A Brave New World

[Doc]

Originally Posted by UltraViolet

Just wondering why you would want to follow the moral guidlines of a church you rejected?

I just couldn't accept the theology behind my former faith. I had a real hard time with resurrections and trinities, but I had no problem with the moral teachings. I think they're a fine way to live your life.

[Halcyon]

I agree with some of what PureX said, if you get the opportunity to try something new I feel you should take it, "take a chance" as it were, because you never know where it could lead - if you play it too safe you could miss out on something you might regret not taking advantage of later on.

Having said that, don't force yourself to do anything you feel very uncomfortable about, you won't enjoy it.

I think basically what I'm driving at is that only you know what is right for you, but it's also a good idea to "take a chance" once in a while and do something that, while it doesn't make you uncomfortable, you wouldn't normally do.

[Inky]

Originally Posted by Halcyon

I think basically what I'm driving at is that only you know what is right for you, but it's also a good idea to "take a chance" once in a while and do something that, while it doesn't make you uncomfortable, you wouldn't normally do.

I agree with this, and also one more thing: knowing what you want and going for it is admirable, but putting down people who want something different is not. If you go to school with the attitude that you're better than anyone who drinks or parties, and you think most of your classmates are "losers", people will pick up on that. You might lose the opportunity for many valuable relationships because you're looking down your nose at them. On the other hand, if you go with the belief that you're straight-edge just because you want to be, and don't judge others, I think the other students will understand and respect it.

Like I mentioned before, out of the most intelligent, creative, and productive students at college, the majority of them will drink alcohol in moderation, and some will do drugs occasionally. That doesn't make them inferior to straight-edge folks.

[UltraViolet]

Originally Posted by Doc

I just couldn't accept the theology behind my former faith. I had a real hard time with resurrections and trinities, but I had no problem with the moral teachings. I think they're a fine way to live your life.

Down to no masturbation or birthcontrol?

And "foreplay" (ie oral sex and such) only allowed as it leads up to intercourse?

I think it might be wise to step back and reconsider just how fine they really are.
IMHO.

[Doc]

Originally Posted by Inky

I agree with this, and also one more thing: knowing what you want and going for it is admirable, but putting down people who want something different is not. If you go to school with the attitude that you're better than anyone who drinks or parties, and you think most of your classmates are "losers", people will pick up on that. You might lose the opportunity for many valuable relationships because you're looking down your nose at them. On the other hand, if you go with the belief that you're straight-edge just because you want to be, and don't judge others, I think the other students will understand and respect it.

Like I mentioned before, out of the most intelligent, creative, and productive students at college, the majority of them will drink alcohol in moderation, and some will do drugs occasionally. That doesn't make them inferior to straight-edge folks.

I don't disagree with you. My thoughts about my fellow classmates are my own, and I don't make it known to them how I feel. I treat them just the same as everyone else, regardless of how much I disapprove of their lifestyle.

Down to no masturbation or birthcontrol?

Well, you got me there. I was thinking more along the lines of only having sexual relations with someone in the context of marriage or at the very least, someone you would spend the rest of your life with.