Restraining Order Help!! (divorce)

[Saint Tigeress]

Originally Posted by John_672

Florida Courthouse Info
Just Googled - "Florida Restraining Order"

Remember, Google is your friend.

Hey!! I did use google! I just disn't put in the right words I guess??? Thanx tho!!!

[Saint Tigeress]

Oh my, the process for that restraining order is tedious. I will also have to go to court and testify about everything with him PRESENT. I don't know if I have the nerve. Talk about an anxiety attack. I don't know if I will be able to do that with him staring me down the entire time. I will be a nervous wreck..... I REALLY don't want him to be present. I wish there was some way to keep him away during the process.

[John_672]

*THAT* I don't know if Google can help you with. Unfortunately, the law was probably written by conservative men - hence the necessity of facing your stalker in court. The best thing I can suggest is to...

1) See the doctor, explain the issue, and ask if he can prescribe fast acting anti-anxiety meds for the day of.
2) Get a lawyer and have your lawyer do all the talking.
3) Have three beefy male friends escort you to and from the court house. This serves your piece of mind and also gives your stalker something to think about.

Whatever this gentleman's problem is, he's probably mentally unbalanced. However, even someone who is suffering from a mental illness recognizes the odds of winning in a three to one fight... so finding a reason to have same said beefy friends visit over the next few weeks until the hearing is a good idea. It's a good idea to ask them what type of beer they drink and offer to buy for them a few days a week if they come over and hang out for a while. If he shows his face while your friends are present, it will be the last time he will dare come around your home. Also, if you leave your work late at night, explain your situation to a night shift security guard. He or she would most likely be glad to walk you to your car.

That's all I can think of right now...

[Saint Tigeress]

John I would give you more frubals but I have to spread them around Thank you!

[mrscardero]

No matter how long the process or the fact that you might have to face him when you go to court, it's better then something bad happening to you. Think of your safety and also the safety of those who will be around you if he decides to do something horrible. Don't be scared or nervous. Be strong and don't allow him to see that you are at least a tiny bit weak. Any sign of weakness will make him think he has gotten to you. I know it will be hard, but you have to stand up for yourself. No matter what. Show him you are not scared of him. Show him that you have bigger balls then he does. Not that you have actual balls, but you know what I mean . Good luck.

[mball1297]

Originally Posted by Sunstone

Restraining orders are issued by the state you live in and the laws on them vary from one state to the next. But just guessing from what you've said in the OP, you have more than enough cause to get a restraining order on your ex in just about any state.

I guess you would know all about restraining orders, huh?

[Mister_T]

Sounds like you have lazy cops working for you.

Go see a lawyer and have him/her help you. Write down everything (including the soda incident and him throwing a sword through your tire), keep all his text messages and voicemails and give it to the lawyer to submit as evidence.

[Mike182]

good luck with this!