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Are there single fathers, who never married, with children in the West?

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Robert.Evans

You will be assimilated; it is His Will.
I completely and absolutely don't understand the mindset that makes people hate and distrust women so much. Did you forget that you came from a woman who carried you for nine months and then had to go through almost-fatal pain to deliver you? Did you forget that you would be nothing without the woman who brought you up and probably fostered you while you were still sucking on your thumb? Let's not even talk about the stretch marks or the possibility of death during labor. Let's not talk about pregnancy or childbirth at all. What about the fact that you basically hate and despise half of the whole world? Your mother, your aunt, your sister, your cousin, your wife, your girlfriend, your classmate, your colleague, your teacher. Possibly even yourself, if you're a woman (and yes, there are misogynistic women; I know some myself).

Sometimes I just don't get people. Sometimes I'm thankful I don't get certain mindsets.
I agree. Like some people just hate men and want to blaim them for everything. I've no doubt you being so broad minded and modern you would agree with that, and would not take a narrow mysandristic approach like some might. Well done for us two that can see just how one sided some people can be.... :p
 

Robert.Evans

You will be assimilated; it is His Will.
um...
He has lost track of his bull ****?
Interesting that.
I mean, my experience has been that when someone honestly and actually believes the bull **** they shovel, they are able to keep track of it.
It is those who do not honestly actually believe that which they shovel who lose track....

Interesting development me thinks.
You 'thinks'? Now that is a development and a form of abuse, all in one. Bravo. Anyway, I have some adults to talk to now. Bye Bye.
 

Draka

Wonder Woman
It was relative to what HE was speaking of which i have already explained and also told that I explained. Are you not reading this or something or is just to wind me up?
You have not explained the reasoning behind your answer. You have simply said it was out of context, which it wasn't. I have even gone back to page 35 where the posts in question originated and have looked and have not found one place where you have explained your rationale for disagreeing with him. The only mention you have made about it is when I pointed it out. Saying something was out of context when it wasn't is not explaining an answer. You gave an answer, then when called upon it said it was out of context (when it wasn't) and then changed your answer. That, sir, is a clear example, near perfect definition actually, of back-pedaling.
 

Robert.Evans

You will be assimilated; it is His Will.
You have not explained the reasoning behind your answer. You have simply said it was out of context, which it wasn't. I have even gone back to page 35 where the posts in question originated and have looked and have not found one place where you have explained your rationale for disagreeing with him. The only mention you have made about it is when I pointed it out. Saying something was out of context when it wasn't is not explaining an answer. You gave an answer, then when called upon it said it was out of context (when it wasn't) and then changed your answer. That, sir, is a clear example, near perfect definition actually, of back-pedaling.
Think what you want, Madam, I have explained it enough.
 

paarsurrey

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Draka

Do you laud the treatment of men as sexual partners with the women in the West?
Regards
 

cocolia42

Active Member
No way. If that were the case, men would have power over women

In the current case, women have power over men. A woman can kill a man's child without his consent. Or she can bring his unwanted child into the world and make him pay for it for the next 18-22 years.
and women would be forced, for roughly 10 months, to be a human incubator AGAINST HER WILL. Your scenario makes women in to lesser humans than men are. Are you actually saying that women are or should be, subjective to men?
What I'm saying is, if a woman doesn't want to carry a child for 9-10 months, then maybe she shouldn't lie down with a man. She made the choice. That baby belongs just as much to the father as it does to her. Women want to have their cake and eat it too. If you want to argue that it's solely the woman's choice, then the man should be able to relinquish all rights and responsibility regardless of the woman's choice to bring that unwanted child into the world, just as the woman relinquishes all responsibility when she chooses not to bring a wanted child into the world.
 

paarsurrey

Veteran Member
In the current case, women have power over men. A woman can kill a man's child without his consent. Or she can bring his unwanted child into the world and make him pay for it for the next 18-22 years.

What I'm saying is, if a woman doesn't want to carry a child for 9-10 months, then maybe she shouldn't lie down with a man. She made the choice. That baby belongs just as much to the father as it does to her. Women want to have their cake and eat it too. If you want to argue that it's solely the woman's choice, then the man should be able to relinquish all rights and responsibility regardless of the woman's choice to bring that unwanted child into the world, just as the woman relinquishes all responsibility when she chooses not to bring a wanted child into the world.

