I believe 100% that God did become a man to fulfill His own definition of the highest love and the love of a Shepherd. As the scriptures say
1. Seems like you reject friendship of his only begotten son.
Joh 15:13 Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
Joh 15:14 Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you.
Mat 23:9 And call no man your father upon the earth: for one is your Father, which is in heaven.
Joh 7:17 If any man will do his will, he shall know of the doctrine, whether it be of God, or whether I speak of myself.
Mat 7:21 Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.
Joh 8:42 Jesus said unto them, If God were your Father, ye would love me: for I proceeded forth and came from God; neither came I of myself, but he sent me.
Joh 13:3 Jesus knowing that the Father had given all things into his hands, and that he was come from God, and went to God;
Joh 16:28 I came forth from the Father, and am come into the world: again, I leave the world, and go to the Father.
2. The Torah says God is not a man and that is both metaphorical and literal but you using new testament to say otherwise and justify God dying.
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