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Women, Give Us A Break

Evangelicalhumanist

"Truth" isn't a thing...
Premium Member
If I grab anything, it's with prior approval.
It's interesting that one of my very best friends is a straight man, father of 2, who from the first moment we met knew that I found him incredibly attractive. This is not a secret between us, but neither is the fact that he is not interested in what I have to offer (and lust for), and I am polite enough to pretend (mostly) doesn't exist.

No matter what you might wish from anyone, the most you can legitimately aspire to is what they freely give. And thus we remain really good friends, and his son (my favourite kid in the world) of almost 6 loves me, too. This is so good...
 

Revoltingest

Pragmatic Libertarian
Premium Member
It's interesting that one of my very best friends is a straight man, father of 2, who from the first moment we met knew that I found him incredibly attractive. This is not a secret between us, but neither is the fact that he is not interested in what I have to offer (and lust for), and I am polite enough to pretend (mostly) doesn't exist.

No matter what you might wish from anyone, the most you can legitimately aspire to is what they freely give. And thus we remain really good friends, and his son (my favourite kid in the world) of almost 6 loves me, too. This is so good...
I too have been the cause of unrequited lust (in my younger Adonis-like days).
The others have always handled it respectfully.
Nowadays, I just cause unrequited desire to get out of the way of faster drivers.
 

dawny0826

Mother Heathen
A huge Ulta store (sells womens cosmetics, perfume, and such) just opened in my neighborhood, and it got me thinking about all the trouble women went to make themselves look better. They seem to spend an inordinate amount of time and money on clothing, accessories, hair stylists, and makeup just to look good, which is fine with me. I loooves a well groomed, good looking woman. Then I started to think about how women of late have begun to complain about how we men treat them: eyeing them up and down in their bikinis, looking at their luscious lips, starring at their boobs, commenting on their miniskirt or deep cut blouse.

I know this observation isn't original to me. I've heard it a couple of times before from others. However, it still holds true.

If women don't want us eyeing them up and down in their bikinis, looking at their luscious lips. starring at their boobs, commenting on their miniskirts, or deep cut blouse, then why do they bother to put on lipstick or wear padded and push up bras, or wear mini skirts, bikinis, and blouses with plunging necklines? And the worst part is that we men have to listen to their whining about how we treat them. Objectifying them. Treating them like "meat." while what we are suppose to be doing is ignoring all these calculated sexual, come-hither signals and concentrate on what's in their heads.

Here's a clue women. We're going to take you up on your stratagems. Put on a bikini and we'll be looking you up and down. Wear a crazy red on your lips and we'll notice, Put on a padded or pushup bra and we'll be starring. Wear a mini skirt or a blouse with a plunging neckline and we could very well tell you how much we appreciated it. And isn't this what you're after, our attention and appreciation. If it isn't then stop wasting your time and money on these things, stop your whining and pick up one of those. "Take Me As I Am--Armpit Hair And All" feminist banners and march for your right to be ignored. We'll be happy to comply.

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I'm not going to wear a burlap sack out in public and deny myself creature comforts that make me feel and smell good, because there are men who can't control themselves.

If a man finds something attractive about me and gets a tingle in his dingle...more power to him. There's nothing wrong with being turned on by beauty. Sane, respectful men are able to enjoy the view without being predatory creeps.
 

Kangaroo Feathers

Yea, it is written in the Book of Cyril...
I'm not going to wear a burlap sack out in public and deny myself creature comforts that make me feel and smell good, because there are men who can't control themselves.

If a man finds something attractive about me and gets a tingle in his dingle...more power to him. There's nothing wrong with being turned on by beauty. Sane, respectful men are able to enjoy the view without being predatory creeps.
It's a two way street. I'm not going to dress down just because women find me irresistible when I dress a certain way. I don't expect them to, either. A modicum of self control is not an unreasonable ask in a civil society.
 

Gallowglass

Member
There is much culture pushing women to act and dress and wear things a certain way. There are jobs where women are required to wear makeup every day, to wear heels every day, or others. A friend of mine once worked for a dentist who required a full face of makeup every day, and a full set of acrylic nails while women were dental assisting for him. This, in spite of the fact that acrylic nails are super dangerous for the dental assistant because bacteria and contaminants can’t be properly cleaned from the nail bed with them. Women who don’t wear makeup get told to stop being “lazy.”

Here’s an article about trying to make it illegal in the UK to force women to wear high heels to work.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.te...-employers-forcing-women-wear-high-heels/amp/

Here’s an article on pressure to wear makeup at work:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.al...-wear-makeup-at-work-as-a-double-standard/amp

Here’s another article from the UK where 2/3 of bosses admit they would discriminate against women looking for a job who don’t wear makeup.
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/1...iminate-against-women-not-wearing-makeup.html

Here’s an article on how according to the Supreme Court, employers can require you to wear makeup. The actual case went further, where the boss told the employee she had to:
“walk more femininely, talk more femininely, dress more femininely, wear make-up, have her hair styled, and wear jewelry."

Here’s an article on how Donald Trump told people to fire women who weren’t pretty enough:
http://www.latimes.com/projects/la-na-pol-trump-women/

Here’s an article on how 49 states allow employers to fire someone because of their weight. Including covering cases where they weren’t allowed to gain more than 7% of their starting weight, some that had mandatory weigh-ins, or were told to take laxatives.
https://www.google.com/amp/amp.timeinc.net/time/4883176/weight-discrimination-workplace-laws

Of course, after all that, it’s also legal to fire someone because they are too pretty.
https://www.nola.com/business/index.ssf/2012/12/iowa_court_upholds_dentists_fi.html
 
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