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Why Do Women Stare?

Cynic

Well-Known Member
guys:rolleyes:

A girl shows some attention and we immediately think she wants to get in our pants.:rolleyes:
Did you not READ what I just posted?

OMG, she totally denied the staring! She's a horrible liar too!
I caught her glancing at me again today!
And, she is totally into me! We had to talk in groups. Towards the end she was looking/trying to talk to me a lot. Making fun of me, etc.
Apparently she just broke up with her boyfriend, so there was something wrong.
 

nutshell

Well-Known Member
Did you not READ what I just posted?

OMG, she totally denied the staring! She's a horrible liar too!
I caught her glancing at me again today!
And, she is totally into me! We had to talk in groups. Towards the end she was looking/trying to talk to me a lot. Making fun of me, etc.
Apparently she just broke up with her boyfriend, so there was something wrong.


Like I said, some interest is shown and you think she wants to jump you. :rolleyes:
 

Cynic

Well-Known Member
Like I said, some interest is shown and you think she wants to jump you. :rolleyes:
I said nothing about sex or "jumping onto me."
It's numerous small details here and there, that I've noticed especially today. I'm especially good at telling when a woman is attracted to me, and in this case there is something going on here.

Moving and sitting next to me, saying my name numerous times, "busting my balls" (i.e. using something about me as a joke), totally mirroring my body language, glancing at me a lot, initiating conversations with me, laughing a lot when I say or do something that isn't so funny, etc, etc.
 

Buttercup

Veteran Member
Ahhh. So this is finally going somewhere, 'eh? Question is......are you still interested? Last update was that you had moved on and lost interest. hehee
 
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angellous_evangellous

Guest
What till you're engaged. That drives girls absolutely bonkers.

I've been married for seven years, and I'm on a college campus that has the hottest (well, second hottest in the nation according to Playboy) girls in the nation. Most think I'm a prof, and I can care less. That drives the hottest girls nuts. Why isn't this guy staring at me (et cetera, she wonders)? I guess they assume I'm gay.

O well.
 

Buttercup

Veteran Member
What till you're engaged. That drives girls absolutely bonkers.

I've been married for seven years, and I'm on a college campus that has the hottest (well, second hottest in the nation according to Playboy) girls in the nation. Most think I'm a prof, and I can care less. That drives the hottest girls nuts. Why isn't this guy staring at me (et cetera, she wonders)? I guess they assume I'm gay.

O well.
Whaaaaat? Are you for real? :areyoucra
 
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angellous_evangellous

Guest
Whaaaaat? Are you for real? :areyoucra

Just a theory... LOL... maybe they're just being nice (or possibly stupid, but I'd never assume that a superlatively gorgeous blonde was stupid). Either way, it's wonderful.

My little brother is under the same dillusion. After he got engaged, he noticed a lot more attention from girls, and he wasn't doing too bad before then.
 
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angellous_evangellous

Guest
Perhaps I need to be more specific...

When a hot girl knows that she is (without doubt) very, very attractive... and I mean the girls that stop traffic... she knows that guys are going to stare at her. When we don't, like for example, me, that causes many of these girls to go a little farther to get attention to reassure themselves that they indeed are quite beautiful. It happens to me all the time.
 

Buttercup

Veteran Member
Just a theory... LOL... maybe they're just being nice (or possibly stupid, but I'd never assume that a superlatively gorgeous blonde was stupid). Either way, it's wonderful.

My little brother is under the same dillusion. After he got engaged, he noticed a lot more attention from girls, and he wasn't doing too bad before then.
What I meant was are you for real in that you could care less about these girls. However, I do see after your first paragraph in response that you are a normal, red blooded male. ;) Phew! I'm kinda relieved actually. :D
 
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angellous_evangellous

Guest
What I meant was are you for real in that you could care less about these girls. However, I do see after your first paragraph in response that you are a normal, red blooded male. ;) Phew! I'm kinda relieved actually. :D

O no, I pretend like I don't care. And to a certain extent, I honestly don't, because my wife is my whole world. I do actually enjoy it quite a bit - in the way that I appreciate fine art. Campus is absolutely beautiful, and I mean beautiful - in the spring. I will miss it when I'm gone.

Indeed, this will be my last spring in wonderland.
 

Sunstone

De Diablo Del Fora
Premium Member
Moving and sitting next to me, saying my name numerous times, "busting my balls" (i.e. using something about me as a joke), totally mirroring my body language, glancing at me a lot, initiating conversations with me, laughing a lot when I say or do something that isn't so funny, etc, etc.

If you like her, ask her out.
 

Cynic

Well-Known Member
Ahhh. So this is finally going somewhere, 'eh? Question is......are you still interested? Last update was that you had moved on and lost interest. hehee
Honestly I'm not as interested as I was before (thank God). I was becoming infatuated too early. I still think about her, though.

