discussing sexuality (conservative)

[robtex]

Originally Posted by Sunstone

Isn't technique one of the most overlooked and ignored aspects of human sexuality? I can recall very few conversations I've had with anyone on it.

I think it probably is and it is a shame. Even at the most basic level of kissing. When I ask women what they like about kissing they can usually tell me how it makes them feel but not describe any techniques. There is technique in everything about sexuality from foreplay to the cuddling in aftermath irregardless if it acknowledged or not.

As a footnote, the best kissers I have ever experienced all had the commonality of using technique in their kisses as opposed to just lots of tongue or pressing lips.

I have never read any of it but I understand Kama Sutra may be a technial look at sexuality.

[michel]

Originally Posted by robtex

I think it probably is and it is a shame. Even at the most basic level of kissing. When I ask women what they like about kissing they can usually tell me how it makes them feel but not describe any techniques. There is technique in everything about sexuality from foreplay to the cuddling in aftermath irregardless if it acknowledged or not.

As a footnote, the best kissers I have ever experienced all had the commonality of using technique in their kisses as opposed to just lots of tongue or pressing lips.

I have never read any of it but I understand Kama Sutra may be a technial look at sexuality.

being dispraxic (no hand eye coordination) (or any other coordination for that matter) the thought of Kissing techniques alone frighten me; as far as the kama Sutra is concerned, you are right, although I have never looked at it; I have too much respect for chandeliers and other ceiling fitments.

[robtex]

Originally Posted by michel

being dispraxic (no hand eye coordination) (or any other coordination for that matter) the thought of Kissing techniques alone frighten me; as far as the kama Sutra is concerned, you are right, although I have never looked at it; I have too much respect for chandeliers and other ceiling fitments.

Forget hand and eye coordination than. Use you sense of touch and working on waxing and waning rhythms. Use your sense of touch for angling and positoning on kissing. Besides your hands should probably touch before (dramatic pause works well with kissing) your lips do anyway. That factors timing out of hand/eye or hand/lip coordination.

[michel]

Originally Posted by jgallandt

michel, I'm not sure what you mean.

You said

My wife and my sex life is very healty, because we talk about our likes and dislikes. I know what she likes and wants and visa versa, and we both try to satisfy each others fantasies.

To which I replied

I find that as it should be, but admirable; I am sure that pride stands in the way of what you and Rebecca have, in other relationships

In other words, I find it admirable that your relationship is as good as it is for the two of you to feel that way, and then went on to say that I am sure pride in others' relationships stops those people from having the same kind of mutually good relationship as you and Rebecca have...............Sorry if I wrote it badly!

[Zephyr]

My partners and I have always been pretty darn open about everything. For the most part, they're just dudes in a chick's body. If one of us wants to try something new, then just go ahead and say it. No hangups.

[Sunstone]

Originally Posted by Robtex

I have never read any of it but I understand Kama Sutra may be a technial look at sexuality.

It's not as technical as it's hyped to be. The Joy of Sex far surpasses it.

[Fluffy]

Wow Robtex, me and you seem to be pretty much identical in this respect!

I don't think she was; she was really one of the most uncomplicated people I think I have ever met. No one even liked her except for me (my parents, my friends) , and I was totally besotted by her.

I think I know the kind of person you mean. I always find it very sad that other people cannot see what I see in this case.

Wow I didn't realise that technique wasn't a big factor. Surely if you are insecure, its one of the things you are going to be worried about and everyone is insecure the first time . If I'm feeling self concious then I'll just focus on my technique as much as possible to distract myself lol.

[Quoth The Raven]

Originally Posted by Fluffy

Wow I didn't realise that technique wasn't a big factor. Surely if you are insecure, its one of the things you are going to be worried about and everyone is insecure the first time . If I'm feeling self concious then I'll just focus on my technique as much as possible to distract myself lol.

If you spend too much time focussed on technique, you're going to end up being a bit wooden. No pun intended.
I've always made a point of asking if people have any specific likes.Always seemed to work out just fine...though some people can be a little taken aback by the directness of the question.