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None of us are qualified to act that way.I want you all to be my psycho therapists.
Hey. I did that when I was 22. Married at 19, knew nothing. Fighting all the time. Unfortunately, had a 2 year old daughter. Didn't want to work it out. Wanted my own life. I left and "joined the circus". Led a hedonist life for about 10 years. Learned that living my own life is not what it's about.
Remarried, now for 43 years. Working it out constantly. My wife has dementia and sometimes doesn't know who I am. I will never leave her or put her in a "home". Moved into assisted living so I could be with her all the time with basics covered by someone else. We sleep together and I wake her up when she has screaming nightmares. This is what it's about. I'm almost 80 now; she's older that that. This is love that I was never taught. I had to learn it.
If at all possible, work it out.
"For better or worse" means something more than I ever knew.
They don't love me at all... The children won't speak to me, the mother is always angry... I think it's maybe time to leave, and start a new life somewhere far away. Somewhere where there's greener pastures. Anyone here ever do this..?
Walking out is a coward's way. Don't the wedding vows say for better or worse and in sickness and health?
Here is another perspective: I only wish I was fortunate enough to have children even if they did not speak to me. But I know what it is like to have an angry spouse. It seems like I cannot say anything to my husband that does not make him angry and defensive. He thinks everything is a criticism of him even when it isn't about him, as what I am talking about is about me. It is very stressful because we just do not communicate very well.They don't love me at all... The children won't speak to me, the mother is always angry... I think it's maybe time to leave, and start a new life somewhere far away. Somewhere where there's greener pastures. Anyone here ever do this..?
Thanks, that was very helpful. We have been married for over 35 years and we have always worked it out.We sleep together and I wake her up when she has screaming nightmares. This is what it's about. I'm almost 80 now; she's older that that. This is love that I was never taught. I had to learn it.
If at all possible, work it out.
"For better or worse" means something more than I ever knew.
I also cried. What he described is real love. All other kinds of love are transitory.Your story made me cry...
None of us are qualified to act that way.
Please try to find someone qualified.
I don't really like how judgemental some of these people are being. I dont know your situation and I dont know whats best for you. But I side with these two people. Think long and hard before making any decisions.I know I'm probably not the best person to give advice here tho as Ive never been married. But I've seen how bad a marriage can get and its hard on the kids.If you are miserable in a couple, it's high time for divorce though you still have a responsability to your kid and you should expect and make sure to pay child support. Also avoid useless arguments in front of them if your spouse and keep the door open for them should they want to reconnect with you or vice versa.
If you want to make it work or actually have a real expert opinion go see a therapist and see what gives. It's always more prudent to follow this and do some research and soul searching before that kind of decision. That's unless you believe yourself to be in danger of course.
That's true, but divorce is also hard on kids.But I've seen how bad a marriage can get and its hard on the kids.
True. But I remember thinking when watching my aunt and uncle why they wouldnt get a divorce if they hated each other so much. And I sometimes wish they had much sooner as it would have made them less miserable for a lot less longer. However that might not be the best thing here. It all depends on the situation and I am not part of it.That's true, but divorce is also hard on kids.