My person may hopfully not disturbe the assembly to much, Nyom Jim, all other Nati Nyom,
It may sound rude, this similie, but has just the intent that someone might look inside honestly what's going on and whether one is hypocratical or not, develops good sounding reasoning for ones trade intented:
This "art" may remind one on the different between ordinary prostitute or "noble" prostitute. One giving clear signs and one serves a wished sociaty image. Or one may take the costomer side. After "deal" or after "sex", or one may call it "making pregnant" anyway, or?
My person would not in many cases praise a "defensive" attitude as such is actually more dangerous. My person would ask, what does one hinder to be not a public person.
At least, althought no more common in modern world, does a community and no-privat "living" plays an importand rule in regard of protection.
So just generally, since most religions today work in this "fist come in our/my sepate", it's not necessary good when one is merely "silent".
For instance, aside of many unskillful mind-factors is it a trader that would not praise of what is worthy to praise (at least puplic).
So my person would like to encourage to deeper and very honest investigation of ones intention for such since it's actually very greedy if one like to keep always all possibilities for one open and of course such is not ease a relayable person.
It reminds somewhat on "open source"-trade. The fact is maybe more that people getting more greedy and sting and if someone on a forum, or if addressed would say "google" it, then there is no more need to expect any goodness.
My person would say that in 99% of cases either one of the 5 kinds of
stinginess or ingratitude plays a big role for "respectful appearing".
It should not limit possible great generosity with the OP or in answers, but make clear that such could be also the game of defilements which is, as long no holly person, more reasonable. Now, wouldn't one not like to change on the other side rather to seek approve without grow?
While it is understandable, that if one still depending on others, looks after his "value", and it's therefore never asked that one is always open, it nevertheless leaves open the question why hidding something if really without stinginess?
The reality why people can hide more and more is because there are those "free"-things, yet one should think wise with whom one gets indebted and that not in a small amout. (all future caught and bound strong, as the provider has no intention to give release).
Maybe a 100% opposite "strategy": Since long time my person has cut off nearly 100% of non-public talk. That's a huge protection and one safes a lot of time.