Mystifying Virginity? (ritual, myth, experience, spiritual, marriage)

[Sunstone]

For some reason(s) I'm not clear about, virginity is often mystified. In just about every other endeavor, a lack of experience is regarded as not necessarily more desireable than experience. But when it comes to sexual virginity, many people think that a lack of experience is actually more desireable than experience. Why is that? What is there about virginity that makes it so desireable? Is there any spiritual reason why virginity should be so desireable? Is there any psychological or emotional reason? If so, what is your evidence for it?

[Kay]

Originally Posted by Sunstone

Why is that? What is there about virginity that makes it so desireable?

Personally, I think virginity is overrated.

Is there any spiritual reason why virginity should be so desireable?

Nope. Sex is part of life. It can be as sacred as anything else, even more so.

[PureX]

Originally Posted by Sunstone

For some reason(s) I'm not clear about, virginity is often mystified. In just about every other endeavor, a lack of experience is regarded as not necessarily more desireable than experience. But when it comes to sexual virginity, many people think that a lack of experience is actually more desireable than experience. Why is that? What is there about virginity that makes it so desireable? Is there any spiritual reason why virginity should be so desireable? Is there any psychological or emotional reason? If so, what is your evidence for it?

You will note that this mystification of virginity does not extend to males. And I believe I can tell you why.

I think the fascination with female virginity comes from male sexual insecurity. Men like the idea of a virgin because they know that the virgin can't compare them sexually with another man. I think this also explains the male proclivity for rape. Rape is also a method of circumventing sexual comparisons.

[Willamena]

Originally Posted by Sunstone

For some reason(s) I'm not clear about, virginity is often mystified. In just about every other endeavor, a lack of experience is regarded as not necessarily more desireable than experience. But when it comes to sexual virginity, many people think that a lack of experience is actually more desireable than experience. Why is that? What is there about virginity that makes it so desireable? Is there any spiritual reason why virginity should be so desireable? Is there any psychological or emotional reason? If so, what is your evidence for it?

Kinkiness. It's taken a very old idea about the sacred and blended it with a perverted concept of purity and innocence to produce something touchable.

[michel]

Originally Posted by PureX

You will note that this mystification of virginity does not extend to males. And I believe I can tell you why.

I think the fascination with female virginity comes from male sexual insecurity. Men like the idea of a virgin because they know that the virgin can't compare them sexually with another man. I think this also explains the male proclivity for rape. Rape is also a method of circumventing sexual comparisons.

I had never thought of that, but I guess it makes sense.

From a secularist Point of view, there are a couple of "Practical" reasons; nowadays, with the rise in STD's obviously virginity is going to be an 'attractive asset' - there is another consideration - I don't know if this is fact or a 'myth', but I have always understood (and it has worked that way for me), that the first sexual partner 'has a special place in one's emotional memory' - does that make sense ?

Of course, from a religious POV, virginity is purity........need I say more ?

[TashaN]

Originally Posted by Sunstone

when it comes to sexual virginity, many people think that a lack of experience is actually more desireable than experience. Why is that? What is there about virginity that makes it so desireable? Is there any spiritual reason why virginity should be so desireable? Is there any psychological or emotional reason? If so, what is your evidence for it?

Hmmmmm, you are assuming in here that viriginity is equal to lack of experince then by default, you asked why people would love to get a virigin with no experince.

Well, it's not about experince, Phil. Experince comes with time.

For me, it means that, she is pure, and no man touched her before me. It's important but if my girl is not virigin so also it's ok with me in case she lost her virginity in legal way (i.e. pervious marriage).

There is no spiritual reason for that in my opnion, no psychological and no emotional one.

I just love that she wasn't playing around and she didn't try it out yet with other guys.

[GeneCosta]

What is there about virginity that makes it so desireable?

I suppose the man feels as if he has her all to himself. I know it sounds like I'm comparing women to objects, but hopefully others can understand what I mean.

Personally, I could care less about my date's sex life, unless it involves whips and plastic vampire teeth.

[Buttercup]

Originally Posted by PureX

You will note that this mystification of virginity does not extend to males. And I believe I can tell you why.

I think the fascination with female virginity comes from male sexual insecurity. Men like the idea of a virgin because they know that the virgin can't compare them sexually with another man. I think this also explains the male proclivity for rape. Rape is also a method of circumventing sexual comparisons.

I think you've nailed it, Dave!

If you asked most women who have had sex, they wouldn't go back to being a virgin for anything. It's definitely overrated.

And for those men who do want virgins....they should remain so themselves to make it fair.