Respect for other people's feelings (experience)

[tcprowling]

Is respect still a major factor in relationships?
In your current relationship how would you view your partner's continuing mention of Ex Partners and lovers, and of people who have made a casual pass, or an attempt to chat up?
Would you see it as a total disregard of your feelings or
Blunt honesty with in the relationship?
Maybe you see it as Just Idle chit chat>
What say you?

[Ciscokid]

Originally Posted by tcprowling

Is respect still a major factor in relationships?
In your current relationship how would you view your partner's continuing mention of Ex Partners and lovers, and of people who have made a casual pass, or an attempt to chat up?
Would you see it as a total disregard of your feelings or
Blunt honesty with in the relationship?
Maybe you see it as Just Idle chit chat>
What say you?

In my opinion, when you establish a relationship with a lover, mentioning past relationships is a no-no unless they would bring it up and even then I don't give much detail. I give respect to my girlfriend by not staring at the bumping parts of girls bodies.

Now I have told her that I have a crush on Julia Louis Dreyfus but that's as far as I go.

[Engyo]

Originally Posted by tcprowling

Is respect still a major factor in relationships?
In your current relationship how would you view your partner's continuing mention of Ex Partners and lovers, and of people who have made a casual pass, or an attempt to chat up?
Would you see it as a total disregard of your feelings or
Blunt honesty with in the relationship?
Maybe you see it as Just Idle chit chat>
What say you?

Pretty hard to analyze from the outside through teh screen, but it sounds like someone is fishing for some sort of reaction or other. can't exactly say which one, though.

[tcprowling]

Originally Posted by Engyo

Pretty hard to analyze from the outside through teh screen, but it sounds like someone is fishing for some sort of reaction or other. can't exactly say which one, though.

Oops this is not a personal question just one for general comment to see what other's think

[twirlybirdy]

I think its ok, and respect is a major part of a relationship. Without respect how are you goign to get along with other people

[lizskid]

I do not see respect displayed too often any more, it seems, when relationships are on a surface level, certainly. Even when they are supposedly deeper, it seems that one is "ok" with cheating or treating the other person in a disrespectful manner, through language or physical actions. It is sad. We see it spilling over to the children who are modeling what they see at home time and time again.

In terms of my personal life, I think respect of the other person is paramount, and I try to act like that. I also want to be respected, and that includes honesty, and I greet it with honesty. I would much rather talk something out than worry later about who knew what. I never see exes, so that's not an issue, but I also don't have a problem with someone I'm with having normal contact with exes either.

[dawny0826]

Is respect still a major factor in relationships?

I think it is in healthy relationships.

In your current relationship how would you view your partner's continuing mention of Ex Partners and lovers, and of people who have made a casual pass, or an attempt to chat up?

I'm the one, actually who does most of the talking about ex partners and lovers and have actually had conversations within recent years with an ex love.

I'm very open and honest with my husband. I always have been. He knows precisely how many people I've seen and been with and when an ex boyfriend popped up out of the blue to say hi and e-mailed me...my husband was well aware. We talked about it. I talked to him about this guy and our history.

Would you see it as a total disregard of your feelings or
Blunt honesty with in the relationship?

I wouldn't mind Craig chatting w/ people from his past...at all. He's always been more than welcome to talk about ex girlfriends. I prefer blunt honesty over secrets any day and we know each other well enough to know what the others intentions are.

Maybe you see it as Just Idle chit chat>

I think you can really learn a lot from others by hearing them out about their past experiences as no doubt their past experiences have contributed to who they are at present. I'm a very open person. I want to know what's going on in the head of my lover.

[tcprowling]

To me I like to think that I keep my partner's feelings at the forefront I try not to willingly hurt their feelings but unfortunately being hurt either by deliberate words or actions or intentional deeds are part and parcel of any relationship. Then there's the perception factor or reading more into something that's not there. This is extremely prevelant in Cyber or long distance relationships. So IMO the mention of exs is definitely a no no it opens the door for all sorts of problems.
As A male, the mention of ex lovers or partners would be like you were being continously held up to comparson. I would let it go for a while treating it as a part of my partners past but if it continued I would start and take it personally, then I would say something to let her know that " hey I am not comfortable woth hearing all about your exs". If it continued then I would class it as deliberate lacking of respect towards me. I would take a serious look at my relationship.