?

 

[anna.]

"You" statements and "I" statements:

 

[Nakosis]

"You" statements and "I" statements:

The only real control we have is over the "I" statements. This is where we can choose otherwise.
The you statements we might try to manipulate others into getting them to give us what we want but there is no guarantee.

 

[anna.]

The only real control we have is over the "I" statements. This is where we can choose otherwise.
The you statements we might try to manipulate others into getting them to give us what we want but there is no guarantee.

I suppose one can control the narrative with 'you' statements, but not in a good way. 'You' statements are accusatory, they put the other person on the defensive, and can escalate an argument. Using 'I' statements as the main driver allows the opportunity for the other person to see how their words or actions have affected you with a lesser degree of finger-pointing.

Everyone's different and some are very good at manipulation, but 'you' statements come from emotions of hurt or frustration or disappointment or anger. No matter how justified one is in their emotion, saying 'you you you' likely won't help the situation.

 

[Nakosis]

I suppose one can control the narrative with 'you' statements, but not in a good way. 'You' statements are accusatory, they put the other person on the defensive, and can escalate an argument. Using 'I' statements as the main driver allows the opportunity for the other person to see how their words or actions have affected you with a lesser degree of finger-pointing.

Everyone's different and some are very good at manipulation, but 'you' statements come from emotions of hurt or frustration or disappointment or anger. No matter how justified one is in their emotion, saying 'you you you' likely won't help the situation.

I agree. I prefer to work with the "I" statements.