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What Do You Look For in a Mate?

What are MUST HAVE traits?


  • Total voters
    24
  • Poll closed .

Mike182

Flaming Queer
1) looks. when i say looks, i mean the whole package. how someone dresses, how they wear their hair, their physical condition, how clean their skin is... all of these have to be up to scratch! i'm attracted to confident people, and cloths can show great initial confidence. messy hair is something i don't particularly like, and i don't like beards, goatees or mustaches. i'm not particularly interested in a body builder type, but someone who looks after their body and isn't too chubby. Skin and hygiene are very important, so someone who washes daily and uses acne products if they need to.

2) personality. what do i mean by a good personality? someone with a sense of humor, and someone who can understand my sadistic and sarcastic sense of humor. on top of that, someone who is opinionated and has ambitions, dreams and ideals, and is motivated to work towards them. confidence is important in personality because a confident person can freely express the traits i just listed above.

3) intellect. i need someone who can hold a decent conversation. i don't mean someone who has an encyclopedic knowledge, or can complete the crosswords in the papers in under 10 minutes, i mean someone who is relatively well read, and who can understand what people are saying, quickly follow the train of the conversation, and reply in turn. again with the personality traits and the confidence, someone who will argue against me if they disagree.


i don't think those are particularly high standards.... :cover:

Edit: the only poll option i didn't tick was "good job and money", because i don't really care about that. i'm a student, i can live very happily on a budget.
 

Hope

Princesinha
They weren't all listed, but here goes:

1) Strong Christian faith. This is absolutely essential.
2) Kind and considerate....basically an old-fashioned gentleman
3) Nice looking (doesn't have to be a stud, but I do have to be attracted to him)
4) Intelligent
5) Doesn't want to "settle down," willing to travel or live abroad, is adventurous
 

Buttercup

Veteran Member
Doesn't anyone expect their significant other to have a job? :confused:

I wouldn't have expected my mate to have tons of money but I would expect him to work.
 

ChristineES

Tiggerism
Premium Member
Intelligence is a must, he doesn't have to be a genius, but at least have some brains.
Sense of humor- I love to laugh
Kindness and sensitivity- My current husband is not very nice, so if I ever get remarried, then next time I would like someone who doesn't think that it is unmanly to be kind.
Independence.
Although I did not choose it, I would like any mate I choose to have a job. He doesn't need to be rich or anything, which is why I did not choose it. The have a job and have money should be separated in the poll, IMO.
 

Buttercup

Veteran Member
Although I did not choose it, I would like any mate I choose to have a job. He doesn't need to be rich or anything, which is why I did not choose it. The have a job and have money should be separated in the poll, IMO.
That's what I thought too.....but, I just had to pick it because it would be important. I want it all. Well, the being rich part definitely doesn't matter. :p
 

eudaimonia

Fellowship of Reason
What are things you must have in a mate?

I voted for:

Intelligence
Kindness and Sensitivity
Independence

I would add to that: Imagination

Good looks and a nice body are definitely plusses, but not deal-breaking issues.


eudaimonia,

Mark
 

Buttercup

Veteran Member
I voted for:

Intelligence
Kindness and Sensitivity
Independence

I would add to that: Imagination

Good looks and a nice body are definitely plusses, but not deal-breaking issues.
A great sense of humor isn't important to you? That doesn't necessarily mean someone is funny as in cracks a lot of jokes, more that they find the same things funny that you do. Or, they laugh often.

I could not live without that particular attribute. In fact, if I had to trade some in from my list in exchange for humor I would. I feel so fortunate that after all the time my husband and I have been together we still make each other laugh every day...I enjoy his sense of humor and he "gets" mine. :p
 

standing_alone

Well-Known Member
I voted "excellent sense of humor," "intelligence," "kindness and sensitivity," and "independence." Of course, an attractive appearance and decent body (as in, at least trying to be healthy and in shape) is always desirable and if someone horrified or disgusted me everytime I looked at them, it'd be hard to have a relationship, I suppose. But I know I should just accept almost whatever I can get. Which is....*looks around*....nothing. :p
 
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