Can You Be Angry and Love at the Same Time?

[Jeremy Mason]

Originally Posted by tomspug

This isn't a question of whether or not anger is a bad thing. It is a question of whether or not you can simultaneously be angry with someone and be giving them love.

If you feel angry at someone you love, are you loving them in that moment as well, or is it in remembering that you love them that causes anger to subside?

Anger has two children:
1) Disappointment of the current circumstances and
2) Hope that the circumstances will change for the better

[UltraViolet]

Originally Posted by idea

IMO it is impossible to separate anger from love. You can love without anger, you cannot be really angry without love. If it is a complete stranger that you don't care about there is no need to feel anything but indifference towards them. You get angry because part of you cares about them.

If you did not care about them, you would not care at all - you would not be angry.

Well what if a stranger did something that seriously hurt one of your loved ones?
Either on purpose, or out of neglagence.

What if someone was a busy body? Or jealous of you? And did/said something unjust/untrue that caused you all kinds of problems in the end?

[science_is_my_god]

Some psychologists have the theory that the human brain is only capable of experiencing one emotion at a time. But since our brain can change thoughts in less then .01 seconds, it can seem like we are angry and love at the same time.

[Sonic247]

I think love is a constant, it endures through the times of anger. Kind of like how the sun is still there even if it's a cloudy day.

[idea]

Originally Posted by UltraViolet

Well what if a stranger did something that seriously hurt one of your loved ones?
Either on purpose, or out of neglagence.

My friend's mom was in a gymn when a stranger came in a shot a bunch of people there. moms died in front of their kids... She was upset at the situation, but strangly had no anger towards the stranger. She was able to forgive him very easily.

What if someone was a busy body? Or jealous of you? And did/said something unjust/untrue that caused you all kinds of problems in the end?

For me, I would still just be angry at the situation, not at the person. I know others might be different, but the only way to get me really really angry is if it is someone I really really care about.

[UltraViolet]

Originally Posted by idea

My friend's mom was in a gymn when a stranger came in a shot a bunch of people there. moms died in front of their kids... She was upset at the situation, but strangly had no anger towards the stranger. She was able to forgive him very easily.

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But did HER child or loved one die?
That would make it a whole different thing.
Completely.

How can you "forgive" someone who has not directly hurt YOU or "yours" anyway?

[zenzero]

Friend Tomspug,

Can You Be Angry and Love at the Same Time?

Most Parents amy show anger but deep down they do so out of love.
Anycase Anger and Love are two poles of the same stick. Like North and South pole like God and Satan. Both has to exists together at differnt ends. One can only exits if the other is there.
Love & rgds

[ChristineES]

Note- I am speaking generally here, I am not answering anyone's post. I thought I had better say that.

Anger is not hate. Hate is the opposite of love, anger is not the opposite of love. I think there are some who don't know the difference between anger and hate. Anger is disappointment; usually when someone does or does not do something you think they should or should not have done. Hate is a feeling of absolute repulsion and/or revulsion in someone.
I, personally, have never hated anyone- But I have been angry many times.

[idea]

Originally Posted by zenzero

Friend Tomspug,


Most Parents amy show anger but deep down they do so out of love.
Anycase Anger and Love are two poles of the same stick. Like North and South pole like God and Satan. Both has to exists together at differnt ends. One can only exits if the other is there.
Love & rgds

I agree.