Is it just me, or..

Father Heathen · #1 02-18-2010, 08:47 AM

..does it seem like those who tend to disrespect and mistreat women also tend to have better success with women?

MysticSang'ha · #2 02-18-2010, 08:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Father Heathen

..does it seem like those who tend to disrespect and mistreat women also tend to have better success with women?

In the short run, maybe. Women who don't pay attention close enough fall for men who look on the surface to be assertive and confident. Those who DO pay attention see pretty quickly if those are really traits of extreme narcissism.

Storm · #3 02-18-2010, 08:57 AM

Unfortunately, there are a lot of women who don't pay attention.

tumbleweed41 · #4 02-18-2010, 09:00 AM

Speaking for myself, I have always been respectful to women. And before I was married, was quite successful with the ladies I pursued.

Onkara · #5 02-18-2010, 09:00 AM

It is a common impression. Don't be mislead, there are women who like kind, gentle and studious/intellectual men. But don't mistake "kind and gentle" to mean submissive and absent minded. I think everyone likes someone who can make decisions and be a friend and partner too.

MysticSang'ha · #6 02-18-2010, 09:04 AM

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Unfortunately, there are a lot of women who don't pay attention.

That is true. I wonder how much of it stems from the kind of cultural conditioning that assumes that women ought to be sexually available for men on men's own terms. Or that it is thought to be unattractive to be "picky." So too many women dysfunctionally swing the pendulum in the opposite direction and allow themselves to be doormats.

Onkara · #7 02-18-2010, 09:07 AM

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Originally Posted by MysticSang'ha

That is true. I wonder how much of it stems from the kind of cultural conditioning that assumes that women ought to be sexually available for men on men's own terms. Or that it is thought to be unattractive to be "picky." So too many women dysfunctionally swing the pendulum in the opposite direction and allow themselves to be doormats.

My impression that it is normally a by product of entering into a relationship with the type of person who thinks first about themselves. That is taken as confidence and masculinity at first. That self interested and egoism isn't always apparent when entering a relationship, the sexual attraction is, it isn't until a few months in then the fun turns to inconsideration and she ends up as a doormat.

MysticSang'ha · #8 02-18-2010, 09:19 AM

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My impression that it is normally a by product of entering into a relationship with the type of person who thinks first about themselves. That is taken as confidence and masculinity at first. That self interested and egoism isn't always apparent when entering a relationship, the sexual attraction is, it isn't until a few months in then the fun turns to inconsideration and she ends up as a doormat.

You just described perfectly my first marriage.