With _____, it's always about ______.

[Vinayaka]

My son and I were discussing a certain person, a friend of his. Sometimes this young man's motives and behaviour were questionable. But my son said, "With Moe (just as an example, not insulting all the Moes of the world) it's always about Moe.

Anyways, I found it insightful, and helped me to understand the Moes of the world, and there are quite a few of them. The classical movie scene on a first date comes to mind, where one of the people only talks about themselves, hardly noticing the date. I had several parent teacher interviews over the years, where I actually said to the parent, "hey, this interview isn't about you, it's about ______ (the kid).

I've also observed certain groups of people who seem to have ethnocentricity at the forefront. For example, 'with Canadians, it's always about Canadians'.

Any insights, firstly on why, and secondly, what to say to such people to attempt to get them beyond themselves, ot their religio-ethnicity?

 

[YmirGF]

My son and I were discussing a certain person, a friend of his. Sometimes this young man's motives and behaviour were questionable. But my son said, "With Moe (just as an example, not insulting all the Moes of the world) it's always about Moe.

Anyways, I found it insightful, and helped me to understand the Moes of the world, and there are quite a few of them. The classical movie scene on a first date comes to mind, where one of the people only talks about themselves, hardly noticing the date. I had several parent teacher interviews over the years, where I actually said to the parent, "hey, this interview isn't about you, it's about ______ (the kid).

I've also observed certain groups of people who seem to have ethnocentricity at the forefront. For example, 'with Canadians, it's always about Canadians'.

Any insights, firstly on why, and secondly, what to say to such people to attempt to get them beyond themselves, ot their religio-ethnicity?

Had a similar thing with my middle sister. The first thing in dealing with her to understand is that everything is always about her. Period. Full stop. Given that it is based on insecurity, makes dealing with it a hit and miss prospect. I do know that any time I tried to point things out to her there was always some reason why I had it wrong. The error was never in her perception even when confronted with obvious errors. Pointing out the inconsistency was simply me being mean! *sigh*

 

[sun rise]

And this sadly now extends to Trump who is exactly that way.

 

[Vinayaka]

And this sadly now extends to Trump who is exactly that way.

It seems so, yeah. Sad that, given the position. Contrast that to the documentaries about people like the Queen of England, who despite the position, seems to genuinely care about the citizens of England.

 

[Vinayaka]

The first thing in dealing with her to understand is that everything is always about her. Period. Full stop.

That recognition is what I was getting at. Once you make that recognition, you know what you're dealing with, and for all involved, you can lower your expectations a ton.

 

[spirit_of_dawn]

When you think you are above all, the world revolves around you, so everything must be about YOU. I've seen this attitude within a certain group of people on this forum.

 

[Vinayaka]

When you think you are above all, the world revolves around you, so everything must be about YOU. I've seen this attitude within a certain group of people on this forum.

So have you lowered your expectations? I know I have.

 

[Revoltingest]

My son and I were discussing a certain person, a friend of his. Sometimes this young man's motives and behaviour were questionable. But my son said, "With Moe (just as an example, not insulting all the Moes of the world) it's always about Moe.

Anyways, I found it insightful, and helped me to understand the Moes of the world, and there are quite a few of them. The classical movie scene on a first date comes to mind, where one of the people only talks about themselves, hardly noticing the date. I had several parent teacher interviews over the years, where I actually said to the parent, "hey, this interview isn't about you, it's about ______ (the kid).

I've also observed certain groups of people who seem to have ethnocentricity at the forefront. For example, 'with Canadians, it's always about Canadians'.

Any insights, firstly on why, and secondly, what to say to such people to attempt to get them beyond themselves, ot their religio-ethnicity?

I'm reminded of this song from "My Crazy Ex-Girlfriend".

Dang, this just might be the post to get me banned.
(Is that cheering I hear?)

 

[MetallicHue]

My parents are the same way. Just learn to live with it. Everyone has their own issues.

 

[Vinayaka]

And then there is the situation, like in a divorce, where each side understands the other this way, both saying, "It's always about you, isn't it?"

 

[Vinayaka]

I'm reminded of this song from "My Crazy Ex-Girlfriend".

Dang, this just might be the post to get me banned.
(Is that cheering I hear?)

This thread isn't about you, because 'With Revoltingest, it's always about bacon."

 

[spirit_of_dawn]

So have you lowered your expectations? I know I have.

Past experience with them taught me to expect nothing from them in the first place. So I guess there was no expectation to lower

 

[Revoltingest]

This thread isn't about you, because 'With Revoltingest, it's always about bacon."

Sometimes it's about chocolate or Mr Van.

 

[Vinayaka]

Past experience with them taught me to expect nothing from them in the first place. So I guess there was no expectation to lower

Lucky you. I had to learn it by watching discussions go in endless pointless circles.

 

[Vinayaka]

Sometimes it's about chocolate or Mr Van.

Or old machinery? Does Mr. Van have a first name?

 

[Revoltingest]

Or old machinery? Does Mr. Van have a first name?

Mr.

 

[spirit_of_dawn]

Lucky you. I had to learn it by watching discussions go in endless pointless circles.

That was also part of my past experience.

 

[Vinayaka]

Mr.

Good name, but a bit too common for my liking.

 

[Revoltingest]

Good name, but a bit too common for my liking.

Mr Van is all about fitting in.
Really....he's modified to look like an RV, so that he'll go unnoticed
by cops as I drive by hauling machinery. (No CDL required for RVs.)

 

[Vinayaka]

Mr Van is all about fitting in.

So how many people can you fit in it? (Sorry my Hanglish iz bad sum daze and i not under stand what you is say.)