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What's Your Opinion of Polyamory?

joe1776

Well-Known Member
According to Dictionary.com, polyamory is the practice or condition of participating simultaneously in more than one serious romantic or sexual relationship with the knowledge and consent of all partners.

I have no problem accepting polyamory, even in lifetime partnerships, because I see nothing immoral in an act unless there's harm done to a victim, an innocent person. If the people involved are happy with it, that's fine with me. This is a general rule for me, of course, there will be exceptional cases of immoral acts that derive from any kind of relationship.

And on a related topic, I think it's morally wrong for the governments in the USA to give special rights to married couples. Marriage is a religious sacrament. Why is the government involved in promoting religion? Domestic agreements can handle the property issues when life partnerships are dissolved.

Your opinions?
 
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Brickjectivity

Turned to Stone. Now I stretch daily.
Staff member
Premium Member
I do not trust it, because I think men have a natural desire to dominate and manipulate. Its bound to our sexual desire, tied in tightly with the testosterone and the machismo that drives procreation. I suspect couples-marriage was formulated as a deterrent to the male tendency to enslave and dominate. I perceive young girls to be vulnerable to manipulation. I personally think that polygamists are risking a complete reversal of the equal social position women have attained in the last centuries. I do not think polygamy is a conspiracy, but to me it appears counterproductive in many of its formulations leading us back to the happy days of barbarism. I'm not saying its terrible, but I think its unstable and will result in reverse feminism if it ever catches on.
 

JJ50

Well-Known Member
It is usually a guy having more than one spouse, you don't hear of women having more than one husband, which is sexist.

I think one should have one partner at a time.
 

9-10ths_Penguin

1/10 Subway Stalinist
Premium Member
And on a related topic, I think it's morally wrong for the governments in the USA to give special rights to married couples. Marriage is a religious sacrament. Why is the government involved in promoting religion? Domestic agreements can handle the property issues when life partnerships are dissolved.
Don't try to co-opt my secular marriage by claiming it for your religion.
 

Jumi

Well-Known Member
It is usually a guy having more than one spouse, you don't hear of women having more than one husband, which is sexist.
That's not the case in all cultures, polyandry still exists.

I think one should have one partner at a time.
It suits me fine too because of my cultural background, however I think people should be allowed choice.
 

joe1776

Well-Known Member
I do not trust it, because I think men have a natural desire to dominate and manipulate. Its bound to our sexual desire, tied in tightly with the testosterone and the machismo that drives procreation. I suspect couples-marriage was formulated as a deterrent to the male tendency to enslave and dominate. I perceive young girls to be vulnerable to manipulation. I personally think that polygamists are risking a complete reversal of the equal social position women have attained in the last centuries. I do not think polygamy is a conspiracy, but to me it appears counterproductive in many of its formulations leading us back to the happy days of barbarism. I'm not saying its terrible, but I think its unstable and will result in reverse feminism if it ever catches on.
I don't know of a scientific study to back it up, but of the dominant-submissive roles in marriages in my experience, women have been equally dominant. In fact, I've always thought it odd that men in positions of power in their work are slave to their wives at home. Often, it is the woman who is pushing her husband's drive to power.
 

SabahTheLoner

Master of the Art of Couch Potato Cuddles
I don't have a problem with polyamory. As long as everyone can function as part of the group and get along, I think it can actually be a healthy thing. I don't actually pursue a polyamorous relationship but I wouldn't mind being in one under certain conditions.
 

SabahTheLoner

Master of the Art of Couch Potato Cuddles
I don't know how common it is, but I have heard of one woman, two male partner relationships.

I have as well. One time a friend of mine was talking their male friend with a boyfriend and girlfriend. I think it's a little more common than most people think for more than one male to be in a polyamorous relationship.
 

joe1776

Well-Known Member
Having seen then blow up more than once, I think they're nothing but trouble.
I don't know that many to be able to claim that their failure rate is better or worse than marriages which seem to have about a fifty-fifty chance in my experience.

However, the failure rate is not relevant as I see it. Relationships are difficult. My opinion is that there's nothing immoral about the arrangement so I wish them luck.
 
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9-10ths_Penguin

1/10 Subway Stalinist
Premium Member
I'm not sure what you meant. I don't have a religion.
Then don't try to co-opt it for someone else's religion.

I have a secular marriage; it has nothing to do with religion. If you aren't interested in a secular marriage for yourself, that's your choice, but don't try to make that choice for others.

There's nothing inherently religious about marriage. If religions want to celebrate it, fine. If people want to assign special religious significance to their own marriages, fine too. But none of this means they have any claim to the marriages of people who don't even belong to their religions.
 

Brickjectivity

Turned to Stone. Now I stretch daily.
Staff member
Premium Member
I don't know of a scientific study to back it up, but of the dominant-submissive roles in marriages in my experience, women have been equally dominant. In fact, I've always thought it odd that men in positions of power in their work are slave to their wives at home. Often, it is the woman who is pushing her husband's drive to power.
Its possible that the human equation is changing since women are living longer now, but I think not by enough.
 

joe1776

Well-Known Member
Then don't try to co-opt it for someone else's religion.

I have a secular marriage; it has nothing to do with religion. If you aren't interested in a secular marriage for yourself, that's your choice, but don't try to make that choice for others.

There's nothing inherently religious about marriage. If religions want to celebrate it, fine. If people want to assign special religious significance to their own marriages, fine too. But none of this means they have any claim to the marriages of people who don't even belong to their religions.
Other than jumping to conclusions do you go to the gym or get any other exercise? I didn't mention secular marriages in my OP and you took a flying leap to all those conclusions about my opinions on the topic.
 
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