Two worlds (ritual, experience, spiritual, verse, religions)

[tcprowling]

First I must give credit to Sunstone for his " Are people too fond of relationships " Thread I read that and my mind went walk about and i came up with the following Jumble sale of thoughts that i felt didn't quite tie in with what he was on about! Ok On first reading Phil's thread I was going to resopnd that you can't have one with out the other. Then My thoughts went on to real world relationships verses Cyber relationships and My Own experience in the later. Now i am not talking purely the sexual side here but trying to emcompass the whole deal of relationships and the parties involved.
Cyber relations can be real, you experience the same ( if not more so ) emotional joys and pains as are experienced in real life. Ask anybody who has been involved in a long distance, long time relationship. I feel that the reason The emotional feelings in cyber are so deep is that the parties involved tend to apply the same " Real world" principles and rules to a Spiritual or mainly emotional world. In the " real world We have physical contact with the other party we can see what they are experiencing, while in Cyber, to pinch they words of the Bee Gee's song " It's only words but words are all i have to steal your love away" and as we know words can only be read in black and white, the reader may see something in there that the writer never intended. a casual comment can come across as hurtful. so I feel that in cyber the focus should be on the emotional side with the great emphisis place on consideration of the other's feelings.
So Is it possible ( to quote another song) " when you can't be with the one you love, Love the one you're with"? Is it possible to take the physical needs of a relationship from the real world, and your emotional fulfilment from your cyber partner? remember we are not talking solely sexual here but you need to consider the human contact, the interaction with " real people" against the real emotional comfort you experience from your cyber partner> trust me you can talk about things and feelings in Cyber that you cannot always express in face to face contact! I realise what i am trying to say is unconventional, But that maybe the crux of a successful cyber relationship to be able to accept that both you and your partner live in a " Real world" and just because you have contact with other real people isn't a cause to feel cheated on.
Yeah I know the good book says we can't serve two masters, but it's fact that we already do In religions and Our daily lives, in Business ( again from my own experience) you have to seoartate your business life from your personal life, that's why they say you never go into business with your spouse or best friend. So I think that those of us who have been in a cyber relationship need to try and think out side our Real life rules and focus more on the feelings/ emotions of our partner. We need to make allowence for our Two worlds. any thoughts on these ramblings?

[tcprowling]

ok Maybe I was too deep, too rambling in my OP But to bring it down a little what about the spouses of military personell or overseas business people How do they handle the two worlds, the physical real world they live in and the emotional maybe cyber world of separation?
And when you think of it today relationships are not just confined to you immediate environment.
Back in the Days of the Vietnam war, here in australia, the conflict between those two worlds was very real, and not only for the incidents of sexual misconduct and many relationships floundered and failed because the parties failed to come to terms with the separation issus