Advice to a rookie daddy (punishment, experience, Jacob)

[dawny0826]

My girls don't bite, fortunately but I had to comment...your babies are BEAUTIFUL!

[michel]

Originally Posted by jgallandt

Our 5 year old still bites. We've tried everything, including biting him back! Nothing works. We still correct him, we're just hoping he grows out of it.

OH dear! I must admit I saw one program where a child was biting a sibling, and parents were told to bite back gently everytime saying "Now, do you like that?"

The worst we had with Andy was that he was a tantrum head-banger - Good thing we had floorboards and not a concrete floor as we now do!

[Feathers in Hair]

This is a toughie! You're a brilliant person, especially when it comes to human nature, so I don't think I could offer any advice that you hadn't thought of. Maybe it's something where he associates the feel of biting with anger or resentment? (Not saying he resents his little brother, just that it might be an attention-seeking thing.) Perhaps you could give him something to bite on, like... gosh, I don't know what would be good. Something that has substance but bears no resemblance to a living creature. (For example, not a stuffed animal.)

If the hyperactivity is what's causing the problem, all I can think of is to compliment those areas where his hyperactivity works for him. (I read a list once, I'll try to find it.)

[Dark_Waltz]

Biting is quite common in two year olds they are quite egocentric too.
I think it is important to explain and keep explaining that biting hurts and
"Look, why is your brother crying?"
You hurt him didn't you?
it hurts when You bite him please don't bite him like this it makes him very sad
You would be very sad if he bit you wouldn't You?

and then praising him (probably overly so) when he shows concern for his little brother,

Is he good at talking? does he tantrum often?

hope I have helped a bit

[opensoul7]

As a parent of two wonderfull children (Little Girls 5 & 6) I have come to realize two proven facts in Parenting.
1) Only people WITHOUT children know all the answers to parenting!
2) It is the toughest job ever (and most rewarding)
Parenting teaches you more about who you really are than anything else ever can . It is 24 hour a day test in making the right decisions.What works for one child fails miserably with another.uhhhum not that you did not know all that already . I focus on the punishment fitting the crime .Like maize said timeout is a good option as long as you stay away for the alloted time and not give in.I am a kid at heart and love to have fun and my children do as well , but they know if you do not listen , no fun. I always have talked to my children much as you do "on their level" I tell them when they start to act up what will be the repurcussion of their action if they don't stop.I also talk with them about what they are doing how it effects them and others.I always have , I feel children understand the essence of what you are saying regardless of age.All I can say is you have beautiful children , goodluck , because there are no right answers for a parent , just trails and tribulations. With the reward being their love , and there is no greater reward.Once again good luck!

[maggie2]

From my experience, Mazie's idea worked best for me. And Victor, if you aren't being consistent that is probably a big part of the problem.