Is A Love/Hate Relationship Genuine Love? (ritual, experience, recall)

Sunstone · #1 10-22-2006, 06:59 AM

Is love/hate genuine love? Is love/hate a sort of infatuation? Or, something else altogether?

Is love/hate the product of emotional dependency? If so, is it a condition in which emotional security and dependency are more important to someone than is love?

michel · #2 10-22-2006, 07:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Sunstone

Is love/hate genuine love? Is love/hate a sort of infatuation? Or, something else altogether?

Is love/hate the product of emotional dependency? If so, is it a condition in which emotional security and dependency are more important to someone than is love?

I'm not sure what you are asking, Phil; do you mean as in a relationship where one partner loves, but the other hates ? Or do you mean as in 'flipping from one emotion to the other?'

Sunstone · #3 10-22-2006, 07:19 AM

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Originally Posted by michel

I'm not sure what you are asking, Phil; do you mean as in a relationship where one partner loves, but the other hates ? Or do you mean as in 'flipping from one emotion to the other?'

Good question. I mean flipping from one emotion to the other.

Sunstone · #4 11-10-2006, 06:42 PM

Ever hear that saying, "If you love someone, set them free"? Is it possible for someone in a love/hate relationship to allow their partner emotional, psychological, spiritual, and physical freedom?

dawny0826 · #5 11-10-2006, 07:15 PM

In my experiences with love/hate relationships, the relationship is normally like that because the person is a dork and works my nerves.

Like my little sister, for example. I love her but at times...she can be a real pain in my rear and at that moment, I say I hate her, even though I don't. Sometimes, I feel like I really do hate her but...

I don't.

I reserve the love/hate label for the dorks (I say that lovingly) like my little sister.

For me, it's really not much deeper than that.

Edit: Considering that all of the people I have such relationships with are the people that I love the most...I'd say yes, the love is genuine. To love someone THROUGH all the ups and downs is really something.

lizskid · #6 11-10-2006, 07:24 PM

I think sometimes, there is an attraction/affection but the real affection may be for the drama. You know, codependency takes many forms, and this can be one. I think where feelings are consistently conflicted, the healthiest thing to do is either move on or get counseling. The affects if you don't take a resolution or proactive stance can be psychologically destructive on either side.

Sunstone · #7 11-10-2006, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by lizskid

I think sometimes, there is an attraction/affection but the real affection may be for the drama. You know, codependency takes many forms, and this can be one. I think where feelings are consistently conflicted, the healthiest thing to do is either move on or get counseling. The affects if you don't take a resolution or proactive stance can be psychologically destructive on either side.

Have you ever known a love/hate relationship to end well? I've been scratching my head, but I can't recall of any that I've known that turned out fine.

Circle_One · #8 11-10-2006, 07:28 PM

I think it is genuine love.

I've been in a relationship like this before in which the love was so intense that all our emotions were often out of control and so our love for one another often sprung intense passionate hate which would lead to many physical fights. We hated one another just as passionately as we loved one another, because we loved each other so intensely.

To this day, 6 years later, I still cannot go to any concerts in which his band is playing because that ferocious love and hate still resides with me.