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Just came out

Wirey

Fartist
I just came out to my parents as trans. It wasn't nearly as hard as I had worried it would be (but, then again, I took one-and-a-half xanny bars to keep myself calm and more collected and not let my anxiety cause me to slur and stumble my words), but it does seem it is going to be hard for my parents to adjust to (to be expected).
But how I feel so much better. I feel as if a tremendous and very dark weight has been removed from my shoulders. I don't feel I have to hide, that I don't have to pretend, I feel a sense of tranquility coming on and a diminishing anguish.
There will be the issues of working around my mom saying "but you're a boy," and distancing myself from Jenner, but right now I don't feel it's a struggle to smile.
I also have to mention just how awesome Star Trek: The Next Generation is, because by chance were I was at on the series on Netflix, the episode the Outsider, and episode that deals with transgender issues, just so happened to be playing while I was discussing this.

Congrats. When I was a kid telling my Dodger loving Dad I liked the Yankees was tough, so I can't imagine how difficult that must have been. You should pat yourself on the back for being brave for me.
 

jeager106

Learning more about Jehovah.
Premium Member
And TRAINS have what to do with what?
I don't get it.:shrug::shrug:

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh, TRANS. I GET IT NOW!:facepalm::facepalm:

Well you iz what ya iz so embrace it.:hugehug:


I'm in a 12 step recovery group(s) and for the most part we pay no attention to
such things at all.
We are ALL in a life and death struggle to live "happy, joyous, and free".
That alone requires acceptance of .............................EVERYONE!
There is a lovely girl new to our group. At least I think she is a girl but from the
comments she makes one begins to suspect she might be trans.
She is lovely.
Get that? LOVELY and speaks fine recovery and I LOVE her for that.
Makes no never mind to me about sexual matters.
If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, it's a DUCK!
So IF she is trans who in the #ell would care!?!?!?
I had occasion to see her in the parking lot at a meeting and brazenly approached
her and told her she was a LOVELY person.
O.K. so I'm an old flirt!:facepalm:
She IS lovely.
We in drug and alcohol recovery literally CRAWLED out of HELL!
We've "been there done that" and I've never seen such Agape love anywhere else.
"People that suffer together are closer connected."
My A.A. sponsor, the fellow I can call upon to help me when I feel vulnerable, is
a gay man.
Sooooooooooooooooo?????????????????????
I LOVE him. I'm as straight as a straight man can be but I LOVE that man.
Anyone have issues with that can meet me in the playground after school
and we'll duke it out. :>)
What 'n 'ells sexual preference got to do with living in recovery???
Believe me those that enter recovery and cannot 100% accept others generally
don't last long in recovery.
Often they end up in jails, institutions, divorced, or dead or all that.
My J.W.'s relations would disown me for my accepting nature.
That's o.k as I'll love 'em anyway.:hugehug:
 

Shadow Wolf

Certified People sTabber
My parents went with my to my therapy appointment today, and in reflecting on the past few days, I'm surprised, amazed, and I feel like a large chunk of my own "wall" (I've always been able to identify with Pink from the movie/album The Wall - minus the psychotic tendencies and pseudo-Nazi fantasies) has been torn down. Even my dad, as "old fashioned" and prejudiced as he is (he doesn't even like homosexuals or interracial couples) is accepting of me (I've been telling my therapists he probably won't like, but given how he bottles things up I'll probably never know how he actually feels about it). When my therapist was explaining some of the social issues faced by transsexuals and even their families, my mom stood by her "momma bear" position in that you don't mess with her kids. It's left me feeling like I can finally truly and fully leave all the pain and hurt they've caused me in the past. For once I'm feeling some value from the notion of family.
 

Smart_Guy

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Premium Member
This could sound weird coming from a Muslim in this subject, but I'll have to say it since you're someone I really like. I'm glad this went the way you wanted, SW, and I'm happy for you.

Live happy :)

Edit:
I said it before that the family is who normally cares for us the most in this life. Here's one good experience for that ;)
 
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