Pursuing education

[Wu Wei]

My family isn't very high IQ. They are a bit unforgiving and also there are a lot of double standards that they do. For example, they don't like people moving far away from them. They've pretty much disowned a couple of people over it, in the family. HOWEVER, whenever someone moves out of state in pursuit of college education, they somehow think they are doing a great thing. Many people in the family have done just that and saw the family maybe 1-2 times a year afterwards - moved out of state to pursue education and then work. Many of them went on to be successful and the family thought well of them.

I think I understand the whole mentality though - my family had a colorful history in the distant past before I was born and now they want to paint the family as upper class educated conservative Christians and expand and grow a family tree of people of these beliefs.

Do you think it would be dishonest to myself to just pursue education, make it an excuse, and move away from all the drama? I probably wouldn't even have to see them twice a year, and it'd most likely gain their respect to the point where I am not bothered.

its your life, not theirs

 

[PoetPhilosopher]

its your life, not theirs

Thanks, wise one.

(No sarcasm intended)

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Do you think it would be dishonest to myself to just pursue education, make it an excuse

You pretty much answered that question yourself. Its not your real intention, your making it an excuse and not the honest reason. But if your family is so broken that you feel a lie is needed to leave, then why worry about what they think of you if you also anticipate not really seeing them again? And I would reallt think it over. College can get you places, but so can other things. And in my siuation, I make more driving lyft than I would using by BS degree in psych (and it is a BS degree that doesnt pay for itself until it turns into a masters). I moved, and with different opportunities available, Im not even sure I go back for my masters (freelancing is looking the route Ill go).

 

[Shadow Wolf]

My mom recently saw a TV show where they flew an LGBTQ+ rainbow flag by the American flag. She got out of her chair and had a ranting fit, saying God will punish America.

Sounds like you just need to leave, no excuses, no padded feelings, just you, your life, and your future.

 

[Milton Platt]

My family isn't very high IQ. They are a bit unforgiving and also there are a lot of double standards that they do. For example, they don't like people moving far away from them. They've pretty much disowned a couple of people over it, in the family. HOWEVER, whenever someone moves out of state in pursuit of college education, they somehow think they are doing a great thing. Many people in the family have done just that and saw the family maybe 1-2 times a year afterwards - moved out of state to pursue education and then work. Many of them went on to be successful and the family thought well of them.

I think I understand the whole mentality though - my family had a colorful history in the distant past before I was born and now they want to paint the family as upper class educated conservative Christians and expand and grow a family tree of people of these beliefs.

Do you think it would be dishonest to myself to just pursue education, make it an excuse, and move away from all the drama? I probably wouldn't even have to see them twice a year, and it'd most likely gain their respect to the point where I am not bothered.

The education would not hurt you and it would avoid uncomfortable conflict. But only you can really know your situation.

 

[PoetPhilosopher]

The education would not hurt you and it would avoid uncomfortable conflict. But only you can really know your situation.

It's what I was thinking.

What form of IT jobs besides Computer Science do people actually go to college for, these days?

I know you don't have to necessarily have a full college degree to say, be a computer repairman, but surely there are other IT professions which kind of need a degree.

 

[Milton Platt]

It's what I was thinking.

What form of IT jobs besides Computer Science do people actually go to college for, these days?

I know you don't have to necessarily have a full college degree to say, be a computer repairman, but surely there are other IT professions which kind of need a degree.

Robotics? Electrical engineering? Systems analyst?

 

[dybmh]

What form of IT jobs besides Computer Science do people actually go to college for, these days?

It was 10 years ago... but...

I think what you're asking about is Desktop / Server / Network Design Implementation and Support?

These jobs are super competitive. And... A lot of people think they are experts, when they aren't. Conversely there are a lot of super smart self-taught folks out there. But the ignorant know-it-all types are much more common.

In this field, experience and knowledge is the coin of realm. Next is personality. Being able to work well with difficult people, and being able to blend in to an established infrastructure ( without commenting on how much it sux ) are what I looked for.

All you need as far as education is a Bachelors degree. Almost any bachelors degree will do. All this does is help weed out candidates. It's not fair, because good people get left out of the recruitment. But with so many people looking for IT jobs, having a degree is any easy way to cut the stack of applications.