Pre-marital Sex (moral, virginity, abstinence, choice, hell)

[Aria]

What are peoples views on pre-marital sex. As i have stated in other treads i believe that pre-marital sex is justifiable.

Moving topic to Religious Debates.

[Linus]

I don't believe that pre-marital sex is right. But that is only because the Bible says it isn't. If you are not a christian your view might not be the same, but there are many non-christisans who believe it isn't right.

[Lightkeeper]

It does increase the population and create single parents. I think it is healthier all around to wait until married. I feel sorry for the people who have big weddings and they have been living together for several years.

[Linus]

I agree. Besides that, it increases the risks of attracting an STD. And although you may not get one, you are still exposing yourself to the risk.

[Pah]

Pre-marital sex has many motivations. Pleasure is the most obvious but "coming of age", social status (bragging rights for males), peer pressure (I'm the only girl my age that hasn't done it yet), desire to form a bond - all these (and more?) may play a role in for some individuals.

All-in-all sex is a powerful attraction. Some studies have shown that even amongst those that take a pledge of abstinence, many fail to hold it until marriage. The "Abstinence only" programs of sexual education only serve to delay by one or two years the onset of sexual activity and, in fact, those ascribing to the pledge produce a higher incidence of pre-marital pregnancy and STD's

[Ardhanariswar]

i dont believe in premarital sex. not because of scripture and bible. i really want to have my first time with someone that i know for a long (long) time and really really love and trust. well, the kind of sex im talking about is different, and thats a thread topic all on its own. haha.

[Ceridwen018]

Gettin' kinky on us Gerani? :wink:

[tumble_weed]

o_O

eh....this is in the Atheism...why?

and I don't really think it's wrong at all...if both parties are concenting etc...why does it matter?

[Sunstone]

It seems to me the key moral issues in sex are such things as whether both partners have love and respect for each other, treat each other decently, listen to each other, can disagree without contempt, etc. Those factors are morally important regardless of whether the sex takes place pre or post marriage.

Maybe I’m just dense, but I cannot see how waiting until marriage makes sex more special than it already is between two people who love, respect, and enjoy each other.

I think there is something to be said for the notion that most people will never make a more important decision in their lives than who to marry. I’ve read that nine out of ten people engage in premarital sex, and given both the importance of marriage, and the importance of sex to marriage, I can think of engaging in premarital sex as mere justified prudence.

[Bastet]

I'm a firm believer in Try Before You Buy... :lol:

Seriously though, I think this is something that is strictly a matter of personal choice, and preventing pregnancy and STD's comes down to education. I am the daughter of a teenage mother. My mum fell pregnant with my older sister when she was 15 (and had me at 21). I was determined not to repeat her life, and I didn't lose my virginity until I was 18 and had moved out of home. I have been sexually active for 10 years, have had my share of pre-marital sex, and have never fallen pregnant or gotten an STD. If someone wants to wait until they're married, then that's just fine. Personally, it's not for me. Just for the record though, divorce creates a hell of a lot of single mothers too. :wink: