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Do not resuscitate

JJ50

Well-Known Member
When my husband (72) came home from hospital on Monday after having a possible TIA, on which the jury is still out, we had a serious discussion. He said that if he had a major stroke he would not wish to be resuscitated. He reckons he has lost so much after his brain haemorrhage in 2006, which trashed half his brain not being able to do the things he can still do would be a fate far worse than death. We have discussed it with our children and they agree that his wish should be upheld.

Are there any posters on this forum who for religious reasons disagree with a person having the right to request not to be resuscitated if it became necessary?
 

Spirit of Light

Be who ever you want
When my husband (72) came home from hospital on Monday after having a possible TIA, on which the jury is still out, we had a serious discussion. He said that if he had a major stroke he would not wish to be resuscitated. He reckons he has lost so much after his brain haemorrhage in 2006, which trashed half his brain not being able to do the things he can still do would be a fate far worse than death. We have discussed it with our children and they agree that his wish should be upheld.

Are there any posters on this forum who for religious reasons disagree with a person having the right to request not to be resuscitated if it became necessary?
I think any person who do not wish to be resuscitated should be listen to. It is their life and if they understand it will only be suffering for them self and family if they do get resuscitated and they wish not this toward family, i would liste to that person
 

SomeRandom

Still learning to be wise
Staff member
Premium Member
When my husband (72) came home from hospital on Monday after having a possible TIA, on which the jury is still out, we had a serious discussion. He said that if he had a major stroke he would not wish to be resuscitated. He reckons he has lost so much after his brain haemorrhage in 2006, which trashed half his brain not being able to do the things he can still do would be a fate far worse than death. We have discussed it with our children and they agree that his wish should be upheld.

Are there any posters on this forum who for religious reasons disagree with a person having the right to request not to be resuscitated if it became necessary?
On the contrary. At least for me. It would be a religious duty to respect a Do Not Resuscitate, regardless of any of my feelings.
 

stvdv

Veteran Member: I Share (not Debate) my POV
I wish you all the strength needed

I agree with your decision. And can't think of 1 reason "not to respect" another person (esp. for a religious person; he has a book explaining to love and respect the other as yourself)
 

Subduction Zone

Veteran Member
When my husband (72) came home from hospital on Monday after having a possible TIA, on which the jury is still out, we had a serious discussion. He said that if he had a major stroke he would not wish to be resuscitated. He reckons he has lost so much after his brain haemorrhage in 2006, which trashed half his brain not being able to do the things he can still do would be a fate far worse than death. We have discussed it with our children and they agree that his wish should be upheld.

Are there any posters on this forum who for religious reasons disagree with a person having the right to request not to be resuscitated if it became necessary?
Some practical advice:

Make sure that you have multiple copies of the form handy. If you go out and something happens while at a restaurant for example you need the paperwork or else emergency medical services will always resuscitate. They have to. The word of family members is not good enough.
 

JJ50

Well-Known Member
Some practical advice:

Make sure that you have multiple copies of the form handy. If you go out and something happens while at a restaurant for example you need the paperwork or else emergency medical services will always resuscitate. They have to. The word of family members is not good enough.
We are looking into that.
 

Daemon Sophic

Avatar in flux
Some practical advice:

Make sure that you have multiple copies of the form handy. If you go out and something happens while at a restaurant for example you need the paperwork or else emergency medical services will always resuscitate. They have to. The word of family members is not good enough.
This.

The medics will try to resuscitate until a DNR order tells them otherwise. A copy in your bag, an alert bracelet or necklace on your hubby, I’ve even seen them on the refrigerator door, and on bedroom doors.
Verbally, you really won’t have much say until after he has been brought to the hospital.

My best wishes for both you and your husband.
 

pearl

Well-Known Member
As for the religious aspect for Catholics;
The Church clearly teaches that it is morally wrong to impose on anyone the obligation to accept treatments that impose undue burdens on him, his family, and the wider community or to accept treatments that do not offer reasonable benefits or are useless or futile.

