It's over! Any advice? (choice, sex)

[darkpenguin]

Well it's finally happened, me and my fiance have decided to call it a day and just be friends which i'm kind of struggling to deal with as I wanted to carry on fighting for us but it seems that she has given up.

I was wondering if anyone could offer some advice on how to deal as all i'm comming up with is blank, I feel numb and lost.

Thanks

Craig

[Hema]

Oh no, you poor dear.

Are there any issues that are still unresolved? Ask her what she wants you to do beter. Tell her that you only want to be with her. Pour your heart out. Tell her how much you're hurting. Cry if you have to!

[darkpenguin]

Originally Posted by Hema

Oh no, you poor dear.

Are there any issues that are still unresolved? Ask her what she wants you to do beter. Tell her that you only want to be with her. Pour your heart out. Tell her how much you're hurting. Cry if you have to!

I would do but I don't want to seem like the 'clingy, stalker-esque' ex lol.
I think the problem was spending everyday with each other for the past year while we have been unemployed, to be honest I think any couple would struggle with that.

[kadzbiz]

darkpenguin, I like probably many on this forum have been in your situation - and survived. Life is a journey. EVERYTHING happens for a reason, even if we don't know what it is just yet. Sometimes people just get together at the wrong time in their life and can actually get back together again down the track, IF it is meant to be. Sometimes people actually get on better as friends. Sometimes the interaction of two people has served its universal purpose and it is time to move on. You can only move on at your own pace and it is very hard to give up on something that YOU believed to be good, or at least, worth trying to hang on to. This is just a quick reply to you. I am happy to talk to you more in depth if you want to PM me. My life changed dramatically after I split up with the girl I eventually was to marry! Life is strange.

[Hema]

Originally Posted by darkpenguin

I would do but I don't want to seem like the 'clingy, stalker-esque' ex lol.
I think the problem was spending everyday with each other for the past year while we have been unemployed, to be honest I think any couple would struggle with that.

What about married folks who see each other every day?

If you don't want to seem clingy, sit her down and tell her that this is the last time you'll ask her. Tell her how much you're hurting and throw in some tears!

If she still doesn't give in, tell her that she leaves you no other choice, you also want to go on with your life and find a woman who will love you the way you love her. You deserve that much.

[FatMan]

I'd tell you to forget about it for a while and go have rambunctious sex with strippers, but then again I like to live vicariously through others

[Terrywoodenpic]

It is very tough to deal with and I am very sorry for you both.
She will be finding it equally tough and may come to regret the break up.
Make sure she knows the door is still open, ant that you know she was not to blamefor what has been a tough time.

Put the time to good use... education... finding work ... improving your self....
These are things we all need to do anyway... and it will help take your mind off things.

Thins always work out in the end... even it is something totally new and unexpected.

Don't cut the ties completely stay friends and let her know you miss her, but that you do understand her position.

[kadzbiz]

Originally Posted by Hema

What about married folks who see each other every day?

If you don't want to seem clingy, sit her down and tell her that this is the last time you'll ask her. Tell her how much you're hurting and throw in some tears!

If she still doesn't give in, tell her that she leaves you no other choice, you also want to go on with your life and find a woman who will love you the way you love her. You deserve that much.

No no no. Don't go bawling your eyes out. Women like sensitive men, but not cry babies who are dependant on the them. They want to know that they have a secure man who can support them, be there for them. And don't go giving her ultimatum's either. If a women choses to be with you, she'll do it because she feels it's right not because she feels like she's been forced into it, and you wouldn't want that either. You want her to be with you because she wants to.

[kadzbiz]

Originally Posted by Terrywoodenpic

.....Put the time to good use... education... finding work ... improving your self....These are things we all need to do anyway... and it will help take your mind off things......

Quite right, but it will still be difficult to keep you mind off her unless you actually change your thinking and this is why you need to understand that it is happening for a very important reason, that you don't know yet. Believe that and you will cope well.

[jacquie4000]

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