Question for those who believe homosexuality is immoral.

[Charity]

Originally Posted by a_student

I would still love my child but I would disapprove of the lifestyle. It would be the same if my son decided to be a bank robber. I certainly wouldn't approve but I wouldn't disown him either. If a person thinks homosexuality is immoral, then so what? There are lots of things that are immoral and I guarantee every one of us has done at lest one immoral thing in our lives.

I resent that I have never done anything immoral in my life....er, well....there was that time.....uh, .... just joking with you....
I may not be over joyed at finding out my child was a homosexual, but I would love them and accept them anyway...They would have to make their own decision and I would abide with that decision......

[Father Heathen]

Anyone else?

[Starfish]

Originally Posted by not4me

I am sure I can find many licensed psychiatrists who treat homosexuality where I live. No worries.
I forgot to add that stories of those who overcame homosexuality would be inspirations for my child during his struggle and a hope for change.

There are some who do overcome it. This is very underreported. Possibly these are the ones who were environmentally influenced somehow, rather than seemingly born with it.
I would offer professional help to my child if they were open to it. That in addition to my earlier post #20.

[Father Heathen]

Originally Posted by Starfish

There are some who do overcome it. This is very underreported. Possibly these are the ones who were environmentally influenced somehow, rather than seemingly born with it.
I would offer professional help to my child if they were open to it. That in addition to my earlier post #20.

How can you be sure they simply aren't being pressured into repressing their sexuality and living in denial?

[Dunemeister]

Originally Posted by Father Heathen

How can you be sure they simply aren't being pressured into repressing their sexuality and living in denial?

Presumably, the "professional help" would be open to that possibility and explore it.

[Dunemeister]

Originally Posted by Father Heathen

What would you do if one of your children (if you don't have any pretend you do for the sake of the question) came out and confessed to being homosexual? How would you react? Kick them out of the house? Disown them? Beat them with a belt?

It's extremely difficult to answer this question in advance of the event. I believe that predominantly homosexual attraction is a sexual disorder, and my child would have been taught this. A lot would depend on two things. First, in the process of coming out, the child had come to reject that interpretation, seeing homosexual attraction as healthy but not mainstream. Second, how old is the child?

Obviously, if the child is grown up, things are much different than if the child is still, say, teenaged. The younger the child, the more right the parent has to demand certain behaviors from their children. I can insist, for example, on my 14-year-old child remaining chaste, regardless of sexual orientation. I can also take more authority over the child's education and counseling or whatever. If the child is in their 20s and lives independently, the parent only has moral persuasion available to influence behavior.

As to the first issue, again the response depends somewhat on age. If the child is older, grown up say, then I can only remind him or her what they've been taught. If they insist on rejecting that, I guess I'd have to insist on chaste behavior while under my roof. What he or she does in their own bedroom is no concern of mine.

It's more difficult to imagine whether I'd go to a gay wedding or how I'd respond to gay PDAs. (It would certainly be wrong for the gay child to flaunt his or her sexuality in my presence, knowing I object.) I hope that my love for my child would create a certain allowance for such things, but I just don't know. How could anyone know, in advance of the event?

[mball1297]

Originally Posted by Dunemeister

Presumably, the "professional help" would be open to that possibility and explore it.

I'm not sure any professional help that was treating homosexuality as a disorder to be fixed would be very open-minded.

[Scott C.]

Originally Posted by Father Heathen

What would you do if one of your children (if you don't have any pretend you do for the sake of the question) came out and confessed to being homosexual? How would you react? Kick them out of the house? Disown them? Beat them with a belt?

FH, think of something you believe to be immoral. How would you react if one of your children was doing it regularly? Kick them out of the house? Disown them? Beat them with a belt?