PDAs (point of view)

[Bastet]

We have this little old couple who come into work every Wednesday. I have a soft spot for them, they really are sweet. They hold hands when they walk together, and it got me thinking...

What are your views on public displays of affection (PDAs)? What do you think of, for example, holding hands, vs. a hug, vs. a quick peck on the cheek, vs. a kiss on the lips, vs. a full on snog...how much, personally, do you think is appropriate? When and where is it not? Does the age/gender/orientation of the couple make any difference to your views?

Just curious...

[Jaymes]

As long as the couple isn't all but making out in public, I don't really mind. Personally I'm kind of scared to do PDA-ish stuff, though. I'm always afraid that everyone's staring at me.

[jewscout]

I'm all about some PDA! Of course i'm not gonna make out in front of little kids but if someone has a problem with me kissing and holding my girl then they can take it up with me and my steeltoed boots . Besides they're just jealous

[Feathers in Hair]

I love seeing the older people in the community holding hands and such! (Maybe it's age-bias, but I think it's sweet, whenever I see it.) I remember, though, my high school and attempting to walk to classes while other teens were taking the PDA to extreme levels- we're talking about crossing the PG-13 rating and heading into R territory- and it made it rather disgusting to try to get around.

[Sunstone]

When that first shot of hormones comes in during the teen years, it's a zinger! You wind up trying to hump anything for -- Oh, about seven or eight years. Nowadays, I find it amusing to see teens trying to deal with their hormones. Been there, done that, been to therapy, have the T-shirt to prove it.

[The Voice of Reason]

LOL -

I would agree wholeheartedly with Feathers (a good feeling in itself). When I see an older couple holding hands, in my mind, I am seeing two people who "got it right" in this lifetime. I make the assumption that they have been together for life (and I know that this is a wrong assumption), because I want to believe that is the case. I always think to myself, that the old man has snuck one past the rest of the world. I almost wonder what a woman could see in most men that would make them want to stay with one man for a lifetime. So, I guess I am gender biased - after all, I'm of the male gland myself.

As for middle aged couples, it is almost a wash (from my point of view).

As for teenagers, I kind of laugh to myself, because I know what is going through the young man's mind. Of course, I have no idea what the girl is thinking - and any man that says he does is lying. When the young couple starts slobbering, it's time to find some isolation.

TVOR

[Lightkeeper]

Save it for the bedroom. Just kidding! I think handholding and hugging are O.K. in public. I don't care to witness anything beyond that. I would like to see more same gender affection in public.

[skills101]

Holding hands and hugging - good. Peck on the cheek - fine. Making out in public - BADDDDD. I don't know, I just find it extremely rude because it makes everyone around you feel uncomfortable, like they should be doing it too or something. I don't know, JUST DON'T DO IT. I agree with TVOR though.

[The Voice of Reason]

Originally Posted by Sunstone

When that first shot of hormones comes in during the teen years, it's a zinger! You wind up trying to hump anything for -- Oh, about seven or eight years. Nowadays, I find it amusing to see teens trying to deal with their hormones. Been there, done that, been to therapy, have the T-shirt to prove it.

I don't think women have a clue about teenage males. I agree with the sentiments expressed by Sunstone. For these young males, that driving force is almost more overpowering than the need to eat or sleep. Thank God it can be "assuaged" without harming other people.
Just asking, Sunstone - did you get the crew neck T-shirt or the one with the three button placket, like I got?

Originally Posted by Lightkeeper

I would like to see more same gender affection in public.

I speak only for myself, Lightkeeper (well, probably for the overwhelming majority of males), but I have to say that I have no desire to see two males kissing, let alone anything more than that. I have absolutely no problem with two consenting adults of any gender doing anything that they want to do, but when it comes to this, I cannot overcome my personal bias. Do not misunderstand me, I would never want this to be legislated.
On the other side of the fence, I have to confess that, like most males, I have absolutely no problem whatsoever with witnessing two females engaging in this type of behaviour. I would guess that this is because (in my mind) females are so much appealing to the eye. I just don't understand why anyone, regardless of orientation, would ever consider a male more attractive than a female, all other things (i.e. age, condition, etc.) being equal. I am not saying that anyone that disagrees with me is wrong, only that I truly do not see their side of this issue.

This is probably one of the few positions that I will ever hold on this site that I cannot logically defend, because my mind knows that what is good for the goose is good for the gander.

I know this post will draw responses from the males on this site that are homosexual, and I truly do not mean to insinuate that they are wrong, in any way, on any level.

Twisted,
TVOR