Can't they, the women and the men, and have such a written agreement before making love with one another?
Regards
 

Draka

Wonder Woman
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Draka

Do you laud the treatment of men as sexual partners with the women in the West?
Regards
I think most places in the world still have issues with gender equality both in and outside of relationships. Relationships should be a partnership. Couples should work together in tandem with neither over the other in importance or standing. How each couple does that should be upon them and no one outside the relationship should have any say. It is the stereotyping of gender-roles that can often be an issue. However, if it works better for a couple to have her work and him be a SAHD then that is just as fine as both working or just him working. The problem also arises from gender stereotypes as to how a man should be. By having some men raised up to believe that they need not be emotional, that catering to women and children is "unmanly", that it is a woman's job to primarily take care of the children and that men aren't as fit to be parents as women are...this propagates the erroneous idea that men can walk away and their children still be fine because they have their mother. While in some cases that may be so, it let's men off the hook in child-rearing. If men don't believe they make a strong difference in their children's lives, if they don't step up and connect and be emotional and play and care for their mother and so on all it does is bring about another generation that believes the men don't need to be there. There are wonderful fathers, men who are caring and support their family in more than just financial ways, and unfortunately, they aren't looked upon as "as manly" as some other men which is just stupid. Women should also show more appreciation and gratitude for the men who do step up and fulfill their role. Should not negate their feelings. Should not write them out of their children's lives merely because their relationship fell apart (with exceptions for protection from abuse).

I don't think men are given a fair shake because of how so many are raised to be. A kind sensitive man may well have been bullied for being "soft" when younger, but is a man to be treasured by a woman when older. I wish more men could realize that and remain strong within themselves to be a real man. A man who is a partner on all levels with his spouse.
 

columbus

yawn <ignore> yawn
Women want to have their cake and eat it too.
I have tried multiple times on different threads to make exactly the point of your post. I always get ignored and the responses are irrelevant tangents.
Maybe, since you are a person of boobage, you will get a more direct response from the feminists.
Tom
 

Draka

Wonder Woman
In the current case, women have power over men. A woman can kill a man's child without his consent. Or she can bring his unwanted child into the world and make him pay for it for the next 18-22 years.

What I'm saying is, if a woman doesn't want to carry a child for 9-10 months, then maybe she shouldn't lie down with a man. She made the choice. That baby belongs just as much to the father as it does to her. Women want to have their cake and eat it too. If you want to argue that it's solely the woman's choice, then the man should be able to relinquish all rights and responsibility regardless of the woman's choice to bring that unwanted child into the world, just as the woman relinquishes all responsibility when she chooses not to bring a wanted child into the world.
Then why not lobby for some law which grants men the right to terminate their parental rights within the same amount of time that a woman has to abort? If you could present a valid argument for doing so then take it up the chain.

Oh, and I would certainly hope you wouldn't suggest that a woman who got pregnant by rape should either have to carry the baby or allow the father parental rights if she does. The "father" has no right to anything in that regard in my opinion.
 

Robert.Evans

You will be assimilated; it is His Will.
In the current case, women have power over men. A woman can kill a man's child without his consent. Or she can bring his unwanted child into the world and make him pay for it for the next 18-22 years.

What I'm saying is, if a woman doesn't want to carry a child for 9-10 months, then maybe she shouldn't lie down with a man.
I assume by your picture that you are a woman; if that is the case, your post is even more remarkable for its openess to look at your own genda. Either way, it is refreshing to see someone so honest with what they see instead of backing their own genda no matter what. I applaud you for it.
She made the choice. That baby belongs just as much to the father as it does to her. Women want to have their cake and eat it too. If you want to argue that it's solely the woman's choice, then the man should be able to relinquish all rights and responsibility regardless of the woman's choice to bring that unwanted child into the world, just as the woman relinquishes all responsibility when she chooses not to bring a wanted child into the world.
What an amazingly good point. I must say however, that there has to be some education with some men to make sure they look after their end of the bargian.
Nice hearing you speak again. :)

I think Islam has a lot of things right.
 

Robert.Evans

You will be assimilated; it is His Will.
By having some men raised up to believe that they need not be emotional, that catering to women and children is "unmanly", that it is a woman's job to primarily take care of the children and that men aren't as fit to be parents as women are...this propagates the erroneous idea that men can walk away and their children still be fine because they have their mother
We might also say that women have priority over the children, so for a man, it is not good to bond too much as it is their heart that will be wrecked, not the woman's. One man recently was charged for saying his son's name on facebook even though he is now 18 and lives with his father in England. Courts favour women. That apparently is equality!! If you want the things you ask for, which I mostly agree with, you need to make the equality you claim you want, even if that means you lose the kids when you divorce. I don't think most women would fight for a right to have less.
 

