How to get over being promoted.

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step one give small reqeust
step two give big reqeust
step tree give small order
step four give big order
step five give deadline
step six give raise/reprimand
step seven fire/hire someone

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Originally Posted by stacey bo bacey

I'm sure there are lots of people here who have been promoted to a position where you're suddenly in charge. How did you handle it? How did it make you feel? What about others who had been there much longer and you come in and get promoted?

I don't mind telling people what to do, but I do mind when they don't do it. I'd prefer not to have to confront people or write them up, but I understand that it's part of my job.

Originally Posted by angellous_evangellous

What REALLY sucks the big fat monkey nut is getting the "promotion" without getting more pay.

I recently got a promotion with the possibility of getting a bigger office. Yippie.

What's even worse: Back when I worked for the state, several of my co-workers were promoted at once. They all had window offices with no doors, and the bureaucratic pecking order dictated that at their new level they should have doors on their offices. They all had to move from their window offices to interior offices with doors but no windows, and they were pretty ticked off about it.

[gnomon]

Originally Posted by stacey bo bacey

I got promoted at work, for the second time, and I'm having trouble with it. Not to the point where I can't do my job. The part that makes me really uncomfortable is now I have the power to tell people what to do, and it's part of my job to do that.

I used to be part of the group that got told what to do and now I'm on the other side of it. I HATE soooo much telling people what to do, even though I always am nice about it and I make sure to say "please" and "thank you."

It's just that...I hate that job, too (not so much now because of the pay raise). But I hated being told what to do even though I applied there and agreed to work there...it still blew chunks. Now it's like I'm handing that **** out to other people. Also, it's like...I'm friends with EVERYONE there...and now I'm their manager. I cringe when I ask someone to do something...

I'm sure there are lots of people here who have been promoted to a position where you're suddenly in charge. How did you handle it? How did it make you feel? What about others who had been there much longer and you come in and get promoted?

Any advice would be soooooo awesome, thank you!

I can tell you what not to do. When you are in a position of delegating responsibility then do just that. Don't do their jobs for them.

That was my mistake. It hurts you in taking on too much and when it comes to having people complete tasks I took care of prior to moving into management I hurt others by not properly training them up.

Of course, once I saw my first review and found out my pay was rated higher on sheer numbers (sales, secret shops, etc.) which translates to the work ethics of the employees I learned fast not to let bruising relationships ensure the integrity of my own work. Sounds rough but no one gains anything by letting others shirk responsibility. Quite frankly, that applies to both at work and out of work.

The best thing that helps me keep employees doing their tasks and not feeling despised by being the boss is working hard, backing the employees in customer conflicts when appropriate (not bending to every jerk trying to get their way) and also doing what it takes to get tasks done. But once again, just don't get to where you are doing other peoples job for them unnecessarily.

[YmirGF]

My piece of advice is related to what gnomon was saying about delegating. Try to stay clear of micro-managing your employees. It's a trap that many new managers fall into. Likewise don't forget that a promotion can also serve as a fast track to the front door.

[Don Penguinoini]

Get OVER being promoted? If they are paying you more money, i would be over the moon

I am sure you are a nice person. I guess that the right tone of voice, and not telling them to do every little thing is what it takes. If you see something that needs to be done, wait for them to do it, then say something

[Sententia]

Originally Posted by stacey bo bacey

I got promoted at work, for the second time, and I'm having trouble with it. Not to the point where I can't do my job. The part that makes me really uncomfortable is now I have the power to tell people what to do, and it's part of my job to do that.

I used to be part of the group that got told what to do and now I'm on the other side of it. I HATE soooo much telling people what to do, even though I always am nice about it and I make sure to say "please" and "thank you."

It's just that...I hate that job, too (not so much now because of the pay raise). But I hated being told what to do even though I applied there and agreed to work there...it still blew chunks. Now it's like I'm handing that **** out to other people. Also, it's like...I'm friends with EVERYONE there...and now I'm their manager. I cringe when I ask someone to do something...

I'm sure there are lots of people here who have been promoted to a position where you're suddenly in charge. How did you handle it? How did it make you feel? What about others who had been there much longer and you come in and get promoted?

Any advice would be soooooo awesome, thank you!

I can completely relate to this... as far as advice on how to deal with it... I dunno... I am still working on it.

[zenzero]

Friends,
This thread was started and tapered in Jan but friend Jeremiah333 revived yesterday.
Appears we have lots of friends with similar situations.
Am sure friend stacey bo bacey will be able to relate all her experiences since Jan for everyone's benefit.
Love & rgds