Spirit of rejection

[Heneni]

There has been many threads lately about demons and satan. But id like to focus on particular spirits. Familiar spirits for one, like to stay in families and one of those is the spirit of rejection.

I'll start by giving you a list of posible situation that could lead to the spirit of rejection operating in someone's life.

1. Fathers who dont show love and affection to their daughters, prompting them to search for comfort and approval from other men

2. Loss of identity due to comparing and competing brothers and sisters

3. Mothers who fail to nurture their families, leaving a great void that is passed to future generations.

4. Fathers who dont validate their sons, causing them to look for approval elsewhere, rarely finding it and the son is left growing up insecure.

5. Fathers and mothers who dont give their children enough quality time, so the children grow up with a diminished sense of personal value.

6. Sexual abuse followed by the rejection of the abuser for the abused.

It is not hard to see how children who grow up with an element of rejection in their lives, have many difficult hurdles to get over when they become adults.

The person who has been rejected feels somehow less worthy, unvalued, useless, depressed. Their behaviour ranges anything from complete withdrawel from society due to the fact that they feel they are not really part of it, never feeling part of the world of their mothers and fathers either, to the complete opposite, which is someone who wants to be in the limelight, fearing that the light will go off, and the attention will fade.

The spirit of rejection started its journey way back in the garden, when adam and eve rejected the command of god.

There is a lot to learn from how they dealt with it. They hid themselves, like most people who feel rejected do. Some want to fade into the woodworks lest their shame of being rejected be known, most become really good at covering themselves up with fig leaves.

The spirit of rejection is a spirit which has, in my opinion the most damaging consequences on society. Rejection causes hurt...and hurt..as i will describe later...leads to pride and pride leads to a fall.


Heneni

[Heneni]

Words from Erich Fromm...

Today we come across and individual who behaves like an automaton, who does not know or understand himself, and the only person that he knows is the person that he is suppose to be, whose meaningless chatter has replaced communicative speech, whoose synthetic smile has replaced genuine laughter, and whose sense of dull despair has taken the place of genuine pain. Two statements may be said concerning this individual. One is that he suffers from defects of spontaneity and individuality which seems to be incurable. At the same time it may be said of him he does not differ essentially from the millions of the rest of us who walk upon this earth.


He sums the human condition up quite well i think. And its closely related to the spirit of rejection.

[Heneni]

Pride and unbelief is birthed when the spirit of rejection enters the life of someone.

The person who has been rejected feels that they need constant assurance that they are not as bad as they feel. Looking for approval from others is overwhelming....though they will deny that they care about the very people who they seek approval from.

Very often, when a person has found a group of friends where they feel accepted...they dont trust the fellowship of those they spend their time with.

Giving love and feeling love is a huge hurdle.

When someone has been hurt by rejection, any critisism will be met with hostility. Critisism is seen as an attempt to make them feel even worse about themselves than they already do.

Rebellion sets in. And in order to continue such a rebellion the person has to cut himself of from healthy emotions. They have to kill the person inside...its the only way to not feel the hurt.

Eventually there is very little that can make entrance into the heart of the rejected, having killed their heart, they only depend on survival by hurting those who hurt them...it becomes the survival of 'me' at the expense of loving anybody else. Ironically what they crave is love and acceptance.

[Charity]

I experienced rejection from my dad as a young child. I've had to battle the effects in left on my life since childhood so I know the feelings that accompany this.

[Wandered Off]

Originally Posted by Heneni

There has been many threads lately about demons and satan. But id like to focus on particular spirits. Familiar spirits for one, like to stay in families and one of those is the spirit of rejection.

Just a minor question out of curiosity... When you use the term "spirit" in this context, do you mean some kind of other-worldly entity or is it just a sort of personification of a mood or pattern of behavior?

[Heneni]

I'm sorry to hear that charity..

The spirit of rejection is i believe the root and doorway for many other spirits to enter. One of those is the spirit of self-mutilation.

Fighting the fear of having to give in to the notion that there is indeed nothing that would lead someone else to like them, they start hating themselves, for not being able to 'fit' in. The spirit of rejection does not only make a person feel rejected themselves, but makes them reject others as well. But the constant desire to feel wanted is in conflict with the spirit of rejection. They want to be accepted, but reject others, hate themselves for not being able to make connections with others yet breaking the connections they desire. All of this leads to a person wanting to mutilate themselves.

Self-mutilation takes the form of hurting oneself. It can be anything from overeating, to hating your own body, not wanting to look in the mirror, cutting oneself, or attempting and contemplating suicide often, hitting yourself with objects, intense feelings of frustration. There are many more, but i cant think of them now.

Depression is common in people who have been rejected. The basic need for a person to be validated, appraciated, accepted and nurtured is in conflict with the working of the spirit of rejection in their lives. The body and mind respond to this conflict by being tired all the time, having little if any enthusiasm for daily activities. The depression is a physical manifestation of an inner conflict that is not being resolved.

[Charity]

Yes Heneni, I have fought depression for several years and I have no doubt it originated from early rejection. I'm doing better with it now, thankfully.....

[Heneni]

Originally Posted by Wandered Off

Just a minor question out of curiosity... When you use the term "spirit" in this context, do you mean some kind of other-worldly entity or is it just a sort of personification of a mood or pattern of behavior?

Its an evil spirit. Not talking about full blown demon possession though. One cannot deliver oneself from demon possesion. Unless the demon is cast out by various ways which im not going to get into detail in this thread, but an individual can do 'things' to make the evil spirit go away....

Its what the bible calls...the principalities of the air. Some would say they affect your aura. They are like gremlins on your back, weighing you down and making your journey harder and sometimes just plainly intolerable. They affect your mood and pattern of behaviour.