Help on Approval of God?

[YliaChan]

Hey, I know this is a bit selfish to talk about but please hear me out. My boyfriend borke up with me today and when I asked him why he told me this story. He said this: "Your not gonna believe all this, But I went to church yesterday, I went up to the pastor and he prayed, I fell on my knees balling my eyes out, He told me, Dont do anything your ashamed of, I felt like I really heard something from God, It'ls like he's telling me your not right for me, And I'm Christian so whatever I hear from god, I obey it, And if I'm told your not right for me, Then your not right, I'm sorry" From my point of view it seems that God doesn't approve of me, and maybe he's right as I have comitted adultery twice at my age. Is there anything I can do for Him to approve of me and to bring my love back into my life? Is there a chance for me to sit down and pray to Him and maybe a chance that he will hear my prayers and send himinto my life again? Please help, preferably any Christian pastors with any serious advice. I am willing to sit down and start to worship God if He can bring me a miracle.

 

[Rival]

Yet you say you are an atheist?

 

[9-10ths_Penguin]

Hey, I know this is a bit selfish to talk about but please hear me out. My boyfriend borke up with me today and when I asked him why he told me this story. He said this: "Your not gonna believe all this, But I went to church yesterday, I went up to the pastor and he prayed, I fell on my knees balling my eyes out, He told me, Dont do anything your ashamed of, I felt like I really heard something from God, It'ls like he's telling me your not right for me, And I'm Christian so whatever I hear from god, I obey it, And if I'm told your not right for me, Then your not right, I'm sorry" From my point of view it seems that God doesn't approve of me, and maybe he's right as I have comitted adultery twice at my age. Is there anything I can do for Him to approve of me and to bring my love back into my life? Is there a chance for me to sit down and pray to Him and maybe a chance that he will hear my prayers and send himinto my life again? Please help, preferably any Christian pastors with any serious advice. I am willing to sit down and start to worship God if He can bring me a miracle.

Your profile says you're 14. I'm assuming you aren't married; what do you mean when you say you've "committed adultery?"

 

[Orbit]

Hey, I know this is a bit selfish to talk about but please hear me out. My boyfriend borke up with me today and when I asked him why he told me this story. He said this: "Your not gonna believe all this, But I went to church yesterday, I went up to the pastor and he prayed, I fell on my knees balling my eyes out, He told me, Dont do anything your ashamed of, I felt like I really heard something from God, It'ls like he's telling me your not right for me, And I'm Christian so whatever I hear from god, I obey it, And if I'm told your not right for me, Then your not right, I'm sorry" From my point of view it seems that God doesn't approve of me, and maybe he's right as I have comitted adultery twice at my age. Is there anything I can do for Him to approve of me and to bring my love back into my life? Is there a chance for me to sit down and pray to Him and maybe a chance that he will hear my prayers and send himinto my life again? Please help, preferably any Christian pastors with any serious advice. I am willing to sit down and start to worship God if He can bring me a miracle.

Your boyfriend sounds like he is just rationalizing what he already feels--that he wants to break up. Move on, --he's not worth it if God is telling him to break up with you --he's beyond all reason anyway.

 

[Quintessence]

Have you considered respecting his decision?

 

[YliaChan]

Your profile says you're 14. I'm assuming you aren't married; what do you mean when you say you've "committed adultery?"

I mean that I'm not a virgin anymore.

 

[YliaChan]

Have you considered respecting his decision?

I have but something in me tells me that maybe there is another way. Consider me crazy but I had a strong feeling that he was not making the right decision or perhaps he misinterpreted God's message.

 

[Rival]

Have you considered respecting his decision?

I love you, Quint.

 

[YliaChan]

Yet you say you are an atheist?

I say I'm an atheist because I'm not exactly tied to any religion, althought I believe in God It's not common for me to pray to Him.

 

[Kenny]

Hey, I know this is a bit selfish to talk about but please hear me out. My boyfriend borke up with me today and when I asked him why he told me this story. He said this: "Your not gonna believe all this, But I went to church yesterday, I went up to the pastor and he prayed, I fell on my knees balling my eyes out, He told me, Dont do anything your ashamed of, I felt like I really heard something from God, It'ls like he's telling me your not right for me, And I'm Christian so whatever I hear from god, I obey it, And if I'm told your not right for me, Then your not right, I'm sorry" From my point of view it seems that God doesn't approve of me, and maybe he's right as I have comitted adultery twice at my age. Is there anything I can do for Him to approve of me and to bring my love back into my life? Is there a chance for me to sit down and pray to Him and maybe a chance that he will hear my prayers and send himinto my life again? Please help, preferably any Christian pastors with any serious advice. I am willing to sit down and start to worship God if He can bring me a miracle.

As a pastor, first and foremost, we hold on to the position that God thinks you are so important that Jesus died for you.

Faith makes you "approved" no matter what your past life was or what you life is today.

But to go further, I really don't think that an open forum is the venue.

 

[Kenny]

I mean that I'm not a virgin anymore.

This, for example, is irrelevant. Nothing you do will make God's love towards you and less.

 

[YliaChan]

This, for example, is irrelevant. Nothing you do will make God's love towards you and less.

Thank you for your advice.

 

[Quintessence]

I have but something in me tells me that maybe there is another way. Consider me crazy but I had a strong feeling that he was not making the right decision or perhaps he misinterpreted God's message.

