Wu Wei
ursus senum severiorum and ex-Bisy Backson
My family isn't very high IQ. They are a bit unforgiving and also there are a lot of double standards that they do. For example, they don't like people moving far away from them. They've pretty much disowned a couple of people over it, in the family. HOWEVER, whenever someone moves out of state in pursuit of college education, they somehow think they are doing a great thing. Many people in the family have done just that and saw the family maybe 1-2 times a year afterwards - moved out of state to pursue education and then work. Many of them went on to be successful and the family thought well of them.
I think I understand the whole mentality though - my family had a colorful history in the distant past before I was born and now they want to paint the family as upper class educated conservative Christians and expand and grow a family tree of people of these beliefs.
Do you think it would be dishonest to myself to just pursue education, make it an excuse, and move away from all the drama? I probably wouldn't even have to see them twice a year, and it'd most likely gain their respect to the point where I am not bothered.
its your life, not theirs