Should there be a reason for your husband to be at home without you, in the company of a friend or neighbor, its important to have the DNR in a prominent place to be seen. Once that 911 call is made it is out of your hands.
 

metis

aged ecumenical anthropologist
Are there any posters on this forum who for religious reasons disagree with a person having the right to request not to be resuscitated if it became necessary?
First of all, I'm very sorry that you've been in this predicament. But to your question, there really is nothing morally wrong in not resuscitating if there's little to no chance of survival.

There are some things worse than death.
 

JJ50

Well-Known Member
As for the religious aspect for Catholics;
The Church clearly teaches that it is morally wrong to impose on anyone the obligation to accept treatments that impose undue burdens on him, his family, and the wider community or to accept treatments that do not offer reasonable benefits or are useless or futile.

Should there be a reason for your husband to be at home without you, in the company of a friend or neighbor, its important to have the DNR in a prominent place to be seen. Once that 911 call is made it is out of your hands.

We live in the UK. My husband is very independent and still does his own thing in spite of only having half a functioning brain, he goes on long walks by himself, and is at this moment down at the local café having afternoon tea. He doesn't want anyone watching over him. He will have to fill in the appropriate forms to grant a DNR, should it be necessary. .
 

Subduction Zone

Veteran Member
We live in the UK. My husband is very independent and still does his own thing in spite of only having half a functioning brain, he goes on long walks by himself, and is at this moment down at the local café having afternoon tea. He doesn't want anyone watching over him. He will have to fill in the appropriate forms to grant a DNR, should it be necessary. .
At least in the U.S. he would be the only one that could do that. A relative cannot do it for you here.
 

Saint Frankenstein

Wanderer From Afar
Premium Member
No, I don't have a problem with it. When my mother was dying from cancer and was in the hospice, she signed a DNR order. My sister was very upset over it, but I understood.
 

Mindmaster

Well-Known Member
Premium Member
When my husband (72) came home from hospital on Monday after having a possible TIA, on which the jury is still out, we had a serious discussion. He said that if he had a major stroke he would not wish to be resuscitated. He reckons he has lost so much after his brain haemorrhage in 2006, which trashed half his brain not being able to do the things he can still do would be a fate far worse than death. We have discussed it with our children and they agree that his wish should be upheld.

Are there any posters on this forum who for religious reasons disagree with a person having the right to request not to be resuscitated if it became necessary?


Well, in my religion there is no duty to suffer unduly.

Likewise, I think it's bad to burden your family with your increasing disability past a certain point. He may wake up and not even know who his family members are -- as had happened to my grandmother on both sides of the family. One was via a stroke and the other was progressive Alzheimer's. Most people when faced with that dilemma would feel that they died already to some extent if they reflected on that before the damage occurred.

At some point any attempt to prolong one's life becomes a futile endeavor with such limited quality as to not be worth it.
 

sun rise

The world is on fire
Premium Member
From my perspective, it's perfectly fine to let nature take its course in such situations.
 

PureX

Veteran Member
When my husband (72) came home from hospital on Monday after having a possible TIA, on which the jury is still out, we had a serious discussion. He said that if he had a major stroke he would not wish to be resuscitated. He reckons he has lost so much after his brain haemorrhage in 2006, which trashed half his brain not being able to do the things he can still do would be a fate far worse than death. We have discussed it with our children and they agree that his wish should be upheld.

Are there any posters on this forum who for religious reasons disagree with a person having the right to request not to be resuscitated if it became necessary?
Not me. I think he was given the gift of life with the intention that he live it as he chooses. And that includes when and how it ends, if that decision falls within the realm of possibility.
 

Skwim

Veteran Member
Some practical advice:

Make sure that you have multiple copies of the form handy. If you go out and something happens while at a restaurant for example you need the paperwork or else emergency medical services will always resuscitate. They have to. The word of family members is not good enough.
Very sound advice. You have to keep the paperwork at hand.

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