Husbands ONLY (mystic, marriage)

[Radio Frequency X]

What is the most important thing about being a Husband? For all those married men out there, what is the most important virtue/role you've learned to play in you marriage?

For me, the hardest and most important aspect of being a husband is understanding and filling my wife's needs.

[Radio Frequency X]

Isn't anyone here married?

[CaptainXeroid]

I voted 'Dealing with my wife's emotional states.'. I guess that could fall under' patience' or 'Trying to under where she's coming from', but the deciding factor was that as a typical guy, I'm able to 'compartmentalize' and get whatever it is done. We seem to have more arguments based on her perception that I am being 'mean' by not pausing long enough to get her over some emotional hurdle.

Back on Jan 21, we celebrated 12 wonderful years, and we love each other bunches. We've learned to laugh a lot and not stay mad at each other very long. Sometimes, that is easier than others.

[Navigator]

If I consider my wifes needs, sincerely, usually the results will encompass the majority of other options.
Usually understanding what she is really saying is , for me, the challenge.

[Radio Frequency X]

Originally Posted by CaptainXeroid

I voted 'Dealing with my wife's emotional states.'. I guess that could fall under' patience' or 'Trying to under where she's coming from', but the deciding factor was that as a typical guy, I'm able to 'compartmentalize' and get whatever it is done. We seem to have more arguments based on her perception that I am being 'mean' by not pausing long enough to get her over some emotional hurdle.

Back on Jan 21, we celebrated 12 wonderful years, and we love each other bunches. We've learned to laugh a lot and not stay mad at each other very long. Sometimes, that is easier than others.

Conrats!!! I'm just short of 2 months with my second wife and I've never been happier - I've also never been so challenged. Her expectations are higher than any woman I've ever met. And my expectations are lower than any man she's been with. So I'm having to learn to higher my expectations and learning to live up to her's.

[doppelgänger]

There are a lot of things on that list that I think are vital and necessary for a healthy marriage. It's hard to pick just one, but I think "understanding where she is coming from" is the key to the others.

[MysticSang'ha]

*peeks in*


For us, I like to think that my needs are considered most. I think that's the case because I tend to have more specific and detailed needs than my hubbie. And therefore, if he keeps paying attention to me and what I like and what I would have no part of, and then acts on those considerations, I feel like a queen.

Originally Posted by Radio Frequency X

Conrats!!! I'm just short of 2 months with my second wife and I've never been happier - I've also never been so challenged. Her expectations are higher than any woman I've ever met. And my expectations are lower than any man she's been with. So I'm having to learn to higher my expectations and learning to live up to her's.

I'm much more high maintenance than my hubbie, and we're both very aware of it. *blushes* But, he's only grumbled about it when he's had a bad day, or we're not seeing eye to eye and forget about not getting personal in our debates. But in the end, he usually assures me that all he wants is to bend over backwards to make me happy.



"Just keep telling me what you need, dumplin'." I love that.



Peace,
Mystic