Monk Of Reason
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I usually attempt to avoid posting anything about myself and bringing any real life issues to the forum. But in this case I really am lost and I've tried other forums.
For the past five years I have been with the woman that is currently my wife. We have been married for about a year and a half. She has borderline personality disorder and obviously has some troubled issues. I have been thinking no and off more or less the whole relationship if we should really be together or not.
I think in somehow I have been very lonely and the thought of loosing her was too painful. The though of being alone was painful. Actually is was the process of loss that was most painful. Anyway there there was a host of issues that eventually prompted the divorce. She wasn't happy, I wasn't happy, though this goes in and out depending on the day (as it is with borderline individuals).
She feels she is disabled and perhaps she really is but she hasn't ever really attempted to get a job and has never provided a single ounce of income. She hates my family. She hates my friends. She doesn't cook or clean on any sort of regular basis. She has ideas about the future that doesn't match with mine, (she wants to live in a tiny house and I do not, I want kids and she does not).
When I list it out there is a clear and obvious choice that I should leave her. Its not that she is just a terrible person or that I am a terrible person I just don't think that we are right for each other and we should split up. Things aren't working financially, emotionally or in reality any other way.
But now she obviously hates me for trying to break things off and she will be poor as she has no job and no real income other than what I give her.
I feel a crushing guilt for what I am doing to her but I haven't changed my mind that the divorce was the right thing. I just don't know how to deal with the guilt and the sadness coming from this divorce.
For the past five years I have been with the woman that is currently my wife. We have been married for about a year and a half. She has borderline personality disorder and obviously has some troubled issues. I have been thinking no and off more or less the whole relationship if we should really be together or not.
I think in somehow I have been very lonely and the thought of loosing her was too painful. The though of being alone was painful. Actually is was the process of loss that was most painful. Anyway there there was a host of issues that eventually prompted the divorce. She wasn't happy, I wasn't happy, though this goes in and out depending on the day (as it is with borderline individuals).
She feels she is disabled and perhaps she really is but she hasn't ever really attempted to get a job and has never provided a single ounce of income. She hates my family. She hates my friends. She doesn't cook or clean on any sort of regular basis. She has ideas about the future that doesn't match with mine, (she wants to live in a tiny house and I do not, I want kids and she does not).
When I list it out there is a clear and obvious choice that I should leave her. Its not that she is just a terrible person or that I am a terrible person I just don't think that we are right for each other and we should split up. Things aren't working financially, emotionally or in reality any other way.
But now she obviously hates me for trying to break things off and she will be poor as she has no job and no real income other than what I give her.
I feel a crushing guilt for what I am doing to her but I haven't changed my mind that the divorce was the right thing. I just don't know how to deal with the guilt and the sadness coming from this divorce.