Parental (reject, Buddhism, disease)

[SoulTYPE]

Ok, i have a small problem here.I live with my parents for certain circumstances. Anyways, my dad is being an ******* all the time like turning my pc off when I am on. I pay rent and stuff,
but he gives less all the time. He is real arrogant.

Ok, today, he got me really p'd off, so I threw one of my pc's at him. He gets me mad deliberatly, then skitzes when I do.

I would move out, but money is tight at this time. I have attempted talking to im, but he does NOT listen. Any other advice?

[Engyo]

Soultype 01 -

Rather than talking to him, you might see if you can listen to him instead. I don't know if you can get him to talk to you; sometimes there is just too much emotional baggage in the way, both your shared stuff and his own personal stuff as well. There may be things going on with him that are affecting your relationship. Maybe he was looking forward to the "empty-nest" thing. Maybe its just generation-gap stuff. Maybe it's something else; my dad didn't tell any of us he had leukemia until he couldn't hide it anymore. Afterwards we all understood his uncharacteristically grouchy and down moods were his uncertainty and fear about his disease.

One thing I have earned from Buddhism is that my happiness is my responsibility alone. It is not up to my parents, my spouse, my boss or my child to make me happy. Only I can do that. The same is true of you, and of each of your parents, whether or not any of you knows this. I don't know if any of this is helpful, but it's what I have.

[SoulTYPE]

Actually, it does help a little. Thank you.

[meogi]

Do you live with your mother as well? If so, she might be able to help you reason with your father... also realize that you may have to work on some stuff yourself, as it's probably not 'just' your father's fault. I know we don't know the whole story (or backstory), but the reaction you had seems a bit extreme.

If Engyo's suggestion doesn't work, and your mother either can't or doesn't help... I don't know.

(Your dad just shuts your computer off, while you're using it? That would really **** me off too... why exactly does he do that?)

[SoulTYPE]

Originally Posted by meogi

but the reaction you had seems a bit extreme.

LOL, he does alot worse.

Originally Posted by meogi

(Your dad just shuts your computer off, while you're using it? That would really **** me off too... why exactly does he do that?)

Cos he thinks he is good. It is also ANNOYING ata 99% download .

But thanks, meogi.

[Lightkeeper]

Is your Dad, maybe the cause of your repetitive dreams? Do you feel rejected by him and feel you can't please him no matter what? I think your dreams might stop when you start focusing on what you need to do to move your life forward. Do you have a friend you could move in with? It sounds like you and your father need a break from each other. If you are trying to get his approval, stop and work on you and what you need. Work for your own approval of yourself. It sounds like your current living situation is abusive and keeping you from moving forward. You are in my thoughts and I hope you find a peaceful living situation, so you can become the powerful you you are meant to be.