I'm not sure if it was good to ask about the staring. I hope it wasn't embarrassing or too personal of a question.
She played dumb and was like "what are you talking about?" "when did this happen?" "I don't know?" "I'm sorry did I scare you?" "Does it make you nervous?" while laughing most of the time. I told her she gave me the "stalker eye," and that I've been stalked before. When I was leaving she was like "my name here, what color was your car again?" I almost said it, but then smiled and walked away. She laughed. I'm thinking about using jokes next time, like telling her "I think I need to get a restraining order."

What's your guys' opinion on this?

Perhaps I need to be more specific...

When a hot girl knows that she is (without doubt) very, very attractive... and I mean the girls that stop traffic... she knows that guys are going to stare at her. When we don't, like for example, me, that causes many of these girls to go a little farther to get attention to reassure themselves that they indeed are quite beautiful. It happens to me all the time.
It's also because hot women are naturally turned on by a challenge. Most guys are too easy, they fall in love with them too fast because guys are weak to visual stimuli (while women are more attracted to personality indicators). When a guy falls hard, he stops being fun and interesting (analogically, it is like a beautiful woman who gains weight and stops taking care of herself. Men are turned off. It is the same for women when it comes to a man's personality). Psychologist George Miller theorized that many of our sexual orientations have gone into the brain. I would say that women look for brain indicators of good health and genes, while men look for visual indicators of fertility.
A specific (strong/secure/independent) mentality within men makes women go wild. Other (weak/insecure/needy) mentalities turn them off.
Anyways, this seemed to be the case with her ex-boyfriend. He was calling her way too much and showing up at this class all the time. Hot women are instantly attracted to the "I don't need you vibe," because it communicates that you are hard to catch, have a life, and aren't going to fall in love with them instantly when a relationship emerges. They are all about the thrill of the chase. Also, being uninterested creates a paradox that makes you to stand out from all the other men. Elusiveness and things that are paradoxical arouse our sense of curiosity. These elements naturally lure women. On the other hand, men who are always staring/approaching/helping--trying to get something out of women (i.e. manipulate the woman to like them)--are held as romantically uninteresting and placed under suspicion. Oddly, when it comes to attracting beautiful women, the opposite of what most people do works.

I've been getting LOTS of attention lately. Frankly I don't care about having a girl right now, I'm completely happy being alone. I come across as very intelligent (I know this girl likes intelligence). Also I've been working on my body language (i.e. carrying myself in a confident and masculine manner).
 

Buttercup

Veteran Member
Honestly I'm not as interested as I was before (thank God). I was becoming infatuated too early. I still think about her, though.

I'm not sure if it was good to ask about the staring. She played dumb and was like "what are you talking about?" "when did this happen?" "I don't know?" "I'm sorry did I scare you?" while laughing most of the time. I told her she gave me the "stalker eye," and that I've been stalked before.

When I was leaving she was like "my name here, what color was your car again?"

I almost said it, but then smiled and walked away. She laughed.

I'm thinking about using jokes next time, like telling her "I think I need to get a restraining order."
I'd just go with the flow. Talk to her if you like. Don't talk to her...whatever you feel compelled to do. It's pretty much out in the open now that there was some interest on both sides, the ice has been broken. Just enjoy yourself. :)

Keep us updated on the ever evolving romantic sagas of Physis the Psychologist. ;)
 

Cynic

Well-Known Member
I'd just go with the flow. Talk to her if you like. Don't talk to her...whatever you feel compelled to do. It's pretty much out in the open now that there was some interest on both sides, the ice has been broken. Just enjoy yourself. :)

Keep us updated on the ever evolving romantic sagas of Physis the Psychologist. ;)
Ya you know, I'm kind of having fun with her. I don't care about the outcome, and that's how I want it to be.
Another thing, when she sat next to me, we got a little close to each other. I don't remember if this was because she was trying to whisper a question to me, but anyways she is totally comfortable being in close proximity. She may have been looking at me intimately, I don't know because I was being myself and not paying much attention.
 

nutshell

Well-Known Member
I said nothing about sex or "jumping onto me."
It's numerous small details here and there, that I've noticed especially today. I'm especially good at telling when a woman is attracted to me, and in this case there is something going on here.

Moving and sitting next to me, saying my name numerous times, "busting my balls" (i.e. using something about me as a joke), totally mirroring my body language, glancing at me a lot, initiating conversations with me, laughing a lot when I say or do something that isn't so funny, etc, etc.

OK, well you have fun with that.
 

MysticSang'ha

Big Squishy Hugger
Premium Member
Hey, what's that supposed to mean? Don't be ambiguous. :slap:

Well, since you truly believe you have men and women (and hot women at that) clearly defined and figured out, the message should not be ambiguous at all to you.

*slap back*:slap:




Peace,
Mystic
 
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