Wearing My Hijab Around Family (preach, experience, pray, bless)

[Holly]

Hi everyone. I can't wear my hijab around friends and family because they would know that I am a Muslim if I did. My family would disown me if they knew I was a Muslim and my friends probably would too. What can I do? Just not wear a hijab?

[jamaesi]

Before I try to help you with this issue, Sister, may I ask how old you are? Something like over 18, under 20 would do if you don't want to be too specific.

[neves]

I have no idea what you are going through... and I myself have not had this particular problem... so I don’t know what advice to give you except... pray to Allah sincerely and I am sure he will show you a path and make it easy for you... also you might want to watch these two Doc on people who had a similar experience... hopefully there is some guidance in it for you...

http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=148

http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=266

May Allah bless you...

[AbuQuteiba]

Allahul musta'aan. I'll try my best to think of a way to help you, my sister.

[Holly]

Originally Posted by Khalila

Before I try to help you with this issue, Sister, may I ask how old you are? Something like over 18, under 20 would do if you don't want to be too specific.

I am 24.

[fullyveiled muslimah]

I never had that problem. I was so bold about it I just came out and said I was muslim, and I got disowned for a year. It hurt, but they got over it. I don't know the specifics of your problems, but I'll venture a bit of advice.

First I'd like to know if you are depending on your family for livlihood sucha s food or shelter. If that's too personal just tell me. If you are, there is wisdom in hiding it. Allah does not wish to make it difficult for you to adhere to His commands.

The first thing I would tell you is to talk to your parents about Islam. Not in a preachy way, just kind of in passing and ascertain their position on it in general. Kind of ease them into getting comfortable discussing Islam with you. Try not to be so afraid, because it will come out sooner or later, and when it does it isn't going to be easy. If you have good parents that ove you, you might be surprised by their reaction. It may hurt them, and they may react initially with anger, but even so they love you. It may be easier to sit them down calmly over dinner at home maybe and tell them. It will be less dramatic and you can get on with living after that. The best approach in my opinion is to face it head on sis. It is hard to do when we fear the loss of our parents love and approval, but it will all work out for the better insha Allah.

[kellyjaz]

Talk to them about islam slowly.

Saalaaams.
Wish you all the best sis.

[Isa Islam]

Understand Allah loves and rewards the notion, patence. Patience isnt only waiting for people, it is resiliance. It sounds like a deep situation, try askimam.com, they are very helpful in these matters. If your family respect and love you, (IN NO WAY AM I SAYING THEY DONT) they would accept your new life. Advise them of your practises, and that you will be living a moral, righteous, justified way of life. Advise your family it will have little if any effect on them. Allah swt doubles the reward of muslim reverts, you are so fortunate sister. You brother in Islam.

[Katzpur]

First off, Holly, I would make every effort to decide for yourself what you really are. Since you've been on this forum, you've been just about every religion known to man. I seriously thought you were LDS at one point, but somewhere along the line, I realized you weren't.

Maybe you could handle the hijab issue this way: Wear it only one day a week, since you're only a Muslim about one day a week anyway. If your family gives you a hard time, tell them you're going to a costume party or something. Now before anybody jumps down my throat, it is not my intention to be disrespectful towards Muslims. I would never ridicule someone's religious clothing. What I have a hard time with is somebody who is a different religion every couple of weeks, and posts questions that sincere believers, like the Muslims who have responded in good faith to your OP, do their best to answer. It's one thing to be undecided, but I don't think that's the game that's being played here.

[K.Venugopal]

Originally Posted by Holly

I can't wear my hijab around friends and family because they would know that I am a Muslim if I did.

If you are living in liberal democratic societies, your switching religion and dress style would not be grudged by anyone and you would have legal protection. But if you were living in Saudi Arabia (the citadel and bastion of Islam) and a Muslim there, you would probably be arrested if you were to convert to Christianity or Hinduism and display your new religious enthusiasm openly.