LADIES: How much of what you say and do can you blame on PMS? (mystic, choice)

[Bishka]

What do you think?

I'm also making a men's thread



1) Is a woman ever allowed to blame what she says and does fully on PMS?

2) Is it allowed some of the time?

3) Are there certaint things that are allowed and not others?

4) Why do we feel when we are PMS that everyone should drop what they are doing and care about us?

5) I hate PMS.

[MysticSang'ha]

Originally Posted by beckysoup61

What do you think?

I'm also making a men's thread



1) Is a woman ever allowed to blame what she says and does fully on PMS?

2) Is it allowed some of the time?

3) Are there certaint things that are allowed and not others?

4) Why do we feel when we are PMS that everyone should drop what they are doing and care about us?

5) I hate PMS.

1) and 2) Can't say that anyone can "blame" PMS completely for behavior and choice of verbage, but one can certainly attribute the hormonal influence on moods. That's why it's very important for a woman to inform others that she is PMSing, and then retreat to the nearest Costco, buy a large bag of Hershey's chocolate kisses, and then pig out in the car while crying and listening to Air Supply.



3) To me, the one thing that is allowed during PMS is for us to be able to do away with taking care of others and to take care of our own bodies. This eases nearly 95% of all PMS mishaps. The other 5% I claim temporary insanity.



4) IMHO, it's because the hormonal surges and ups and downs completely overwhelm us and our moods. There are times when we feel completely out of control, and that can be scary. We rally around a sick family member, so it seems obvious that we'd like a family to rally around us. There is nothing wrong with this.



5) PMS sucks.




The best thing to do is to call a girlfriend or your mom or whatever woman you have a good relationship with, and tell her you need to meet her for some PMS medicine. Another woman will nearly always give you a shoulder to cry on, especially when you tell her that you're PMSing.




Peace,
Mystic

[Buttercup]

Originally Posted by beckysoup61

What do you think?

1) Is a woman ever allowed to blame what she says and does fully on PMS?

Hmmm. Sounds like you are looking for a total free ride, Becky. I say absolutely not. The word "fully" was the catch phrase for me. If you find that PMS drives you to do things you wouldn't normally do, I think it's ok to say, "I'm sorry....I must be PMSing."

2) Is it allowed some of the time?

I've noticed if I tell my husband I think I'm PMSing....he usually understands. And for some reason to simply explain why I'm feeling really grumpy.....takes the edge off most of the time. Stay away from caffeine during those times too.

4) Why do we feel when we are PMS that everyone should drop what they are doing and care about us?

Well, I can't imagine I'd get away with this but sure would be nice. I bet if you explain to your husband that you're feeling really stressed and grumpy, he will try to do his best to make you feel better.

5) I hate PMS.

Amen Sister! It's all friggin Eve's fault!

[Bishka]

Originally Posted by Buttercup

Stay away from caffeine during those times too.
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That would explain today.

[evearael]

1) Is a woman ever allowed to blame what she says and does fully on PMS?
No, not fully. PMS certainly causes hormones and emotions to run wilder than normal, but responsibility still rests on the individual.
2) Is it allowed some of the time?
My husband and I have a policy to always inform each other if we are particularly stressed or in a bad mood. We also let the other know if they are acting out of sorts so it can be dealt with appropriately. Sometimes we'll just warn each other to stay away while cooling off, sometimes venting and massages are in order. I've found talking about being stressed and hormonal early on keep unnecessary conflicts to a minimum.
3) Are there certaint things that are allowed and not others?
Understandable reactions for myself include a shorter fuse, venting and crying easily. I still apologize if I realize I'm letting my hormones do the talking. Absolutely unacceptible behavior would include things like abuse and other acts of violence regardless of whether it is physical, emotional, psychological, sexual, and so on.
4) Why do we feel when we are PMS that everyone should drop what they are doing and care about us?
I'm more emotionally fragile and thus I need more reassurance.
5) I hate PMS.
Amen!*

Originally Posted by Buttercup

It's all friggin Eve's fault!

No, it's not!


* Actually, isn't PMS good news for you right now?

[Bishka]

Originally Posted by evearael

* Actually, isn't PMS good news for you right now?

Yeah it is.

I haven't yet (had a visit from Tom), but I'm certainly feeling like I'm going to.

[Katzpur]

From the perspective of an "older woman":

The one and only negative thing about menopause is that you can no longer use this an excuse.

[Buttercup]

Originally Posted by beckysoup61

I haven't yet (had a visit from Tom), but I'm certainly feeling like I'm going to.

Haaaa! I call it "Uncle Charlie". Usually I'll say something like, "Um, sweetie.....Uncle Charlie has come to visit again." and Rick will say, "Tell him to pack up his bags and leave....we don't like him."

[Bishka]

Originally Posted by Buttercup

Haaaa! I call it "Uncle Charlie". Usually I'll say something like, "Um, sweetie.....Uncle Charlie has come to visit again." and Rick will say, "Tell him to pack up his bags and leave....we don't like him."

I've heard my friend Tom, Aunt Flo and a number of other names. I've had guys come up and ask up and ask about my friend Tom (like he was a real person) or my Aunt Flo.

That is a bit emabarssing.

[Ðanisty]

Originally Posted by beckysoup61

1) Is a woman ever allowed to blame what she says and does fully on PMS?

Not fully...no. Everyone is still responsible for their actions.

2) Is it allowed some of the time?

I think it's a good idea to let the people closest to you know that you're having PMS. It's not an excuse, but it sure leaves them a little less confused and more prepared to forgive some of your actions.

3) Are there certaint things that are allowed and not others?

It's okay to be grumpy, but it's not okay to hurt people.

4) Why do we feel when we are PMS that everyone should drop what they are doing and care about us?

It's a time of need. Everyone would like some attention in their time of need.

5) I hate PMS.

Not as much as I hate it. I don't even want kids so I can't even see the benefits of menstruation.

Originally Posted by Buttercup

It's all friggin Eve's fault!

Nah, it's God's fault. He's the one who decided it would happen.

By the way, I'm glad I'm not the only person here who listens to Air Supply...