Robert.Evans

You will be assimilated; it is His Will.
Then why not lobby for some law which grants men the right to terminate their parental rights within the same amount of time that a woman has to abort? If you could present a valid argument for doing so then take it up the chain.

Oh, and I would certainly hope you wouldn't suggest that a woman who got pregnant by rape should either have to carry the baby or allow the father parental rights if she does. The "father" has no right to anything in that regard in my opinion.
Okay, hot potato for you--
Depends on what kind of rape it is.
 

paarsurrey

Veteran Member
cocolia42 said:
In the current case, women have power over men. A woman can kill a man's child without his consent. Or she can bring his unwanted child into the world and make him pay for it for the next 18-22 years.

What I'm saying is, if a woman doesn't want to carry a child for 9-10 months, then maybe she shouldn't lie down with a man.
I assume by your picture that you are a woman; if that is the case, your post is even more remarkable for its openess to look at your own genda. Either way, it is refreshing to see someone so honest with what they see instead of backing their own genda no matter what. I applaud you for it.

What an amazingly good point. I must say however, that there has to be some education with some men to make sure they look after their end of the bargian.
Nice hearing you speak again. :)

I think Islam has a lot of things right.
Thanks for the above good point.
Regards
 

columbus

yawn <ignore> yawn
Then why not lobby for some law which grants men the right to terminate their parental rights within the same amount of time that a woman has to abort? If you could present a valid argument for doing so then take it up the chain.

Because, at least here in the USA, we already have far too much irresponsible behavior in terms of sex, procreation, and parenting. I am not in favor of expansion of that. I am inclined to restrict it.
I'm also not too big on using laws. They are a blunt instrument in a complicated situation. This is a new moral challenge and I think we could do better by using other methods when at all possible.
Tom
 

Draka

Wonder Woman
We might also say that women have priority over the children, so for a man, it is not good to bond too much as it is their heart that will be wrecked, not the woman's. One man recently was charged for saying his son's name on facebook even though he is now 18 and lives with his father in England. Courts favour women. That apparently is equality!! If you want the things you ask for, which I mostly agree with, you need to make the equality you claim you want, even if that means you lose the kids when you divorce. I don't think most women would fight for a right to have less.
But who is giving women preferential treatment in the courts? Men. Most judges are men and they are the ones that determine custody. They have been brought up to believe that women are better at nurturing children than men. I have absolutely no issue with men having custody of their children. I actually wish more men did as they would be the preferred parent in many situations. It still all boils down to what we teach our children, specifically our sons. We need to break down gender "norms" and let our boys know they are just as equal to a woman when it comes to parenting. That starts at home. Break down gender molds and stereotypes and let our next generation grow up without their gender determining who and what they can be.
 

Draka

Wonder Woman
Okay, hot potato for you--
Depends on what kind of rape it is.
The only kind of rape I can think of that you might be referring to is statutory. In cases of consensual sex between teens where one is of legal age and one isn't then I can definitely see the father having rights.
 

Robert.Evans

You will be assimilated; it is His Will.
But who is giving women preferential treatment in the courts? Men. Most judges are men and they are the ones that determine custody.
Good point.
They have been brought up to believe that women are better at nurturing children than men.
They are. They bond more for one. The woman has unconditional love. That is important in a child's upbringing.
I have absolutely no issue with men having custody of their children. I actually wish more men did as they would be the preferred parent in many situations. It still all boils down to what we teach our children, specifically our sons. We need to break down gender "norms" and let our boys know they are just as equal to a woman when it comes to parenting.
Don't agree. If men become women, what are women going to become, men? What does that mean then? Women want to work and couldn't care less about their own offspring or that they are useless mothers?
That starts at home. Break down gender molds and stereotypes and let our next generation grow up without their gender determining who and what they can be.

I don't think it is a sterotype that we force on people. I don't think girls and boys do what they are told to do, I think it is normal for them to do that. You know that really don't you. Perhaps this is just you thinking of a perfect world. But it would not be perfect for me. Women tend to be more considerate, men more aggressive. Screaming babies and men like that would not go together well, even if it is not all men. So we are poles apart on that one.
Big surprise eh ;)
 
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