an anarchist
Your local anarchist.
TLDR: do you have friends, as an adult? Or do you not?
Growing up, I noticed that all the adults in my life had little to no friends. Like, they only hung out with family really. As a kid, I resolved in my head that that would not be the case for me when I grew up. I would have plenty of friends and always be hanging out and not be a boring adult.
Presently, I am a boring adult with no friends who I hang out with. I'll spend time with fam and the significant other, but das it.
When I was fresh out of high school, I was completely different. I was always a loner growing up, not cause I wanted to, but because people were averted by my presence. Weird kid, ya know? But halfway through highschool I found a group of friends who I grew really really close with and got along with well. After high school we all worked the same restaurant and lived together as well. Best of friends ya know? And we were always throwing parties having the whole restaurant crew roll thru the pad with all the booze and the like.
But no more.
Those friends really hurt me in many ways that I'll keep to myself. And that has destroyed my capacity to make new friends. It's been years now, and I still haven't made new friends.
I'll have the desire, and when I try with someone, it doesn't last I lose interest and it takes too much energy. Nowadays I'm not that weird kid I learnt some social skills so many many people want to be my friend, especially at work. I straight up tell them I don't have friends, cause like they'll text me and I won't respond cause I don't do that and they're like wtf and I have to explain to them that it's nothing personal. I'll show them my messages with like 20 other people who texted me that I ignored. And I'll tell em that I don't do friends.
I'm as close to some of you guys as I am with my coworkers. That's not saying I'm particularly close to some of you, rather, that I'm distant from the people that I've been working with for years now.
I have a significant other though. Part of me was surprised that my capacity to be in a romantic relationship wasn't destroyed by my ex-wife, in similar fashion to my capacity to making friends being destroyed. But I've always been a romantic.
How about you? Do you have friends in your adult life? Or not so much anymore?
Growing up, I noticed that all the adults in my life had little to no friends. Like, they only hung out with family really. As a kid, I resolved in my head that that would not be the case for me when I grew up. I would have plenty of friends and always be hanging out and not be a boring adult.
Presently, I am a boring adult with no friends who I hang out with. I'll spend time with fam and the significant other, but das it.
When I was fresh out of high school, I was completely different. I was always a loner growing up, not cause I wanted to, but because people were averted by my presence. Weird kid, ya know? But halfway through highschool I found a group of friends who I grew really really close with and got along with well. After high school we all worked the same restaurant and lived together as well. Best of friends ya know? And we were always throwing parties having the whole restaurant crew roll thru the pad with all the booze and the like.
But no more.
Those friends really hurt me in many ways that I'll keep to myself. And that has destroyed my capacity to make new friends. It's been years now, and I still haven't made new friends.
I'll have the desire, and when I try with someone, it doesn't last I lose interest and it takes too much energy. Nowadays I'm not that weird kid I learnt some social skills so many many people want to be my friend, especially at work. I straight up tell them I don't have friends, cause like they'll text me and I won't respond cause I don't do that and they're like wtf and I have to explain to them that it's nothing personal. I'll show them my messages with like 20 other people who texted me that I ignored. And I'll tell em that I don't do friends.
I'm as close to some of you guys as I am with my coworkers. That's not saying I'm particularly close to some of you, rather, that I'm distant from the people that I've been working with for years now.
I have a significant other though. Part of me was surprised that my capacity to be in a romantic relationship wasn't destroyed by my ex-wife, in similar fashion to my capacity to making friends being destroyed. But I've always been a romantic.
How about you? Do you have friends in your adult life? Or not so much anymore?