Marrying Unwisely (hell, marriage, Roman)

[Sunstone]

In a post romantic moment with my Acme Latex Love Doll the other day, the two of us were discussing the fact that so many people marry unwisely. So, do you know anyone who's married unwisely? What made the marriage unwise? Was it incompatibility of the partners? Lack of financial support? Bad timing? Did someone have to give up their life goals for the marriage? What happened to make it an unwise marriage?

[evearael]

There is one marriage I'm very concerned about. The pair seems incompatible because they are constantly bickering and, while they are currently financially stable, I fear the champagne lifestyle on a beer budget will catch up with them and make it impossible for them to pursue their dreams.

[PureX]

Originally Posted by Sunstone

In a post romantic moment with my Acme Latex Love Doll the other day, the two of us were discussing the fact that so many people marry unwisely. So, do you know anyone who's married unwisely? What made the marriage unwise? Was it incompatibility of the partners? Lack of financial support? Bad timing? Did someone have to give up their life goals for the marriage? What happened to make it an unwise marriage?

Too young. They just weren't mature enough to deal with the stresses that would inevitably occur when people try to live their lives together.

Too needy. One of the partners had not dealt with her own "baggage" sufficiently to be able to mind her own emotional state. As a result, she tended to make her husband responsible for her own emotional well-being, which he tried to take on, but he eventually just got exhausted, trying, while she was never really secure.

The old: "I'm unhappy and it's all your fault" refrain has killed many a marriage.

Almost every relationship I've seen fall apart, falls apart because one or both of the partners become unwilling to work out a solution. If there is one element that's crucial to all relationships, I think it's willingness.

[michel]

Originally Posted by Sunstone

In a post romantic moment with my Acme Latex Love Doll the other day, the two of us were discussing the fact that so many people marry unwisely. So, do you know anyone who's married unwisely? What made the marriage unwise? Was it incompatibility of the partners? Lack of financial support? Bad timing? Did someone have to give up their life goals for the marriage? What happened to make it an unwise marriage?

I have seen -what I see as being - unwise marriages.

There is a continuum of reasons as to why marriages can be unwise, and yet the participants go ahead...........

The one that immediately springs to mind is that of the abused woman/man syndrome, who are often drawn to the 'wrong type of person' (i.e. abusers). That comes from hard - wiring of our brain, when we subconsciously seek a similar type of character to the one of an abuser in our adolescent life.

[Ðanisty]

Most of my friends married unwisely. A contributing factor in most of them was pregnancy.

[darkpenguin]

my mum and her ex husband(jerk) was a match made in hell!

[GeneCosta]

Originally Posted by Sunstone

In a post romantic moment with my Acme Latex Love Doll the other day, the two of us were discussing the fact that so many people marry unwisely. So, do you know anyone who's married unwisely? What made the marriage unwise? Was it incompatibility of the partners? Lack of financial support? Bad timing? Did someone have to give up their life goals for the marriage? What happened to make it an unwise marriage?

I think in cases where the individuals involved haven't considered the entire picture there tends to be a lot of problems. For everyone it is always most exciting in the beginning of a relationship, and when the ring is passed the excitement flairs back up again. The problem is, I believe, some people expect that to happen throughout the marriage. They forget that with marriage comes responcibility.

[Draka]

I have been married unwisely. Let me just reiterate...NEVER marry for the reason or "sake of" children. It won't work. If that's the main reason you are marrying, or the only reason, it's doomed from the get go.

[Bastet]

The first one that springs to mind is the marriage where one of the people turned out to be gay (although admittedly unaware of that at the time). That the heterosexual partner still does not want the marriage to end, despite the fact that both are miserable, is absolutely mind boggling to me.

I believe any marriage that is the result of peer pressure is unwise, to put it mildly. There's nothing worse than marrying someone because your parents/family/friends think it's about time you got hitched/started a family. Many of my relatives have been in or are currently in what I would call unwise marriages.