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No.I am afraid of my partner.
Modified: I cannot express negative emotions or feelings without being afraid of making my partner sad.I cannot express my opinions or my feelings without being afraid of my partner's reaction.
No.I always ask my partner for permission to see my family or friends, to spend money, or to buy something for myself.
No.I constantly manipulate myself, my children and my environment in order to make things "just so" for my partner.
No.I try and try to please my partner only to be criticized again.
No.I sometimes feel like I am living with two people, a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde.
Concerned would be a better word, yes.I am confused about the difference in the way my partner views our relationship and the way I see it.
This applies more to my family and not at all to my partner.I am beginning to believe all the terrible things my partner says about me and accuses me of. Sometimes I'm not sure what is real anymore. Maybe I'm going crazy.
I don't want to turn a serious thread in the wrong direction, but I have felt like this with every female I have been involved with. It happens for nearly a week every month that Mrs. Hyde comes out....I sometimes feel like I am living with two people, a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde...
Here are eight signs of partner abuse. Please answer "yes" or "no" to each statement.
I am afraid of my partner.
I cannot express my opinions or my feelings without being afraid of my partner's reaction.
I always ask my partner for permission to see my family or friends, to spend money, or to buy something for myself.
I constantly manipulate myself, my children and my environment in order to make things "just so" for my partner.
I try and try to please my partner only to be criticized again.
I sometimes feel like I am living with two people, a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde.
I am confused about the difference in the way my partner views our relationship and the way I see it.
I am beginning to believe all the terrible things my partner says about me and accuses me of. Sometimes I'm not sure what is real anymore. Maybe I'm going crazy.
If you answered "yes" to four or more of these eight signs of partner abuse, you are being abused. Please talk to a doctor, therapist, counsellor, pastor, or other professional about it as soon as possible. If you do not have the option of talking with a professional about it, talk with a friend or someone you respect.
I don't want to turn a serious thread in the wrong direction, but I have felt like this with every female I have been involved with. It happens for nearly a week every month that Mrs. Hyde comes out.
abuse is a very overused term and is a Godsend to all kinds of therapists,counsellors and quacks who make a good living from pandering to mainly womens hysteria and hyperbole they may have spotted somewhere in a womans magazine, sorry to disagree but nearly all of those 'signs of abuse ' are present in i would guess most happy marriages and its human nature for one of the partners to take a lead role in fact I would wager that most people who have read this can see quite a lot of themselves or their relationship in the things you quoted and furthermore I would suggest that the original compiler of this list may have puposely picked out common relationship traits to justify his claims that they amount to spousal abuse
abuse is a very overused term and is a Godsend to all kinds of therapists,counsellors and quacks who make a good living from pandering to mainly womens hysteria and hyperbole they may have spotted somewhere in a womans magazine, sorry to disagree but nearly all of those 'signs of abuse ' are present in i would guess most happy marriages and its human nature for one of the partners to take a lead role in fact I would wager that most people who have read this can see quite a lot of themselves or their relationship in the things you quoted and furthermore I would suggest that the original compiler of this list may have puposely picked out common relationship traits to justify his claims that they amount to spousal abuse
It's amazing that behavior that's held in such low esteem is more often encouraged on Internet forum debate.Here are eight signs of partner abuse. Please answer "yes" or "no" to each statement.
I am afraid of my partner.
I cannot express my opinions or my feelings without being afraid of my partner's reaction.
I always ask my partner for permission to see my family or friends, to spend money, or to buy something for myself.
I constantly manipulate myself, my children and my environment in order to make things "just so" for my partner.
I try and try to please my partner only to be criticized again.
I sometimes feel like I am living with two people, a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde.
I am confused about the difference in the way my partner views our relationship and the way I see it.
I am beginning to believe all the terrible things my partner says about me and accuses me of. Sometimes I'm not sure what is real anymore. Maybe I'm going crazy.
If you answered "yes" to four or more of these eight signs of partner abuse, you are being abused. Please talk to a doctor, therapist, counsellor, pastor, or other professional about it as soon as possible. If you do not have the option of talking with a professional about it, talk with a friend or someone you respect.
Helllo Kathryn,
Of course I do not know you but I am very pleased that your current marriage is a happy one and working out well,
Life is like that,sometimes we meet the wrong person or at least somebody whom we are often at odds with and this can result in a tempestuous relationship which oddly enough some people seem to thrive on and find exciting although of course I am not insinuating that you fell into that category as it is quite obvious you didn't or you would have remained married to him.
The point I am trying to make is that we are all different and the adage of 'one mans meat' springs to mindd.
Some of us ar lucky and meet the ideal partner at the first attempt whilst others may need several aattempts to find their ideal partner, it takes two to tango and when aa couple are at constant loggerheads then perhaps it is time to forclose the marriage although I do believe that in many circumstances marriages are being annulled these days for far more trivial reasons than your own.
Some years ago I was in a marriage that didn't work out, I wont go into the details or attach blame as to whose fault it was because I believe as a joint enterprise which marriage is then ultimately both parties must bear some responsibility for the ultimate demise of the partnership.
I think attaching the 'term 'survivor' as is the current trend these days seems to indicate that the other party in a failed marriage is deemed to be an abuser but it's more complex than that,
Not trying to trivialise things but I was a survivor of a bad curry last night and I am still 'surviving' the recent bad snows we have had in the UK, I think I a clumsily trying to say that there are many trials and hurdles as we pass through life clinging onto this huge rock speeding through the universe at great speed and undoubtedly we will have both bad and good experiences and perhaps we should all try and just get on with it and accept it for what it is warts and all without regarding ourselves as victims or survivors, we are after all a long time dead
abuse is a very overused term and is a Godsend to all kinds of therapists,counsellors and quacks who make a good living from pandering to mainly womens hysteria and hyperbole they may have spotted somewhere in a womans magazine, sorry to disagree but nearly all of those 'signs of abuse ' are present in i would guess most happy marriages and its human nature for one of the partners to take a lead role in fact I would wager that most people who have read this can see quite a lot of themselves or their relationship in the things you quoted and furthermore I would suggest that the original compiler of this list may have puposely picked out common relationship traits to justify his claims that they amount to spousal abuse