It's not what it looks like!

Charity · #1 10-01-2008, 12:02 AM

Tonight a very dear friend of mine caught her husband with another woman. She had suspected the low down, swine, of this for sometime but was unable to afford a private investigator so she has done a little investigating on her own.....She borrowed a car from a *cough* dear friend and followed him when he left work. He was suppose to be in a "very important meeting" Well he was, she followed him to a house where she parked down the street and watched him knock on the door...She gets out of her car, goes to the door and when she knocks the door was not shut properly, so she walked in , yes was everyone surprised. Now the first thing that "hubby" said was but "its not what it looks like". Now what the hay is that suppose to mean?
This is the fourth person I know that has been in this situation and the man always replys with either the "not what it looks like" or some dumb statement instead of just saying, "Ah, yes you caught me" Why can't they ever just admit it when they have been caught with their pants down? They have 3 children and she told him to leave for tonight and they would discuss it when the children are in school. Needless to say she is in shock right now.

stacey bo bacey · #2 10-01-2008, 12:08 AM

Holy cow............

I am so very sorry for her!!!!
At the very least she has a wonderful pal *cough* to help her cope....

whereismynotecard · #3 10-01-2008, 12:12 AM

That sucks. Does she have a job, or does she rely on him for their family's source of income? She could divorce him, but she'd have to consider her children too, I think.

UltraViolet · #4 10-01-2008, 12:19 AM

What exactly did he tell her it SHOULD look like?

Charity · #5 10-01-2008, 12:22 AM

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Originally Posted by whereismynotecard

That sucks. Does she have a job, or does she rely on him for their family's source of income? She could divorce him, but she'd have to consider her children too, I think.

She works, she has a good job, but it takes both incomes to meet all their obligations....I'm sure she will get a divorce, she says she can't stand to go through this again. She is certain that he has had another affair a year or so ago, maybe even more than one affair. This is 2 of my close friends that this has happened to in the last 6 months. I think there must be something in the water causing the men to lose their minds or something....I think I wrote about the other one several months ago, her husband was a doctor....
I think at some point he has been abusive to her because of some of the things she said tonight....I feel so sorry for her.

whereismynotecard · #6 10-01-2008, 12:24 AM

She should definately get a divorce. I'm going to pm you with the rest of my response.

3.14 · #7 10-01-2008, 12:26 AM

because its not what it looks like is a way to make the woman doubt what she saw and allows her to cope with it by denieing it herself, if he said yep banging my secretery she would have to face the cold hard truth right away

Charity · #8 10-01-2008, 12:29 AM

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Originally Posted by UltraViolet

What exactly did he tell her it SHOULD look like?

I'm never going to understand the answer to this one, like you said then what does it suppose to look like? What kind of answer is this anyway? His pants were down, and he is acting like he is there innocently.....That is really an insult to anyone's intelligence to lie like that.....

Charity · #9 10-01-2008, 12:39 AM

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Originally Posted by 3.14

because its not what it looks like is a way to make the woman doubt what she saw and allows her to cope with it by denieing it herself, if he said yep banging my secretery she would have to face the cold hard truth right away

You could be partially right, except I doubt that he was thinking of her being able to cope and to lessen her shock, I think he just wanted to find someway out of the situation. Hanging is too good for him.....maybe castration, **hummmm**