How do you deal with Emotions ? (ritual, mystic, suicide)

[michel]

I wonder if many of you will think "What a silly question" ?

I ask this because I know I have a predisposition to hiding my emotions; I think part of it might be genetic (from Dad's side) and part of it from Nurture. Mum was a very 'stiff upper lip' typical English Lady. She suffered from Parkinson's for years and the had cancer, from which she died. Never once did she complain.

Dad was much the same; he had lost a foot during WWII and had a run of bad luck, but dealt with each blow resolutely; he was matter of fact.

He even managed to drive out of his mind the memory that he had abandoned a daughter at the age of twelve (and had never seen her after that time). That episode went into a steel box with as many padlocks as were needed to keep those emotion very well locked away. The past was the past, and that was all there was to it.

Now me, I tend to bottle things up. I know that my own brain can be quite manipulative in trying to spare me anguish or emotional pain.

One very small and insignificant (From one aspect) of this is the fact that when people would make rude remarks about me (even in Jest) I would not hear them.

I am not kidding; I noticed it so many times; my brain obviously decided to spare me the embarassment or whatever negative emotion by not letting me hear whatever words could upset me.

Now I guess you all know I am absolutely mad about music. I have found a loop hole in my brain's emotional protective sense. I find myself singing a song (out of the blue - and no, I haven't heard it recently - I am certain I can name numerous examples where I had not heard the song for years.

What type are you ? - a 'bottler up' - 'keep a stiff upper lip' ? someone who is really in touch with your emotions ? maybe somewhere in the middle ?

[Mister Emu]

It depends on the emotion and the situation. So I guess I would say somewhere in between...

I gladly tell my family that I love them...

I have generally pent up my anger... but I believe that has led to me being a more irratible person, so I am trying to work on it and express frustration and anger for things that deserve it, not the little things...

I try to keep back memories that make me sad... and I generally do well...

[Mike182]

emotions?....... what are those?

i deal with emotions by holding them inside, and venting them with my closest friends. my parents are a big support for my emotional venting, and when i am in "heated" emotions i use ritual meditation to gather myself

[standing_alone]

It depends on the emotion and the situation.

[MysticSang'ha]

Not a silly question at all, Michel.




I'm guessing that you mean the hardships? Pain? Anguish? Fear? Trepidation? I'm assuming that you don't mean ecstasy, happiness, bliss, and/or confidence, right?




I have been known, myself, to bottle up my emotions, too. I tend to disregard my own feelings in order to take care of everyone else. I, therefore, take after my mother and my mother's mother in that regard. When I don't take the amount of time that it takes to snap one's finger to even acknowledge how I feel at the present moment, I run the risk of harboring resentment..........which I eventually will face along with the original feeling, anyway.



I am continuing to work on my awareness of my present emotional state, not for reasons to dwell in certain states or to avoid others............but to continue to practice mindfulness with a degree of detachment. My obstables come from my willingness to be detached from my emotions, but I do so often times without the mindfulness.




Peace,
Mystic

[Flappycat]

Originally Posted by michel

I wonder if many of you will think "What a silly question" ?

I ask this because I know I have a predisposition to hiding my emotions; I think part of it might be genetic (from Dad's side) and part of it from Nurture. Mum was a very 'stiff upper lip' typical English Lady. She suffered from Parkinson's for years and the had cancer, from which she died. Never once did she complain.

Dad was much the same; he had lost a foot during WWII and had a run of bad luck, but dealt with each blow resolutely; he was matter of fact.

He even managed to drive out of his mind the memory that he had abandoned a daughter at the age of twelve (and had never seen her after that time). That episode went into a steel box with as many padlocks as were needed to keep those emotion very well locked away. The past was the past, and that was all there was to it.

Now me, I tend to bottle things up. I know that my own brain can be quite manipulative in trying to spare me anguish or emotional pain.

One very small and insignificant (From one aspect) of this is the fact that when people would make rude remarks about me (even in Jest) I would not hear them.

I am not kidding; I noticed it so many times; my brain obviously decided to spare me the embarassment or whatever negative emotion by not letting me hear whatever words could upset me.

Now I guess you all know I am absolutely mad about music. I have found a loop hole in my brain's emotional protective sense. I find myself singing a song (out of the blue - and no, I haven't heard it recently - I am certain I can name numerous examples where I had not heard the song for years.

What type are you ? - a 'bottler up' - 'keep a stiff upper lip' ? someone who is really in touch with your emotions ? maybe somewhere in the middle ?

I try to moderate their expression. When I would be enraged, I allow myself annoyance. When I would be depressed, I allow myself pensiveness. I tend to avoid explosive expression of emotion because I'm fully aware of how much damage this can do to my health and, unsurprisingly, my appearance. I don't generally tend to keep myself "bottled up" because I've found that this can lead to depression or apathy.

[Bishka]

For me, it depends on the situation, but I am much more open then I used to be. Before I would keep them inside until I blew. One time I blew and ended up in the psychatric ward of the hospital after a suicide attempt. It was a couple of months after that and another treatment facility that I learned to tell people my feelings and let them know what was going on. I am much more open now.

[michel]

Originally Posted by Mike182

emotions?....... what are those?

i deal with emotions by holding them inside, and venting them with my closest friends. my parents are a big support for my emotional venting, and when i am in "heated" emotions i use ritual meditation to gather myself

Venting them on your closet friends; I think that is something that most of us do..........also take them out on family.

I'm guessing that you mean the hardships? Pain? Anguish? Fear? Trepidation? I'm assuming that you don't mean ecstasy, happiness, bliss, and/or confidence, right?

Yes, I think I mean the negative emotions more than the positive ones.

I have been known, myself, to bottle up my emotions, too. I tend to disregard my own feelings in order to take care of everyone else. I, therefore, take after my mother and my mother's mother in that regard. When I don't take the amount of time that it takes to snap one's finger to even acknowledge how I feel at the present moment, I run the risk of harboring resentment..........which I eventually will face along with the original feeling, anyway.

A common trait; someone once told me that until you can learn to say 'no' to people, you will never know the joy of saying 'Yes'.

I am continuing to work on my awareness of my present emotional state, not for reasons to dwell in certain states or to avoid others............but to continue to practice mindfulness with a degree of detachment. My obstables come from my willingness to be detached from my emotions, but I do so often times without the mindfulness.

Ah, mindfulness; yes, I studied that in therapy. That, I believe is where this awareness of emotions 'seeping out' in 'camouflage' has been revealed. I find mindfulness can be very useful; so revealing of what happens.



Peace,
Mystic[/quote]