Guys like bad girls...

[doppelgänger]

This really varies. Some men respond especially well to women who continue to deny and control them sexually because it elevates testosterone and enhances their sexuality (like when they were dating). Many other men feel a rush only when sexual encounters are frequent and easily achieved, as it boosts confidence. There's no general template that fits every person, and finding the right partner to complement those sexual aesthetics is really the key, rather than trying to live up to a one-size-fits-all fantasy of what it supposed to mean to be masculine and feminine.

[Heneni]

Originally Posted by Nanda

No, that's true. But I live with my husband, my son, and my live-in boyfriend, and I have a girlfriend in New Jersey, and some people would consider that "bad."

I see!!! Damn you must be busy girl! What a sexually diverse life you leed!

[dawny0826]

Originally Posted by Nanda

(Unless they're poly.)

Good point.

If it's consentual, there wouldn't be a problem.

[Nanda]

Originally Posted by dawny0826

Good point.

If it's consentual, there wouldn't be a problem.

(Not really relevant in this situation, I know, but those two cents were burning a hole in my pocket, )

[Heneni]

Originally Posted by doppelgänger

This really varies. Some men respond especially well to women who continue to deny and control them sexually because it elevates testosterone and enhances their sexuality (like when they were dating). Many other men feel a rush only when sexual encounters are frequent and easily achieved, as it boosts confidence. There's no general template that fits every person, and finding the right partner to complement those sexual aesthetics is really the key, rather than trying to live up to a one-size-fits-all fantasy of what it supposed to mean to be masculine and feminine.

What can a women do, when she has a husband who wants to have sex often, but she doesnt have the same sexual drive?

And of course...visa versa...

[Nanda]

Originally Posted by Heneni

I see!!! Damn you must be busy girl!

It's not too bad, I just don't sleep as much as most people. But I didn't do that anyway, so it's not really a sacrifice.

What a sexually diverse life you leed!

Well, yes, but it's more about the relationships than the sex. But I don't want to derail your thread, so I'll stop there.

[doppelgänger]

Originally Posted by Heneni

What can a women do, when she has a husband who wants to have sex often, but she doesnt have the same sexual drive?

And of course...visa versa...

They need to find ways to compromise . . . each giving up something . . . or there's going to be long term problems. And the compromise starts with really open communication - talking to one's partner(s) about what one wants sexually without fear, guilt or embarrassment. Hoping one's partner will figure it out is a recipe for disaster - and makes finding balance or compromise all but impossible.

[Troublemane]

Women are the same way. They like "bad boys" just as much, only difference is women always wanna "fix" a bad boy, turn him into a "good boy", and its never gonna work! LoL!

Men dont wanna turn bad girls into good girls, since we tend not to see relationships as a process, but as however we feel about it at the moment.

[dawny0826]

Originally Posted by Heneni

What can a women do, when she has a husband who wants to have sex often, but she doesnt have the same sexual drive?

And of course...visa versa...

Hi Heneni,

I hope you don't mind me answering this questions, as I know the question was directed towards Dopp.

There are many ways to keep each other satisfied sexually, even when one isn't as into it. Books, toys...many tools are available to assist with issues relating to sex.

But I think anything would be a quick fix, unless you looked at the reasons why one partner is in overdrive and the other is feeling deflated. Open communication is important and compromise is often essential to keep both people content.

Edit: This will teach me to answer out of turn. Dopp's response was way