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#1
08-28-2007, 06:47 PM
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Is the grass really greener on the other side?
It could be you were married and had an affair, left you wife or husband for someone else.
It could be you got divorced because you thought they had to be someone better then what you had. Do you really think the grass is greener on the other side? Or are you just exchanging different things. One thing about this person might be so much better than the one before however something else will be worse. You are just really exchanging one set of pleasures, and a different set of problems. This of course in general their are circumstances of abuse where is does make a difference. But with the divorce rates as high as it is this is not usually the case. What are your thoughts? 
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08-28-2007, 07:48 PM
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I think the grass is perceived as being greener because it is new. People get stuck in habits, and lose the awe and wonder they feel about something they love. They feel that someone new will inspire it again--and it may--but the same feeling can be reborn with someone they are truly attached to. It just takes a little hoist out of that rut of habit.
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#3
08-28-2007, 08:38 PM
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A relationship always comes with baggage and work involved. I think in your proposed situation, not only would the grass not be greener, but it may have a little root rot in the manner it was begun, and I would, perhaps look for the spouse to try it again.
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#4
08-29-2007, 12:12 AM
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I suppose it is possible that your new partner will be a better and wiser match, but chances you are simply in the relatively exciting "getting to know you" phase of a relationship with the new partner, while you are in a different phase with your established partner. So, what do you do when you get bored of your new partner? eudaimonia, Mark Last edited by eudaimonia; 08-29-2007 at 12:14 AM.
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#5
08-29-2007, 12:32 AM
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I've been divorced but it wasn't because of an affair. Although I have to admit there were many times I wondered if there was someone out there better suited for me.....turns out there was.
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#6
08-29-2007, 12:54 AM
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The one huge difference: this is the only relationship i rarely/never had to work at. and it's lasted 20 years. it's been soooo easy because we are a good match.
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Jesus did not come into this world to make bad people good. He came into this world to make dead people live - Ravi Zacharias  I wasn't born again yesterday - A.S.A. Jones
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#7
08-29-2007, 01:16 AM
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The grass isn't greener on the other side. In the end, people are trading one set of problems for another.
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#8
08-29-2007, 02:46 AM
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I suppose a good question is:
Are marriages always just temporary affairs until one partner finds a "better match"? Should marriage ceremonies include the phrase "till a better match do we part"? eudaimonia, Mark
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#9
08-29-2007, 02:51 AM
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Some good and valid points raised, but one quote I remember from many years ago was, "The grass is always greener over the septic tank."
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08-29-2007, 03:29 AM
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