Those are all possibilities. I'm not sure it's about right/wrong decisions or right/wrong interpretations with these things - both you and he are entitled to your own respective opinions on what's happened. If you think you're able, maybe you could listen to each other's takes on this? That can be tough to do - you have to be prepared to leave your ego at the door and really listen to the other person so they feel heard. Maybe you can find a way to talk it through. Maybe not? At the end of the day, I think it's a good idea to show respect for the other person by allowing disagreements to happen. It may be he goes his separate way for now, but you leave a door open by being respectful and listening.

 

[Fool]

Hey, I know this is a bit selfish to talk about but please hear me out. My boyfriend borke up with me today and when I asked him why he told me this story. He said this: "Your not gonna believe all this, But I went to church yesterday, I went up to the pastor and he prayed, I fell on my knees balling my eyes out, He told me, Dont do anything your ashamed of, I felt like I really heard something from God, It'ls like he's telling me your not right for me, And I'm Christian so whatever I hear from god, I obey it, And if I'm told your not right for me, Then your not right, I'm sorry" From my point of view it seems that God doesn't approve of me, and maybe he's right as I have comitted adultery twice at my age. Is there anything I can do for Him to approve of me and to bring my love back into my life? Is there a chance for me to sit down and pray to Him and maybe a chance that he will hear my prayers and send himinto my life again? Please help, preferably any Christian pastors with any serious advice. I am willing to sit down and start to worship God if He can bring me a miracle.

your history and his history are irrelevant. if he asks his pastor and he hears something from God, then obviously his pastor has become god for him. had he asked god directly, he wouldn't have need for a pastor. he's obviously abdicating any responsibility; if he's projecting you're the problem

he broke up with you to have a relationship with his pastor. he'll eventually break up with the pastor too. love resolves everything and is a respecter of none.

Hebrews 8:11
No longer will they teach their neighbor, or say to one another, ‘Know the Lord,’ because they will all know me, from the least of them to the greatest.

you offered a wonderful gift to another, its a travesty that it was treated with a lack of respect afterwards and tarnished.

your ex-bf has some soul searching to do because he's transferred something he deems not right on to someone else.

 

[Nakosis]

Please help, preferably any Christian pastors with any serious advice. I am willing to sit down and start to worship God if He can bring me a miracle.

Yea, don't do that. Faking it will only make both of you miserable.

This idea of God telling him that you're not right for him, it's all in his head. He may have had a spiritual experience, but shouldn't he really be encouraging you to find God/become a Christian if there was anything there. I suspect he is using his spiritual experience to justify something he already wanted. To break up with you.

Sorry, you have to accept who you are. Not try to be who you think someone else wants you to be.

Who you are is not going to be right for everyone but it's right for you.

Do you really want a relationship with someone you can't be yourself around? Maybe you think you do but it will never work out, you won't be happy, I guarantee.

 

[9-10ths_Penguin]

I mean that I'm not a virgin anymore.

Okay. I was worried it meant you had sex with a married man, which would have brought up the issue of assault.

While sex at 14 is early enough that I find it concerning, what bothers me more is the idea that sex should be a point of shame. The fact that you had sex does absolutely nothing to diminish your value as a person. Decent guys will know this.

Consider the possibility that if he thinks that you're "something to be ashamed of," then he's not worth your time... regardless of how it feels at the time.

And if this all happened today, try sleeping on it and see how you feel tomorrow once you've had the chance to digest it.

 

[9-10ths_Penguin]

I say I'm an atheist because I'm not exactly tied to any religion, althought I believe in God It's not common for me to pray to Him.

If you believe in God, you're not an atheist.

 

[YliaChan]

Those are all possibilities. I'm not sure it's about right/wrong decisions or right/wrong interpretations with these things - both you and he are entitled to your own respective opinions on what's happened. If you think you're able, maybe you could listen to each other's takes on this? That can be tough to do - you have to be prepared to leave your ego at the door and really listen to the other person so they feel heard. Maybe you can find a way to talk it through. Maybe not? At the end of the day, I think it's a good idea to show respect for the other person by allowing disagreements to happen. It may be he goes his separate way for now, but you leave a door open by being respectful and listening.

Thank you. And I have listened to him. He keeps saying that he does still have a slight feeling for me but that he believes that his interpretation of God's message is that I'm not right for him. When I looked into the message "Don't do anything you're ashamed of" I feel like God is telling him that he shouldn't be comitting what I think of as "sins" with me (What I mean is we used to make out). I'm not sure if I should believe his interpretation of the message since I'm not really sure what the message exactly means.

 

[YliaChan]

your history and his history are irrelevant. if he asks his pastor and he hears something from God, then obviously his pastor has become god for him. had he asked god directly, he wouldn't have need for a pastor. he's obviously abdicating any responsibility; if he's projecting you're the problem

he broke up with you to have a relationship with his pastor. he'll eventually break up with the pastor too. love resolves everything and is a respecter of none.

Hebrews 8:11
No longer will they teach their neighbor, or say to one another, ‘Know the Lord,’ because they will all know me, from the least of them to the greatest.

Thank you for responding. Does that mean that God thinks I'm the problem? If love resolves everything and is a respector of none then is there a chance that perhaps God can bring that love back into my life?

 

[YliaChan]

If you believe in God, you're not an atheist.

Should I change my religion label then?